Which do you use????  

goddessofbitches 41M/33F
5317 posts
9/14/2005 1:48 pm

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Which do you use????

Although I do care about each and every one of you guys, I am more or less talking about this for my own concerns.

Back in June I had a MIRENA put into my uterus. It is a T-shaped object that is also known as an IUD. Most IUD's only block eggs from leaving the fallopian tube and getting to the uterus...and if one does escape, it is suppose to prevent pregnancy by somehow preventing the egg from implanting.

I have heard the horror stories of women getting pregnant with these things and having babies with IUDs implanted in the child's body somewhere....

But Mirena is a little different in that it not only blocks eggs, but there is a chemical in the stem and at the end. The chemical in the stem causes the uterus lining to stay thin...preventing egg plantation....and the chemicals at the end help thicken the cervix to prevent little guys from getting to the eggs. My doctor says that this method is the equivalent to getting your tubes tied.

Now...I wonder...what is your choice of birth control? Condoms....Pills....shot???
Would you consider the choice I made?

The procedure for those who are curious is simple...

You wait until your period and then go to the gyno's office. They want you to be on your period because it not only proves you aren't preg....but you are already kind of crampy..and it helps getting the IUD in place. They open your cervix a little, and insert the thing. It does hurt a little...but only for a few seconds. It is kinda like a contraction...for those who have had kids. Others who haven't....it's kind of like a really sharp period cramp. You do bleed off and on the first couple of months. They say some will bleed off and on the first six months. But, with me, it was only off and on the first month and a half.

I chose this method because I couldn't remember pills, my husband and I don't like using condoms with each other, and I didn't like the side effects of the shot. I no longer worry that I am pregnant...and that is a big relief. I used to worry if my period was one day late....and sometimes....and before my period came...a few days after having sex with my husband, I would worry...now that I don't worry about it anymore...I feel free....

So...I ask if any of you lovely ladies have thought about this option.....


Always The Bitch

SweetDarlinAngel 39F
2996 posts
9/14/2005 2:31 pm

Hmmm interesting choice Goddess, I never considered that option myself. Having four kids, you'd probably think that I never considered any option (Tee Hee J/K) But I actually went with the implants because it kept me from worrying about the pill and it is something that I don't have to concern myself with it for 4 years. My youngest is 2, so I still have another 2 years before I have to worry about anything. I hope that helps in your quest for information sweetie!
Take Care!


xx_44DD_xx 51F

9/14/2005 2:50 pm

I am on the depo shot. One of the lucky few that has not had any side effects.

I was awful at remembering pills also. Amazing I don't have 20 kids running around this place as a result LOL.

nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
9/14/2005 2:58 pm

I had a friend who did that procedure when it was still pretty new..for the most part she didnt have any problems except one time she was bed ridden for about a month because of an infection from it...it cut her somewhere inside and it got infected at least thats what she told me...but she says for the most part it worked pretty well...Another friend of mine did the deprevaira shot and it played havok with her cycles and gave her menstral craps like no other....but you all get much respect from me considering what you ladies have to go through just to share yourselves with us men.....hopfully its worth it lol....well most of the time anyway lol ......all you guys reading this keep that in mind...next time you have sex just remember what she has to go though so you could at least try to make it worth it to her.....

pussinboots4u 50M/47F

9/14/2005 2:59 pm

My husband and I have used the withdrawl method for over 15 years now. 2 out of 3 "oops" have turned into "Surprise! You're going to be a Daddy", and one of those was actually only a month earlier than when we were going to try having another child anyway. When we/I play - condoms is what is used and would be used regardless of any other method I would use.

We tried the pill - but it made my moods awful - besides, I'm really not a good candidate for the pill. My cousin had an IUD and she had after a few years developed abnormal bleeding and had it removed - so I'm a bit weary of it.

Right now, I'm considering having my tubes tied - everyone says that he should have a vasectomy (cuz it is an easier procedure), but not everyone knows about our lifestyle so I say "well, he HAS to be at work, I don't". It is a hard choice to make, and even though I can get pregnant - I should not be getting pregnant again for health reasons - but still - it is hard to make that step in which you make it impossible to have another child.

rm_mstwizz 53M/53F

9/14/2005 3:34 pm

Was this expensive? How long can you keep it in? Right now, since I am monogamous with my b/f, I am not using anything! We are just exploring the possiblity of inviting another lady to be with us and have just joined passion.com. But anyway, it sounds like a good choice, I am going to look into it. Thanks for shairng your experience.

babygirlwana 36F

9/14/2005 4:06 pm

i by the grace of god have no children of my own i use condoms as my choice of birth contoll,the reason i use them is i hate goin to the doctor but i can say nothing is 100% i am here as proof of that my mom had her tubes tied, and 3 years later she had me! i guess i was just ment to be lol

toothysmile 50M
16514 posts
9/14/2005 5:03 pm

I am very tempted to say my favorite type of birth control is oral sex*, but will refrain. (sigh). I 've used condoms for longer than I can remember and must admit I have a thorough dislike of them. But... c' est la vie.

*en francais, c' est les pipes, chere amie, les pipes!...
(thought Greek would be too cliche, but will happily tutor you on the basics)...

i_fuck_dirty 33F

9/14/2005 5:08 pm

i am so glad you posted this. i have a (few) Q about the T. do you feel it move around in you? are you at all concerned that it might perforate your uterus? and most importantly, can you still have sex in crazy positions? right now i am only using condoms because i cant take any horomones. every woman should know that taking horomones is a very serious thing that can make you extremely sick, even if you are young, healthy, and dont smoke. besides the t, the only non-hormonal method is the barrier method. diapgragms and caps and all that stuff are just as annoying as condoms, however condoms are easier to deal with, so thats what i am doing. but i want a more reliable less worrysome method of control. your input would totally help! thx - dirty

rm_Screw696969 40M/37F

9/14/2005 5:09 pm

I talked to my doctor about an IUD a few weeks ago. I'm still contemplating. To be honest, any birth control other then condoms scare me. I can't take the pill because I'm a smoker and last time I was on the pill I lost feeling in my legs. My sister was on the shot and when she finally decided to go off of it had a lot of complications. IUD is pretty much my last option but the thought of a foreign body in my uterus sorta freaks me out. So, I have gone with condoms and spermicide for years now. I have to admit that I am still always paranoid about getting pregnant but to tell you the truth I don't think it would matter what birth control method I'm using I'd still be holding my breath till that first day of my cycle. My husband and I have both discussed getting "fixed" (him a vasectomy and me getting a tubaligation) but it's not likely that a doctor is going to want to do that considering that we're both young and don't have children so for now we're sticking to the condoms and spermicide.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
9/14/2005 5:41 pm

lol yes we have tried withdrawl and have our little Opps too

but generally we use condoms....

I have tried the implant and I bled for 28 days out of 30

I have tried the pill and actually was quite ill...

the shot well you can't stop that easily so I haven't tried it in case of severe side effects as it played havoc with my sisters kidneys...

I hadn't considered IUD actually my doc didn't provide it as an option I know my Aunt had one years ago and it caused her heaps of problems...

but I may have a word to Boney about it


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
9/14/2005 6:06 pm

hmmm... i really am not the right person to be asking right now, after that last batch of pills the doctor gave me i a fucking wreck with what feels like permanent PMS ... LOL! and you call my blog inspiration! did i forget to mention PMS turns me into a self-centred egomaniac who can't keep her big mouth shut????!!!!

[blog freelove999]

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
9/14/2005 6:08 pm

as a single girl i was more than happy with the pill,as a married one we use nothing as i'm unable to get pregnant and with partners condoms,married friends with kids mostly use the iUD and they seem happy

I'm a

i'm here to stay

Theflinkychick 105F

9/14/2005 6:58 pm

Menopause has it's benefits. My ex and I used withdrawal for our entire marriage and only had the one child that we intended to have. I hated it, but we were financially unable to get my tubes tied and he refused to have a vasectomy. My own personal choice before we married was the contraceptive sponge which I heard was going to be available again soon. I am not a candidate for the pill with my grandmother having survived cervical cancer and me beind, stupidly, a smoker.

Not all who wander are lost.

mnfun952 102M

9/14/2005 7:52 pm

Getting a Vasectomy is easy... and not even painfull - maybe just a little uncomfortable. So condom-free is the way to go (with trusted partners).... and for anyone who's LifeStylin' it - it's a good idea to go the condom route anyway... it's not just for keeping the population down.

Be safe, have fun, play hard


couplenextdoor55 42M/35F
25 posts
9/14/2005 8:48 pm

I am acually going Thursday to get the MIRENA IUD put in. I was supposed to have it put in on Tuesday but my husband and I had sex with no condom so I have to wait till my pregnacy test comes back. But I'm like you I can't ever remember to take the pill plus it makes me sick and we don't like to use condoms with eachother. We have two boys(both were oops) and want to wait for awhile before we have anymore if we have anymore. I chose the IUD because it was long term but reversable unlike getting my tubes tied.

La_fun_couple 36M/35F
3 posts
9/14/2005 10:13 pm

Hi there mandy. I myself have an IUD and it is the same brand. I will tell you i have had it for 2 years and everything has been fine. I didn't want to get my tubes tied, can't take the shot (makes me bleed like holy hell), and hate taking pills, so this was my alternative. When i first got mine in I also heard these horror stories and was to concerned. But the IUDs they used to use were bigger and made of metal (copper or something) i know this because when i told my grandmother after having my third child about it she was scared for me. So she explained it to me. And i got some info for her. The new IUDs are made of soft plastic/rubber and are much smaller. I will tell you that having birth control of the mind is so releaving. And i hardly ever have a period which is great. It was scary at first i was always buying p-tests. But after having 3 children i kinda know what being pregnant felt like. So i stoped freaking out so much......having the no period thing and started enjoying the freedom of mind i had and the freedom to have sex whenever and wherever i wanted too.

Great Post!!! Hope i helped ya!!

silverfoxrun 40M

9/15/2005 12:04 am

its always been depro or the pill with the girls i've been with, well and condoms...can't be too careful, not just for pregnancy but I really don't want me penis to fall off...I'm kinda attached to it.

Brandedink 47F

9/15/2005 6:25 am

Hi Mandy...dont mean to intrude..somehow your blogs interested me. Anyways,,Ive got one too, had it for 5 years now. I love it, with the exception of harder cramping, (which is easily remedied). No fuss, no mess, no hormones. And no, you dont feel it and can do everything you always did before. Just gotta remember condoms are very important. Nothing else can help to protect you from a gift you cant return!! Of course, the only true ways that are foolproof for getting pregnant are abstinence and of course...swallowing....lol

La_fun_couple 36M/35F
3 posts
9/15/2005 6:42 am

Also when the put mine in they gave me a 1 dose of strong antibiotics so i wouldn't get an infection....and i never did. so thoes of you wanting to do this ask for it its a single dose that usurarly prevents any infection from setting in. If infection should occur i think it would happen within the 1st 24 hours of insertion. My Dr. just gave it to me like i would expect most would. But ask about it anyway. Its definatly worth if it will prevent infection. Another thing is that my Dr. said to take 3 motrin 1 hour before insertion. So before your appointment. 3 motrin is equivalant to 1 perscription strength motrin. Expect some cramping. I went by myself anf it was an hour drive to and from the Dr. So I drove home by myself for 1 hour and i cramped up even with the motrin. But it wasn't to bad, just like pms cramps.

People reading this please ask your Dr. before doing any of these things. These are the things MY Dr. told me to do. Be safe and ask first.

goddessofbitches 41M/33F

9/15/2005 9:12 am

Dirty--- After the initial few days....yes...I can have sex in any way I want, doggie style and so forth.

No...I don't worry about it going through my uterus because it would take a good hard blow...meaning...car crash type blow to cause it to do that...

No..it stays put...and doesn't move around in there....

There are strings attached to it that let you know it is still in place...it is worry free and I love it.

Hope this helps..


Always The Bitch

rm_bella_ 47F
4030 posts
9/15/2005 11:16 am

I am sort of lucky. I am on the pill and that has been my only method of birth control since I was young regardless that I smoke. I have a great brand that causes absolutely no side effects, no weight gain, headaches, tenderness or lack of libido. If anyone is interested in the the type just let me know.

sleeplessknight1 68M

9/15/2005 2:57 pm

I find total abstinence works for me... best birth control ever

PailsDiverHonks 55F

9/15/2005 7:52 pm

I was on the pill before we decided to have kids. I hated it! After we were finished making babies he not me had an option. Get fixed or no sex during certain times of the month. He didnt get fixed, so I used the power of my womenhood and declined him sex. I had a hysterectomy (due to medical problems, not as birthcontrol) I don't have to worry about that anymore. Bio Identical hormone replacement is the BEST thing to ever be invented!

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
9/15/2005 8:34 pm

My dream form is tubal ligation. However, I rely on condoms. If I had a steady, trusted partner, I would go for the IUD. The newer ones aren't knocked out of place as easily. However, it was just the one brand of IUD years ago that caused the weird births. It was taken off the market. They do still make copper ones, for women who can't use the progesterone ones.

rm_Network_Minx 47F
542 posts
9/17/2005 5:42 am

I have used quite a few forms of birth control; the pill, the depo shot, pulling out, and an IUD. I have to say that the IUD worked the best for me. I never worried about getting pregnant the whole six years it was inserted. I got pregnant twice on the pill, at the time I didn't know antibiotics would or could negate it's effectiveness. I had terrible PMS while on the pill. When I first had the shot I bled for over a month everyday. Then I didn't have a period for nine months. I did gain some weight but it wasn't much. I don't like the feeling of a condom but for safety and health reasons I use them. Pulling out is the least effective, and I always worry if I am pregnant until my cycle starts.

Brandedink 47F

9/19/2005 8:22 am

Sassy...lmao, i forgot all about those health classes...hahaa! Ahh well, no more protien shakes fer me!!

konkali 40F

9/21/2005 11:56 am

Did you guys ever try the "ring" it seems to be pretty comfortable, minus the little wetness you have to get used to..
just curious if anyone else had?

bubbly_1985 31F

9/22/2005 6:39 am

I have been on the Mireana for about 6 months now, and it will stay in for 5 years unless I choose to have it taken out. When it was put in, for me, the pain was horrible, but definately worth it.

I have been on the pill, and the Depo Provera, while on the pill I forgot to take it a lot of the time, and with the Depo Provera I put on an enormous amount of weight, so both of those were out of the question.

I was offered the IUD after a miscarriage, as I didn't wish to become pregnant again.

The only problem is that my partner can feel the strings when we have sex, but I have been told that I can have the strings shortened, but I prefer knowing that is there.


La_fun_couple 36M/35F
3 posts
9/28/2005 10:59 pm

My hubby can feel my strings too and I do too perfer to know its in place. So I haven't had mine shortened either. He complained when i first got it..2 years have past and he really dosen't mention it at all. Guess he got used to being poked while im being poked....lol

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