If you don't have one, then chances are you ARE that friend.
She's the girl you go do things with on weekends. You talk to her on the phone. She's never too busy to make time for you...
Until she finds a boyfriend.
Suddenly, she's the invisible woman. You try to make plans with her and she waffles. Maybe she can make the girls' night out, maybe not. Daniel might want to go to the crawfish boil downtown. The day comes and she doesn't answer the phone, only to call you the next day to say her phone died.
Likely story.
Life goes on. New things move in to fill the hole she left in your life. You find someone else to go to the movies with. Maybe you even find a boyfriend. You get used to not having her around then suddenly...one day...
Your phone rings. It's her. She and Daniel didn't work out. Turns out he got tired of her centering her life around him. He felt suffocated. He needed some space. So now she's single again and ready to party.
Only...you don't have time for her now. But you remember how it felt when she blew you off, so you do your best to rearrange your life to fit her in. Your new boyfriend is understanding because, of course, you never really centered your life around him in the first place. You knew the importance of maintaining separate interests. You knew that dropping everything to wrap your world up in him would only make BOTH of you feel suffocated.
Once again you get used to your girls' nights out. You actually start to enjoy having your friend back. But then, inevitably, it happens. One night she meets someone. They start going out and soon your friend is once again...
Invisible.
No big deal. You miss her, but you resume life as it was before. Only this time you not only have a boyfriend but you make new friends. Couple friends. As a group, you start doing all the fun things you used to do with your friend. Your life is...perfect. But then, one day, like clockwork, little miss invisible pops back into your life again.
Why don't you have time for her anymore?
You know, you shouldn't wrap your life up in a man. That's just wrong.
You should at least be able to set one weekend night aside to go out clubbing with her.
Only you don't WANT to club anymore. You've outgrown that. You've outgrown HER. Life goes on...and when she blew her friends off for a man, guess what happened?
One day she looked up and all her friends had gone on without her.
And now she's left with no one.
No big deal. She'll make new friends. She only needs them temporarily anyway. Just to get her through until she meets another man she can revolve her life around.
