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Time Enough For Love
Time Enough For Love
Those who know me know I have a great love for Robert Heinlein and I borrow this title from him in respect and honor. He was a friend and philosophical guide for me and I owe him a great deal, thus I expound on this title here for it holds meaning for us all.
How many times have we all heard “Well, I just don’t have the time right now”? Is it just me or is this one of the biggest cop-outs that you can hear? It smacks of a disorganization and lack of flexibility that we should never have. It precludes all spontaneity and adventure and to me that is the spice of life. And if the line is ever used in the context of love, sex, marriage, relationships or friendships, then the crime is ten fold.
Love is more than just a feeling. For me love is a philosophy that one has to live to the best of ones ability. It is beyond time and it is more that sex, it is an overriding view of the world and a compassionate one at that.
I will give you an example. Love is taking the time to listen when someone is hurting. Love is dropping whatever you are doing and helping where you can, be it because someone has a flat tire on the side of the road, or someone is crying out for help. Love is calling on the phone and asking “How’s you day going” or making dinner or holding a hand. Love is anything that lets others know that you are not just a passenger on the road of life, but an active participant.
Love is taking the time to do something for yourself. Find the time for that bubble bath or walk or long drive. For I find it is love for yourself that will set your mind at ease. I am not talking narcissism, but a healthy self-respect that enables you to do things you like and enjoy without self-recriminations. You should love yourself after all, because if you don’t how could you love another or others.
For me time is not always passing. I mean it is, but there is a priority to your life and love need to take time to be a priority. Do you really want to be blogging when there is someone you can be loving? Do you really want to need to get everything done now when there is something that is better for you to be doing? Does the day to day bump and grind really have to grind you down every day? Could we be better people if love and loving became a higher priority in our lives?
In a comment in an earlier blog entry someone wrote, “Love can never be divided, to can only be multiplied.” Yes, this is truer than some would believe. The next statement I am about to make is going to shock some, but for me it is true. I know I have the capacity to love infinitely. I know I can love someone or many someone’s with an intensity that would not seem possible to others.
I love my daughter more than anything else in the world. When I find my special someone, I will love her as much as I love my daughter, though in a different manner. When I make a true friend, I love them in a way that you could not stop me from helping them if they were in need. And, were I to find two special people, I could love them both and equally and differently. For no two loves are the same and all loves are good and all loves are powerful. Is there a priority here? I would have to say only one, and that is the love for my daughter, for she will always come first in all things in my life, but that does not mean the others are any less important, it is just if pressed I would place her love above all the rest. But then again how could I not. For not placing her above the others would infer a lack of love for self, for she is me in her own unique way.
To love others in a personal way is to realize that all loves are indeed different. Is there any rule that would disallow one person from loving many people. The law may say you cannot marry more than one person, but this may not be realistic for some people who know and acknowledge love in the forms it can take.
So, how can I love so many people? I make the time to do it and let my heart reveal itself to them. I bare my heart and honesty as best I can and let time run it magic path and hope that the seeds of sincerity are well planted and that the love I give is returned. Time is the field where we grow love. Time is the water of that love. Time is the source of loves’ strength. Love grows.
There was an occultist named Alistair Crowley who wrote this in the book “The Law”, "Love under will shall be the whole of the Law…” and this is an essential lesson for all of us to understand. (There is more to this line but would recommend the reading. It is enlightening in many respects.) For love to flow it takes time to carry it forward.
So, make time for love. Learn to recognize the opportunities for love when you see them, for they are sometimes subtle and strange. Then clear you agenda and spend time on love, you will not be disappointed.
Note: The Icon I have selected is from the book “To Sail Beyond The Sunset” by Robert Heinlein. It is a depiction of “Mama Maureen”, a true lover. And if Robert were alive, I think he would agree that she would agree with what I just wrote.
7/6/2005 8:54 am
It can be confusing at times.... I love my daughter... I love my deceased husband... I love my parents.... I love my best friend.... and I am falling in love beyond all expectations with a man. All, though, with varying degrees of love. I love my daughter and parents and best friend; however, it isn't the intimate love that I would have with the man I am falling in love with. Some of it is just a spiritual love that is guided by only the heart. I would do anything for the people I love in my life...but with the man I love, it would certainly be on a more intimate level - far above all expectations. This level of intimacy I would only share with one man at a time. This intimacy isn't necessarily just love, but a by-product and result of the love that is being nurtured and grows day by day....and strangely enough the intimacy allows the bonding of that love between those two people to explode.|
It is a difficult thing to explain about love, your love for others, and the love for the one person that you are most intimate with. Love is a splended thing that is unmatched by any other emotions.
7/6/2005 8:57 am
Thank you - more than I could ever honestly put into words .......|
7/6/2005 3:50 pm
Oh Dude... again you pull from the master and say what is true and in such an eloquent way that even RH would be grinning at you. Love is... not to be quantified or catagorized... it is and it grows and those who get it should need it, and those who need it should get it. And you know the rest I would say if I were not blogging and it wouldn't sound like a Bud Lite commerical.. But you're my best friend and brother and I do love you, man! (stifled sniffle)|