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"Hello, Crisis Central...can I help you?"
Just another typical Monday at the office. I work as an engineer, and for whatever the reason, the crisis is always on Monday. And usually around 8AM or so. Someone can't go do field work for this reason...someone's truck broke down...this one is running late.
And of course, the "spiritual encounter" with "God incarnate" of the office. And I don't mean Jesus Christ Himself. Sux a little when you work with the boss' son sometimes...he thinks he knows all there is to know about surveying and engineering.
So that's my Monday in a nutshell...solving crisis after crisis. Exhausting work, really, and my to-do list just keeps getting longer. There is an underlying point in all of this:
As a man, you can't be "God incarnate" and expect people to like you. Arrogance gets you absolutely nowhere! If anything, arrogance turns more people off to you than on to you. I consider one of the male visitors to the chat a friend, and he wrote an excellent piece on his blog about confidence. You can't be a whiner and expect people to like you...it becomes a sticking point of people beginning to think "is this person good enough for me...worthy of my attention". The same is true for arrogance...with a twist. The thought is then "am I good enough for him/her" and gets read by the arrogant one as "they aren't good enough for me!"
There's a fine line between arrogance and confidence. A quiet confident spirit will win out over a loud-mouth arrogant type any day. Never confuse confidence for arrogance.
A lesson I know I need to learn sometimes myself!
5/7/2006 12:44 pm
Hammer! I didn't know you had a blog here...and this is so true that I used to have it in my profile, but I definitely need to practice what I preach on this one more myself. A man who is quietly confident is just, mmmmmmuch more attractive than a cocky, arrogant type. |
I think it's all about self confidence and maturity - letting people find out about you and finding out about them versus blindly wanting everyone to love you just because you're there.
What do you think?
1/31/2006 3:42 am
I have always loved that line and it is so true!|