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I write what I feel, usually when I feel it and this I am writing now. Call it a suspicious mind, and maybe I am off base, but I hate it when things don’t add up. Little things for me when they are not right tend to niggle at my mind and I just have to know what is really going on.
This is the case today. I have things in my head, and when I remember, I dissect the situation and I look at it very closely. Things like inconsistency, incomplete information, lack of responses or responses unexpected spin in my brain and drive me on. You see it is all a puzzle, and my mind likes puzzles. Sometimes that is not so good.
Today it is a puzzle over an acquaintance and what is his true intent may be and where are things going. I have been given a lot of information (I am not going to get into specifics) but it does not seem to all add up. Certain actions are inconsistent with what I know is SOP, stories and time lines are not plausible and also not to SOP, and worst of all I get the feeling I am being lied to. This may be the worst part of all of it.
I would love to confront the person with all this “circumstantial evidence” but I hate to when important things are on the line. If I had proof that would be different, but for lack of proof I hold my tongue. I guess I can only hint at what I know and try to draw out the truth.
I hate this game, I really do. I guess that is why I value my relationships be as open and honest as possible because to turn my puzzle minded brain on loved ones would be real torture.
What do you do when your puzzle brain grips a puzzle it can’t solve?
8/30/2005 7:06 pm
well the ex wife shows these very same signs all the time....|
you know what we do????
we don't believe her unless verified by a 3rd party or documentation is provided.....
thing is she is usually making a request when behaving in such a manner....so until anything is proven the standard answer is no.....she hears no! a hell of a lot.....should just get a record for her and scratch it up might make our life a little easier
we learnt that lesson the hard way....there are some people who are incapable of telling the truth and she is one of them....even when backed into a corner it still isn't the truth she just changes the story.....the only time we hear the truth is from 3rd parties involved...
8/31/2005 5:36 pm
I'm a huge fan of confrontation. Usually (but not always) in the most gentle "I'm sure it's just me, but these things don't add up..." sort of way. This gives the other person a chance to come clean, or clarify what may well be MY skewed view...or it puts them on notice if they really are lying. It's like telling them you're on to 'em.|