Look At Him  

rm_harshawj 51M
761 posts
8/31/2005 11:37 am

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Look At Him

First off, I am not gay, and I know that as I have done my exploring in that area and I know that it is not for me. But following up on the last entry “Wolf Call”, I got to thinking that the ubiquitous whistle hear at construction site is really a form of male appreciation. But here was the thought, can a man appreciate a man in the same or similar way?

I would bet that while women are jealous of each other in regards to looks, there is a bit of appreciation between women about those looks. For example, I do not hear or see any problem between women who remark on other women. It is not considered gay or perverted, it just seems to be accepted. But for men that is different. Why?

I will go on record as to say that I admired a man for his looks recently. He was a strong man of Navaho descent and had all the powerful attributes of Native Americans. He was very impressive in stature and I would say that looking at him most women would have drooled all over themselves to get to know him, he was that impressive. I was impressed. Does this make me gay?

To that I would have to say no. He impressed me on a physical level in terms of his physique, but not sexually. You can (or at least I would hope) have an appreciation for the human body regardless of gender. I grew up with this notion instilled by my parents and I think it was good. But if I tell my friends or acquaintances about this I risk being mocked as gay. I know, I tried and it was laughed at. I got “He’s a ‘Pretty Man’ man” or “You gay man?” or such till I explained.

I would have to say that it is a matter of insecurity in ones own gender role that prompts such remarks from others. Not mine, their insecurity. They do not know how to handle it so lash out at what they would see as a flaw in themselves if they appraised one in their own gender like this. But do women have the same issues? I do not know.


handy9466 54M
2 posts
8/31/2005 5:00 pm

WoW, Heavy Dude, I think you hitn the nail on the head, as a male surfer, I see other surfers in the water, that quite frankly (As a woman would say A HUNK), it even inspiresd me to take better care of my health, with regular exersize and health diet, not that I thought of any other very atractive male in a sexual nature only to inspire my life style for the better. That's NOT Gay, but you are right , there are friends of mine they would think Gay. I LOVE WOMEN!!
Good BLOG!!


lushgirl69 49F

9/1/2005 6:09 am

I think that it goes to upbringing in regard to roles as well asa very primitve instinct with women. If little girls are raised with positive and encouraging ideas and words about themselves from the time they begin to socialize with others, I think there is a much smaller percentage of those who will be intimidated by other girls. Now if a chick has reached puberty and had a bigger share of critisism or negative reinforcement of their physical appearance, they are more likely to lash out and be "catty" to other women they perceive to have better qualities......Add on top of the the basic drive of the female to get the best male in the tribe, it can become a nasty competitive issue....
I have always appeciated the beauty in other women, but being bi-sexual slightly biases me on the topic.....I don't think there is the same level of discomfort in our acknowledgement of it, as ther is in men......that is a shame....Men have such nice bodies and it's a shame that the homophobic standards of society shape the way we relate to others so often....I have one guy that I see occassionally, and while he can hold his own as far as equipment, he is intrigued by the thought of how I would look with a huge cock sliding down my throat....there is an inate appreciation for the size issue there....


sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
9/2/2005 7:03 am

I will be the first to show my appreciation for the male species. The photo does show someone that would make me look twice, but then does he have what it takes to keep my attention. Looks are not everything no matter how good they are.


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