How long do you wait, part II  

rm_harshawj 51M
761 posts
6/17/2005 7:02 pm

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How long do you wait, part II

OK, I bet I got a bunch of people thinking it was waiting for sex. So, then, how long do you wait before having sex? Are you the meet and wham bam in the sack? Or are you the type of person that like the build up?

So I will answer this question first for you. There has only been one time in my life that I have met someone face to face for the first time and was in bed with them doing the deed that night. With the one exception, I have always waited after meeting someone for the first time from a few days (three days if I recall) to waiting for over two years before having intimate relations.

My current lover was the meet and deed woman and I am happy to say that we are happier and happier each time we meet. The lover before her I met and it was eight months before we realized each other in that intimate manner. Before her it was a month and a half of getting to know her before we settled into bed.

I am not a promiscuous man, rather I am particular about who I am intimate with. (Needless to say it took me by surprise when my current lover and I ended up in bed, caught up in the heady moment of passion. Hell, I only had one condom, not my usual quota.) I feel that the intimate build up is so much fun that when it does happen there is an abandon that accompanies it and it is so much better.

So, how long do you wait before being intimate?

Side question: I once heard someone say that sex is never better than the first time you do it with a new partner. What do you think of this?


1playfulgal 39F
1828 posts
6/17/2005 9:10 pm

i don't believe that...for me sex is usually the worst the first time and it gets better and better each time until it hits a plateau...for really good sex...a knowledge of the other person's body and what makes it tick is essential...


rm_ptprincess 41F

6/19/2005 6:41 am

how long do i wait... good question, it really depends.. with one person i had a great connection the day we met, i was on vacation after a few months of talking to him on line, we met, and we spent the first whole day together... it was really fabulous, but at the end, i still wanted to wait for the next day to be intimate...

same with my current lover, we clicked the night we met but i wanted to wait for the next time we saw each other.. just something about pacing yourself maybe? lol... the non-physical connection is important to me...

that being said i have met someone and gotten caught up and wild and crazy that night... and that was the only time we saw each other... it fizzled after that...

interesting question - the first time - for me most times it's not the best at all... one exception - where we were so hot for each other that the first time feel into place well, and all the others of our short lived affair, we seemed out of sync... but besides that, it seems to get better and better over time...


patsam69 51M/51F

6/19/2005 1:29 pm

sex gets better and better the longer you are with someone. The first time you don't know what someone likes or dislikes. It takes time to get into a groove. My husband and I have been together for 20 years...and the sex still gets better!


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