Call me totally confused.  

hammertime887 44M
105 posts
5/2/2006 5:47 pm

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12/6/2006 12:33 pm

Call me totally confused.

I am not exactly sure what to think.

Ladies, question for you. What truly constitutes a man being a "player"? Is it fair to assess a man as such when he simply chats socially with other folks, like in a group setting at a bar or club? Or does the line get crossed when "other things" start to happen (like the scheduling of dates, exchanging phone #'s, and the like)?

I know that I am not a player. I do believe I may have lost a friend through what was perceived as such, but really wasn't. But it draws the question into my mind for certain as to whether or not I really am?

I like to frequent the chat room...I've made a lot of social friends there (men and women alike). Is it wrong to continue to talk with social friends in there if you make an even slightly deeper than social connection with someone else? Even if you've never met that person face to face yet?

Just bothers me. It doesn't make sense...

whymustuknow 50F

5/8/2006 6:08 pm

Hammer sweetie, you are NOT a player. A player is someone who strings several women along, allowing them to think that they are the only one. A players lies and cheats. Simply talking to one's friends in or out of the chatroom while persuing a new lady friend, does not make you or anyone else a player. Just be honest! And if a woman can't handle you conversing with others, then it is HER problem and not yours!!

toomuchtwo31 41F
14 posts
5/7/2006 12:36 pm

go with your gut hammer. people show you who they are if you're looking.

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