What makes an encounter special?  

goldri452 64M
74 posts
11/18/2005 10:55 am

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What makes an encounter special?


I think that women, in general, are much better at expressing what makes for a truly satisfying encounter than men. So I am going to attempt to describe what makes an encounter special to me. I actually commented very similarly on someone elses blog because she is able to fully express herself so well. Anyway, here it is:

Foreplay: Grabbing for the standard sexual areas is basically crude and rude and, although that can be a turn on at times, I generally prefer the slow buildup that begins with subtle stroking and kissing. It can be very pleasurable involving touch, taste, smell, sound, and sight. Kissing that is deep and passionate can sometimes set the fire to burning hot. To hold my lover's face gently in my hands can communicate an intimacy that is deeper and more meaningful than trying to fondle a breast. And there are lots of places on one's body where kissing can be very stimulating. The neck and ears, the inside of the arms, behind the knees, the small of the back are all sensitive areas that can be kissed and licked to slowly raise excitement. And I never want to rush that. Thinking that groping the breasts and genitals is the start of foreplay is like thinking that waterfalls are where a river begins. Certainly, there are times when we are so aroused that we might go right to the main act but most raging fires begin with a little spark.

The Act: There are many different ways to engage in penetration that can involve gentle or rough touches. There are times when long, deep strokes can be accentuated with the feel of a lover's fingernails pushing into the skin. Other times entry may be from behind and include a massaged back. Consideration is such a big part of making it special. Being aware of a lover's mood and level of excitement can help you to determine what specific activity will be most exciting. And don't be afraid to speak aloud or make noises that communicate your desires as well. The possibilities for variety in mood, position, and touch during the act are unlimited. There is an element of sexual excitement that comes from spontaneity and avoiding routine.

Afterglow: This has a tremendous effect on how the whole encounter is viewed. Cuddling and kissing after the act can be a sweet time of building trust and comfort. Jumping out of bed to the bathroom, into clothes, and out the door is the epitome of disrespect to your lover. The cleanup can be a time for gently and lovingly attending to your lover. It's an opportunity to show that you care for and respect your lover as a whole person and not just blow up doll or dildo.

I invite you to add your own thoughts and feelings about what makes an encounter special for you.

rm_WickedFemale 62F
401 posts
11/18/2005 4:30 pm

Thank you very much for taking my blog about this a bit farther. Very well written.....


goldri452 64M

11/21/2005 6:18 am

Wicked, thank you for getting me to put in writing things that I had only thought before.


rm_WickedFemale 62F
401 posts
11/21/2005 2:59 pm

~winks at you boldly~ now what can we do about getting you involved in doing these?


goldri452 64M

11/21/2005 7:25 pm

Winks and more gratefully accepted. I would love to meet you but I don't want to be too forward. If you indicate a genuine desire (or even curiosity) to meet, I would be both delighted and honored.


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