Where is the sex?  

halfmmmgoodnova 50M
79 posts
9/7/2006 3:16 pm

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9/10/2006 9:39 am

Where is the sex?

A recent reader of one of my posting made a comment about the time I spent on the posting and how I could of used the time to write something to do with sex. I guess as this is an adult website, so that is a valid point. Out of my 11 or so postings, only one was of a sexual nature.

So, why no sex writings? It is probably for a number of reasons. First, as my wife is not around and I have a temporary roommate that reminds me of my mother, so I feel very non-sexual. I don’t have the luxury of stripping down, popping in a porn and taking care of myself like I would like to. Sure, I have my own room, but the apartment is not very big, so I don’t feel that I can truly express myself. I would call my current situation, “controlled horniness” meaning I’m horny, but am in control of it as I have no outlet at home or out of the home. As most single guys can probably attest to, I have had little interest in my profile on AdultFriendFinder and when I scan other ads, the beautiful words, “NO SINGLE MALES” litter the ads of couples despite them saying in their profile that men interest them. The ones that are interested in guys usually want a guy whose father was a horse.

The only sexual thing I get from AdultFriendFinder is to watch the occasional video with the sound down (when roomie is in her room). This tends to be a crap shoot as most of the couples cams usually end up being a guy with a camera focused on his crotch. This is especially annoying when there is a pic of a really hot woman on the profile. Talk about false advertising!

Another reason for the lack of sex in my posting is probably the fact that I write a lot of my stuff during boring parts of the day at work. I don’t like to be writing at work with a hard on. When I write or read about sex, it turns me on. I generally stick to writing about safe and pop culture things while at work. I always had the desire to write and feel that I have a good mind and imagination for it…I’m just not always good at transferring my thoughts to words. I write at work when bored to help make the day pass and to also use spellcheck.

A third reason is that I don’t think men (in general) are good at writing in an erotic way. There is truly a difference in the way women and men think and I think when women write erotica, there is something very special about it. They make sex sound like the beautiful thing it is even when they write about it in a crude way. Men tend to write in the Penthouse Forum format, “I never thought this would happen to me…..”. I’m not saying that men cannot write something sexy, it is just that in general, we are not wired that way. Maybe I’m totally off base and women feel the opposite way. I don’t know, I can only offer my opinion. I noticed that when I did write a sex story, I received no comments, so maybe I am not one of the gifted ones or no one knew what to say. It reminds me of something a friend of mine once said about talking his wife in to a WMW threesome…”sure it would be great, but what do I do or say when she goes down on the other woman? Do it honey, you look great? That sounds too weird to say to the mother of my child.” Point is, what kind of comment can you really make to a sex story. Part of the reason I write is to get people to read and comment. If I write something sexual and no one comments, I’ve failed in my mission.

Going back to the start up question, why blog on AdultFriendFinder if I’m not writing about sex? Well, honestly, I like the freedom. I can write anything about anybody withour censorship. I know in recent weeks I’ve read about people leaving the site to go elsewhere to write and I can respect that. I wouldn’t mind writing somewhere else, but for now, I like being on here because of the wide range of blogs I can read and I guess I’ll stick with it. There is also the potential of a nice couple seeing my ad and inviting me over (I said I was “controlled horny” not dead)!

absolutelynormal 56F
6563 posts
9/7/2006 8:11 pm

I beg to differ with you... check out... danteszippo

ProtonicMan 48M

9/7/2006 8:50 pm


I didn't mean to give you grief about the lack of sex writing in your previous post. That was just a tongue-in-cheek comment.

Anyway, good blog.


halfmmmgoodnova 50M
43 posts
9/8/2006 3:37 am

I didn't see it has grief but a good question to write about. It was a valid point.

halfmmmgoodnova 50M
43 posts
9/8/2006 3:39 am

I said it was just my opinion...Dante does seem to have the "gift", it made me horny

rm_julia9102 47F
1 post
9/9/2006 8:29 pm

I think your blog is different in a good way...and can be quite funny!

frangipanigal 45F
10406 posts
9/10/2006 2:25 am

If we only talked about sex in our blog, my blog would be near to empty!!

Keep blogging about what ever the hell you want!!

Frangi x

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