What does your marriage say about you?  

happygirl68 48F
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3/21/2006 8:47 am

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3/23/2006 5:07 am

What does your marriage say about you?

My marriage is an open marriage. It has been open for the last 4 years. This topic often comes up in IM conversations, in emails, and even appears in the blogs. I know I'm not alone, You've seen it, you've read about it, you may know someone in it, maybe you've lived it. As with every marriage it has it's own pro and cons. One of the biggest pros I've learned is, my marriage no longer has secrets. It has no longer has off limit topics. It allows us to share, feel, and talk about anything. I'd say that's a pretty big pro. It wasn't always this way, but it has evolved. It is what works for us. It's not for everybody. It comes with it's up and downs, just like any other marriage. It has rules and boundaries. So now by stating this one simple thing about me, let's see what kind of responses it creates. You know if you've read this far, you want to say something.

9and1halfweeks 51M

3/22/2006 4:42 am

Re: want to say something...we all have that urge...but, It seams like you have gathered much wisdom in your travels, and it shows that you care about people, and yourself...........I think I will just listen (the hardest feat for ALL MEN!).......lol..

happygirl68 replies on 3/22/2006 8:16 am:
That's kinda cheating, but at least you responded. And listening - keep up the good work. lol

Mr_pkg 51M

3/22/2006 8:10 am

Somewhat in line with the preceding comment, I guess I have less to say and more of an urge to ask questions.

What are the rules which you and your husband follow (I understand that your set of rules might not be applicable to every open marriage but they are undoubtedly worth being considered by most)?

What kind of problems posed the most difficulty for the two of you in this "venture?"

And, do you have any general advice for those just "starting out?"

We are just starting down that road and would like to see how others have gotten where they are.

happygirl68 replies on 3/23/2006 5:12 am:
All are good questions. Our #1 rule is we have to be in agreement. Problems - jealousy and selfishness come to mind. Advice - I'm no expert, but the key is alot of communication. Good luck and thanks for responding.

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