rm_harshawj 51M
761 posts
10/5/2005 8:46 pm

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If all the things I hate, the very worst one is a liar. I have written about my three types, but above and beyond the other two is the liar.

I was thinking today about a woman that I had dated after my recent separation. She was telling me all kinds of things, things that just did not add up. Once she told me she was working late. I did not like the tone of her voice and something told me to go by her place. I did, she was home. I called, she said she had gotten sick, so went home anyway. Busted. There was no way she would have beat me to her home from work. This started the deadly cycle.

The deadly cycle you ask? Yep, the deadly cycle. From that point on I listened to the little voice within and when it said she was not being truthful I had to check it.

Now, just because someone lied to me once does not mean they will lie again. I know that sometimes people have their reasons and they may indeed be personal and not to be shared, even with a lover. But there comes a time where you should be able to tell your partner anything and it should be alright. If the truth is hurtful then it can be forgiven, but it at least it is out in the open.

So I called her on the first fib and she made up an excuse. It was almost certainly a lie, but I would not gainsay it there and then, I just let it pass. I caught her on several more and then started to wonder how many more lies I had been fed that I did not catch. That pretty much ended the relationship.

Lying, the fastest and surest way to end a relationship quick, and not in a pretty manner either.

lushgirl69 49F

10/6/2005 5:18 pm

I hate dishonesty as well....It tears apart the one thing that really binds us to one I have been on both sides of it and gave up the idea that it makes anything any easier...too many details to keep up with...too many issues...I just walk away now...It's better than the creeping sensation on the back of my neck.

sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
10/9/2005 11:58 pm

i would hope that if you are in a relationship that is strong, honesty is what is called for. If a truth hurts the person you are with, a lie would be twice as painful when the truth comes out. Besides, I find it easier to just tell the truth from the start, then you don't have to remember what you told someone if the questions come up again, the truth is the easiest thing to remember.

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