Divorced or Single  

rm_harshawj 51M
761 posts
1/12/2006 9:06 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Divorced or Single

I don’t know if I have written about this, but what do you put down as your “status” after you are divorced? Are you “divorced” or are you “single”? Are you “widowed” or are you “single”?

I mean there is a real reason that I ask. If you categorize yourself as divorced or widowed are you not just carrying on a torch that no longer exists? Ok, so you have the life experience of being married, does that automatically put us into these categories? What if the marriage was only a year, or a month and you got a divorce early on, would you want to be a divorcee? Is there an advantage to “being divorced” or “being widowed”. I can not see where that makes us divorcees or widow/ers and better off.

But that part of life is now over and maybe we learned a thing or two, but should we morn the marriage by carrying the title? After all we are single now and supposedly moving on with our lives. So why not call yourself single and be done with it. Is it necessary to advertise that part of your life.

So, when people ask me now what my status is, I tell them I was married and now I am single. I think it is a healthier way to look at things. As a new single man I have put behind me all the crap that was in the marriage and admitted that it is time to move on and be a free, single person again.

Viva la singles!


1/12/2006 9:22 pm


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sincitybrunette 55F
1668 posts
1/13/2006 10:07 pm

I think this one just depends on you. If you feel divorced, so be it, single..thats good too. I pick and choose how I answer that one by the situation I am in....

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