What? I'm not allowed to play?  

goddessofbitches 41M/33F
5317 posts
9/10/2005 7:04 pm

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What? I'm not allowed to play?

So..you hear about the guys that email women describing themselves as the best at eating out and fucking. But what happens when a woman writes with only one purpose....to sleep with your husband.

I was contacted back in June by a very attractive female in Ohio. She said she made regular trips to Lexington and was interested in having a threesome. Well...that's all well and good. That is what I am here for. She lead me on for about a month and decided that she was ready to meet. So, I cancel my plans on a Thursday and met her at Olive Garden for a drink and a bite to eat. We talk...and get along great. She goes and takes care of the business she had to take care of and meets me and my husband later on at a pool hall.

Everything was going fine....at least that was what I was telling myself...until I noticed she was hitting on my husband. I didn't think much about it because I assumed she was just warming up to him. I wasn't going to get jealous...after all...it doesn't help to get jealous when you are a couple who does threesomes with only women. If I get jealous it is going to hurt our relationship. I decided that it was time to take things to another level. We bought some Vodka and Juice...which was her choice for drink and headed to our place.

After some chit chat...she asked me if she could talk to my husband alone. She had a few questions and some things she wanted cleared up that she was afraid to talk to me about. I agreed...and headed outside to smoke...taking the phone with me.
I guess I should mention that our cordless phones come as a set...and they have a feature on them called "ROOM MONITOR" Where I can listen and check the room if I need to. So, I activated it as I got outside and listened as she explained that she wasn't an anal person and that she didn't like to be choked....other than that she was open for anything. My husband assured her that she wasn't going to be asked to do ANYTHING she didn't want to do. After all...we are not the type to force anyone to do anything...unless that is what they WANT from us...to be dominating.

Next...though...I hear her state that she was glad he understood and that she was very attracted to my husband. My husband was of course..oh so happy to hear this....and well...asked her if she was ready for another drink. She replied yes and also asked if there was any way she could have him by herself. I was in shock. I didn't like hearing this, and instead of running in and ripping her head off, I waited to hear if maybe she meant with me watching....or something.

She then explained to my husband that she never had any intentions of having sex with me, that she wasn't even going to take it this far...except she saw my husband and knew she wanted him....had to have him. She asked what a hottie like him was doing with me...and started asking if I was really worth it. That he could have any girl, even her. My husband still hadn't said anything...and I was getting more pissed off by the minute.

Little did I know she was taking her clothes off...she had started with her skirt..and underwear....she still had her shirt and bra on.

I came into the house...which...if you know the lay out...you know that if I came in from the backdoor, I have to go through the kitchen to get to the living room where they were. And they can't see into the kitchen from where they were sitting. So, I announced I was getting another cig and went to the door. I didn't go out, I just opened and shut the door as though I did go out.

She continued on for about another 5 minutes...about how she was so hot for him. The whole time he was trying to explain that he wasn't comfortable with doing one on one without my permission. He also stated that it was either both or nothing. She asked him if he thought she was hot. He said yes...something I kicked his ass for later...and then I came around the corner...walked up behind her...and gave her my full open right hand. She came flying off the couch and asking what the hell my problem was. I told her that she was trying to break up a happy family and I wasn't about to put up with it. She tried to cover up the situation...saying she was only testing my husband...she wanted to make sure he wouldn't try to hook up with her...blah blah blah. There was also a foul smell in the air...not sure if it was her pussy or just her rotten ass trying to put moves on my husband.

I took her up and pushed her out the door still naked from belly down. Then...threw her clothes so that she had to walk into the street to get them. I told her if she ever came back around my husband again....she'd need a good plastic surgeon.

My question is....

Why are there people out there that feel that they are allowed to break up a happy home? Why do they feel it necessary to come in between two people?

This all goes back to READ PROFILES PEOPLE!!!
I don't mind getting emails, but, if another woman ever emails me with the intention of sleeping with my husband only without me being there...I'm gonna kick her ass. SO... NIKKI (girl from story)if you are reading my blog.... CONSIDER YOURSELF WARNED!!!


Always The Bitch

hotiowastud2 53M

9/10/2005 8:16 pm

I love your passion! I am a married man who's wife doesn't know I want so much more sexually. The situation you just described is amazing and I could be the guy in a mfm talking to the female doing the same thing. EXCEPT....I will not break up their marriage, family, for my personal stimulation... I know I could, and I'm not be arrogent. Sex is sex and you all have to be on the same page if you're entering a relationship inside the marriage.

More power to you ...

Bossman18013 53M/53F

9/10/2005 8:18 pm

Good for you girl. I love how you handled it. I agree totally being married myself. My husband and I have an agreement here, that he does all contacting and talking with the guys and I do it all with the girls. Anyone requesting to speak with either of us alone, is out. We are a couple. Actually, a girl should feel more comfortable talking to the girl about her boundries as far as I am concerned. Anyway, I am proud how you handled it, More power to us married women, I would have done the same thing listening in. LOL

MillsShipsGayly 51M

9/10/2005 8:26 pm

You made the RIGHT call !

SoljerBlu 39M

9/10/2005 9:51 pm

NOTHING and NOONE can break up a true "happy home"..can't be done.. but if it all ain't "happy".. and you play with Fire.. I just got butter and ice for your burns. Seriously, don't play games ya ain't willing to lose.. that's why they call 'em games.. one wins.. one loser.

digdug41 49M

9/10/2005 10:15 pm

WOW thats some shit to go through huh, I dont blame you,should've beat her ass and good too! but then again people like that arent worth your time just be careful and remember there are alot've jealous people out there and misery really does love company

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

Ultraviolet_69 62F

9/10/2005 11:19 pm

Frankly Mandy, I think you got angry with the wrong person. Was she wrong for contacting a couple when she had no intention of playing with the couple? You bet. Your instincts told you there was something awry when you first met at the pool hall and she seemed to be hitting only on your husband. You followed those instincts when you took the phone to easedrop on the conversation. What did you expect to hear? I suspect it was that your husband would follow the rules the two of you had established. It would appear he fell a bit short, hence the anger. Your husband is the one who should understand the rules of your game and they ought be explained to any potential playmate from the beginning. If you and he have discussed the fact that there are to be no one on one without your permission, then he ought have stopped the encounter when she suggested it, not trying to explain for 5 minutes how he was not comfortable with the situation while she continued to disrobe. Why the need for violence? Why not just throw her clothes out and then ask her to leave? Although you stated you did not want to get jealous, the descriptions of your actions belie that statement as your actions were those of a jealous woman. In the future, should the same situation arise, I feel confident you will apply what you learned from this experience and tell her to take a hike. If she's not comfortable discussing things things in front of you how could she possibly be comfortable having sex with you?

silverfoxrun 40M

9/11/2005 12:20 am

Damn girl, you should have kicked her in the anus! Trying to pull some shit off like that. Show her who da BOSS!!!

CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/11/2005 2:25 am

goddessofbitches -From a guys point of view, there is allot to discuss besides the normal applaud and pointing fingers.

Ultraviolet_69 pointed allot of stuff that i had to agree on, yet, when i first was reading this blog i was really impressed with your husband for not taking any steps forward behind your back, yet saying that you needed to be involved.

(Quote : The whole time he was trying to explain that he wasn't comfortable with doing one on one without my permission. He also stated that it was either both or nothing.)

You asked him if this girl was hot, he was truthful and responded that she was hot, yet you got mad at him for being honest....Mandy, did you think she was hot ?(before this incident)....you also did say that you didn't want to get jealous but clearly you did, yet again this all happened several months ago and the issue has come and gone already...yet am i an expert on 3'somes ? heck no, just a single man living in a dirt town trying to find a partner in itself !...Have i had a 3'some before ? oh yes, something i'll never forget.........

(Mandy you rock-don't change)


MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
9/11/2005 6:24 am

Mandy, I have to say your husband is a gem. There aren't many men who wouldn't have taken advantage of the situation out there. Yes, he may have thought she was hot, but he didn't make a move towards her, did he? It was more along the lines of, yeah, you're hot, but I don't play without the wife, right? You have to have thought she had some level of hotness, or you wouldn't have gotten past dinner with her.

Basically, I wouldn't have kicked his ass. I don't know if I would have been able to resist bitchslapping her myself. I'd probably have been tempted to grab her by the hair, up by the roots, and throw her out on the street.

There are lots of homewreckers out there. Not all of them are on this site. There are women who, as soon as they see a ring on a guy's finger, they're hot for him. It's a power thing. To see if they have what it takes to steal a man from someone else.

But the games around here don't cease to end. Especially if you're a regular in a regional chat room. I know one couple that met here and got married who, he'll be on the couch watching TV, she'll be on the computer and an IM window will pop up, a name she's never seen, telling her things along the line of, hi, your husband just left my bed. While he's been home since leaving work. Jealous bitches who can't stand someone has something they don't abound on this site. You have to learn to deal with them.

But you probably will have more dates from hell from this site. We all have them. Some are amusing after the fact, some will just leave a foul taste, period. You have to learn to recognize the red flags. The first one here was in the pool hall, the second was when she wanted to talk to your husband alone. It's time to set a new ground rule. That if some bimbo asks to speak to either of you alone again, you both agree that if you play together, you discuss things with the potential playmate together.

nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
9/11/2005 10:35 am

Personaly because Im a ruthless S.O.B. I think you went easy on her....If someone did that to me I would of beat them into next week...I think you where merciful by my standards but thats just me...

As to your question. Alot of people want to see what they can get away with. They thrive on causeing pain and turmoil...people like that deserve a beating...Some people have a thing about getting what they cant have. They want to see if they can get it and they dont care how it effects others. JMO

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
9/11/2005 11:14 am

good for you! but i do think you should not have even let her alone with him -- wanting to talk to your husband about things she is not comfortable saying to you is a dead giveaway, IMO: if you were gonna have sex with a person you would need to be comfortable talking about it!

[blog freelove999]

noirfemme 44F

9/11/2005 12:43 pm

The best thing about the story is that your husband remained true to your arrangement. That bitch must have been out of her mind. That she is even attracted to someone who do something like that is beyond me. She is lucky you weren't more violent!!! Way to go!

tobornotobe2 49F

9/11/2005 2:11 pm

Mandy, You are to be admired. The whole point of swinging couples is that they have the others permission before they do anything on their own. I have a couple, my special friends, who I meet on occasion. We have alot of fun. My main reason for getting with couples instead of single guys or girl, is because I like seeing and feeling that closeness they have for the other. The trust between the two is truly enlightening, and it isn't something I have been able to find in a single person. Plus...it keeps my heart safe, knowing I am wanted and cared for by such wonderful people. AND...subconsciously, I know i won't get hurt by falling for either of them. I won't let myself become involved in that way. HENCE..my heart is safe...with couples.
Good luck hun, kiss yer man, and hold him close to yourown heart.

rm_ericingeneva 39M

9/11/2005 2:40 pm

Being that I'm a divorcee because my wife was a lieing, cheating whore I take these sorts of things to heart. You shoulda beat her ass good Mandy. The world could certainly do with less of those kinds of woman.

SweetDarlinAngel 39F
2996 posts
9/11/2005 3:32 pm

Godess~ I bow to you girl. Not only did you have the balls to confront the woman head on when she was overstepping her boundaries, but you also let your husband know that he overstepped his as well. You had the foresight to take the phone with you so that you could be a part of a conversation that you didn't trust to begin with and you never lost control of the situation. I have to give you Kudos hands down! Though you may not have been able to control the jealousy side of the situation, I still say that you handled the entire situation with a lot more class and maturity than I would have. Way to go! You obviously have a great intuition when it comes to knowing the type of woman that should go home with you and your man, next time stop her at the pool hall.


dano6332 56M

9/11/2005 4:01 pm

Goddess, I think honestly your husband did nothing wrong. He stated he would not and you got pissed for him thinking she was hot. Hell even back when I was happily married I still looked and would say, if asked, yes she was hot. I also think everything you did was fine until you hit her. It could have gone south quick if she jumped up and pounded you back or left and called the cops to charge you with battery. I know you were pissed but physical violence is never the answer unless your defending yourself just my thoughts Dano

okyme 52F

9/11/2005 4:29 pm

Come on girl, we are all jealous creatures...I think you were angry at yourself;( because YOU knew deep down she was the wrong one but you still went through with it. This is another lesson to TRUST your innerself. You have the power inside, just go with it next time . Either way its done and over now and you still have your man who hopefully knows what a gem he has!! {=}

Greenguy96 43M

9/11/2005 6:28 pm

Unfortunetly, I'm sure your going to have some more bad experances, but from what you said about your husband, you two have nothing to worry about.

goddessofbitches 41M/33F

9/11/2005 6:29 pm

hotio--- you are right. You should talk more openly to your wife...

Bossman--- I only let her talk to my husband because I thought maybe they were planning something...or she was embarressed for me to hear she was scared about being with a woman or something. I had no clue she was going to try to seduce him without me being there...

Michael--- LOL....I guesss you could say that.

Woodstockhippy--- That's true. The thing is...there are women out there that will attempt to breeak up a happy home...and there is no reason for it....dumb bitches

DigDug--- The only reason I didn't was I felt that the slap I landed on her face was enough...if she had fought back...then I would have beat her ass...

UltraViolet--- I had already explained the rules and things back before we met, and while we were having diner together. She was familiar with the rules and she decided to make moves on my husband. He didn't stop her at first because he thought she was kidding, I mean...she knew when she came over that it was going to be all three of us and he didn't think she was being serious. I wasn't jealous...I was pissed that I let someone in my house...and she used my friendship, took advantage of my situation with wanting a threesome, only to get in my house and only want to take my husband. SO, I felt the need for a smack. She was being rude. I know I shouldn't have hit her...she almost deserved it. We had made it clear that if she didn't want to do something she could let one or the other know.

innocentnsexy--- You would? Great...I am glad to hear that.

wetpantyslut--- Thanks...I am still going to continue my search, although I met someone I really like...but...whatever happends...happends I guess.

silverfoxrun--- I could've....just didn't because she didn't retaliate.

CuteGuy--- I didn't ask him if she was hot, SHE asked him if he thought she was hot. And no I wasn't Jealous...I was pissed off...she used me to get to my husband....that sucks. But thanks...I do rock...lol

MissAnn--- You are right, once again...it never ceases to amaze me just how right you are...all of the time!!! LOL ..I didn't kick his ass....don't worry...but..I did smack her....so go me. I am slowly learning to recognize these red flags...and it won't be long before I will be able to tell one scandelous bitch from another....lol

Nightstalker--- I was merciful....lol...and what you said was true...

Freelove--- Well...we had an encounter with a lady that was really unsure of being with a guy...since she was only used to being with women....and she wanted to talk to me about it by herself because she didn't want my husband to think that it was because of him or something. So, I am a trusting soul...too trusting...and I planned ahead of time...I took the phone with me!!!!

noirfemme--- She was lucky...and my husband is a good guy....THanks.

tobornotobe--- I will...and I definantly know what you are saying. I did a post a while back talking about our threesomes and making sure the other persons feelings weren't involved...so they won't fall in love or get hurt. Kepp those special friends...they are worth it.

ERic--- I can't take out your frustrations on someone else...but I can find your ex and beat her ass for you. LOL

SweetDarlinAngel--- Don't bow to me sweetie...if I had been smarter...I WOULD'VE stopped it at the pool hall...lol But..yes..I try not to loose my place in a situation...I try not to panic and try not to let my feelings cloud my mind. THANKS SWEETIE!!!

Dano--- I know what you mean....and really....I guess hitting her wasn't a smart move, but I figure....she was putting the moves on my husband or "hitting on him" so I could hit her back and "defend myself"...lol...I know that isn't what you said but...hey....it's cool to loose yourself every now and then.
As for him stating she was hot...he should have said..I thought you were hot until I realized what a whore you were....but that it is my opinion...lol

Okyme---I think he knows...but what kind of gem am I?? An emerald? A RUBY?? LOL


Always The Bitch

dano6332 56M

9/12/2005 5:47 am

Mandy, I never really addressed why you hit her and I agree with you totally. I am frequently perplexed by people who do things that are so incredibly stupid that they should qualify for Darwin awards. Those are the awards that come out every year for people who find really dumb ways to kill or maim themselves. All I know is if the deal was a package deal why the hell did she show up? Hey maybe the slap will jar something loose in her brain.

goddessofbitches 41M/33F

9/12/2005 10:00 am

Greenguy--- I suppose that is true...I have nothing to worry about.

Dano---She knew it was a package deal and she showed up thinking she could get my husband to leave with her. SHe figured that he was hitting on her and he was in a way, he was but there is a catch...he was being nice because of the possibility of sex. And she was a cutie...I give her that much...but she just thought my husband wanted her more than he wanted to be with me. Her mistake for thinking that someone would leave his happy home for one night of fun...


Always The Bitch

thr3sum 33M/F
117 posts
9/12/2005 4:57 pm

If it were me, in her shoes i would expect to have a violent end. If it were me in your shoes I would have wanted beat her to a pulp, and expected my husband to have shown her out before I could get to her, being that he is a peace-keeper.
I was in a bar with him once before we were married and this chick was asking me all kinds of ?'s about him and I was buzzed enough to be honest. I went out for a smoke and she was sitting right next to him when i returned, being very territorial I sat on his lap. She then gave me this look like she won some contest, my man went to play pool, and she told me,"you shouldn't brag about him so much, someone is bound to steal him from you..." Implying that she would...I poured my beer on her and was asked to leave the bar. My husband thought I hit her and came to see if I had been hurt, he told me later that she had been creeping him out all evening. If I ever see her in that bar again I plan on slapping her with my wedding ring. Dumb bitch.

you are not alone
take it sleazy-

anchcpl4fun 40M/44F

9/12/2005 5:05 pm

GIRL kick her friggen ass.....ok maybe hunting her down and beating her sensless isnt the best idea, but oh soo tempting im sure. Its definatly a lifestyle where yo uhave to have ALOT of trust in your mate. Although with us, no way would i be leaving some HO alone with my hubby. Not because I dont trust him, but because I want to have to avoid beating some ass. You have more restraint then I do.
sometimes as much as I love women, I hate them just as much, they can be so damn scandelous (sp). Kudos to your hubby, not all would not take advantage of at least a quick blow. LOL...

MiAmore62 49M

9/12/2005 8:06 pm

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh back to my post about poeple ebing insane on here!!!!

Brandedink 47F

9/13/2005 11:00 am

lol..some people just plain suck, and cant stand to see a couple like the two of you..im sure shes a very insecure person, and to be the one your hubby chose, instead of the one the couple chose would make her feel better about herself...tis sad really to be that way..eh, i once heard "aint nothin a bottle of jack an a straight razor cant fix"....maybe shes on that level.

toothysmile 50M
16514 posts
9/13/2005 7:01 pm

While a bit disgusted,I m not surprised. There are some strange people here, or some people who are not strange but do strange things. You know, I have a hunch that similar situations will arise again in the future...

SensuousWoman3 55F
3106 posts
9/19/2005 6:19 am

Oh, Mandy, what a story! What a witch to play this whole game with you and your husband. Testing your husband? Who is she to test your husband? That is the lamest excuse I have ever heard! If she wants to play alone then she should seek out single men–why was she wasting your time–and lying to boot? I have a hunch that this is something she gets off on–a power gig–there really area some women who will risk anything to see if they can have all the attention–they don’t care who they step on in the process. While it is harmful to others–it is very self-destructive behavior for them as well. How can you feel good about a thing like that?

My first red flag was flirting with your husband at the pool hall–big difference between getting to know someone, warming up to them and downright flirting. But, often as women, we second-guess ourselves and our instincts. I am not a jealous person, but I think we’ve all been placed in a situation where some gal blatantly, with absolutely no respect or regard for another woman, shamelessly flirts with your date/spouse. Even the wisest and mellowest of women can become annoyed.

It’s clear you’ve learned a lot of lessons. No, I probably wouldn’t have whacked her up the side of head–one because I am not a hitter and, two, because I’d worry about assault charges. And finally, there is something to be said about calmly walking into the room, picking up her clothes, depositing them in the street, and saying, “Pity we met! You need to go now!”

However, hee, hee, hee, I do love that you slapped her a good one! Did you get her good? Did your hand sting? LOL! I bet that you-know-what didn’t know what hit her.
She did not have the slightest idea who she was dealing with, now did she? WHACK! Oh, goodness, I would have loved to have seen that one–let alone having to prance out into the street to get her clothes–maybe she learned a thing or two–but I doubt it. (I hope you watched out the window as she gathered her clothes!)

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