Sex Study...  

goddessofbitches 41M/33F
5317 posts
10/23/2005 8:14 am

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Sex Study...

You know...the more and more I think about it...I want to conduct my own study of sex.

Basically...what I want to know is...

A man and woman get together. They have sex. For the woman...the man is awesome. He has her climaxing like crazy.....and it just feels so right.

But then....say the next night...he meets a different woman...and this time when he has sex, the woman thinks he sucks...He didn't get her off at all...

I know that women are all different and that every woman has a different button that needs to be pushed in order to get off...but...does "The Mood" affect the sex too? Does the chemistry affect it? Does a certain time of the month between ovulation and period affect it?

I also wanted to know what makes a guy say a woman was GREAT in bed. It's not like they have multiple orgasms...like a woman...so...what makes it feel so great when they are having sex?

Is it how the woman gives head...he position and the ways that she moves on a man??? Is it how she feels...(size of the Vagina)...is it how naughty she is and how well she fulfills your naughty needs?

What key factors HAVE TO be there for it to seem like this person offers the BEST SEX EVER??

HUGS~~~MANDY


Always The Bitch


DukeAbbaddon 41M
280 posts
10/23/2005 11:32 am

deap love and a warm belly !

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DukeAbbaddon 41M
280 posts
10/23/2005 11:34 am

well if your drunk i think being flacide made it bad ?


DukeAbbaddon 41M
280 posts
10/23/2005 11:36 am

personaly im nice and if you like my pictures ( in blog ) i will post some i made and demand some from you too . like the garden ?


interested13563 53M
2557 posts
10/23/2005 11:38 am

I think the answer is "all of the above" with the weight
factors depending on the particular individual as well as
the particular needs and feelings of a particular day.
But if one goes a little beyond physical contact there
is always the mind, the personality and the feelings of
the love partner that greatly influence one's predisposition,
hence one's satisfaction.


realmom2 58M/50F

10/23/2005 12:07 pm

I think it has to be the chemistry.

Sex is physical pleasure, and as you pointed out, men usually only cum once,(although I've known a few exceptions), so I would think, as far as the phyiscal part goes, most women feel the same to them.

So, my only guess would be chemistry.


hotiowastud2 53M

10/23/2005 12:29 pm

I've often compared sex to a sport. As a participant there are varying degrees of success, pleasure, highs and lows, ect.

Where they're similar is that you have two people reacting to each other. Kissing, how long, when do you move to petting and further...?

In sports you react to another opponant or one team to another team.

Each squence is different even though each person may begin in similar ways.

Everyone's bodies are different, but more importantly, everyone's minds are vastly different. I think for each person there has to be some degree of familiarity in bed with a little mystery and change mixed in.

I think I'll blog on this topic...


dano6332 56M

10/23/2005 12:49 pm

Hi Mandy, I think it is chemistry no way to predict or plan for it as it just happens but I think it changes it from good to GREAT


Tee3043 42M
1 post
10/23/2005 1:15 pm

its about teasing a man. bringing him to the edge and then backing away, then starting all over again. It might be taking him over the edge and then getting him up to go again. Alot of guys like to be teased back to hardness.

The attitude of a woman make a difference. Confidence and not being afraid to tell her man what she wants without being pushy.

just my thoughts.


digdug41 49M

10/23/2005 2:47 pm

what does it for me is when the woman I am with is in sync with me without any verbal commands to do such and yes a matter of freakiness helps too no doubt

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toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
10/23/2005 4:22 pm

Everything matters. Chemistry is perhaps the most important ingredient, mood a close second.

What makes a woman great in bed?

For me, technique is important, timing [very important], but most of all feeling. I want to see how much she enjoys being with me, not with words, but with a look or a vibe I will pick up.

And, yes, there have been times when my orgasm was not the most intense in the world, but I felt so good, so right at that moment... that sexual pleasure became secondary.



PS: and, of course, enthusiasm for fellatio is always a plus.


Viggo57 60M

10/23/2005 6:19 pm

Some thoughts for you , Mandy....... The taste and smell and feel of a woman is important. The look in her eyes is something that makes me know that we have connected. The utilmate sex comes when no matter how you analyse the intensity of the experience , it just can not be explained in any words that you can find. Your only hope is to try and duplicate it again.....and see if you can pull yourself away for a moment and capture as much of the intensity of the experience as you can.
You ask good questions and would be a lover that loves with both her head and her body ....a lover a man would not forget.


Viggo57 60M

10/23/2005 6:29 pm

Some thoughts for you , Mandy....... The taste and smell and feel of a woman is important. The look in her eyes is something that makes me know that we have connected. The utilmate sex comes when no matter how you analyse the intensity of the experience , it just can not be explained in any words that you can find. Your only hope is to try and duplicate it again.....and see if you can pull yourself away for a moment and capture as much of the intensity of the experience as you can.
You ask good questions and would be a lover that loves with both her head and her body ....a lover a man could not forget.


frogger1995 39F

10/23/2005 9:01 pm

Time of the month definitely makes a difference...at least in my mood. There are times when I am so horny I could scream. Others, where the thought of sex makes me want to cringe. As far as the guy, as long as he gives great oral I am happy. Forceful is nice as well.


rm_ericingeneva 39M

10/23/2005 9:56 pm

okay... I'm gonna need some volunteers. A few bottles of wine or maybe Keystone everyone has different tastes. Some astroglide just in case. Maybe some crops... errr props i mean. Blacklight for the younger girls... umm test subjects. Lights on a dimmer switch for the rest. Lets see... Strawberries, cool whip, chocolate sauce, no caramel im not making that mistake again, hmm... massage oils. this is gonna take awhile I'll get back to you a study of this kind needs to be done right.


nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
10/23/2005 10:03 pm

I think what makes a woman great in bed is how well we are in tune with eachother...if you're not in tune its not going to be good.

Some things I find common with women who I deem great in bed would be as follows

1. Her desire to please her partner. If she is just going to sit there and do nothing what fun is that. Its really disappointing when some women think all they have to do is open their legs and wait a feww minutes and then its done. Women who view sex as a choir does not make for good sex.

2. How well she communicates it another factor. does she show you that she likes what you are doing to her. For me I like to watch my mates pleasure and know that its because of me..that in turn brings me pleasure.

3. Her openess to try new things or being creative now granted I have a few things that are simply OFF LIMITS for me....Fecal play comes to mind that and Waterspots ...but other than that anything goes in a 1v1 situation that is.

Desire to please
Communication
Openess and immagination

I think these are the most important things to find in a mate to make for GREAT SEX...

Of course chemistry has to work as well. You want someone who for the most part sees eye to eye with you. If someone has a fetish that you find repulsive to do then I think thats a sign that you should move on ...JMO


SoljerBlu 39M

10/23/2005 10:17 pm

Sex just for the sake of sex, is.. sex. If I have a long skinny dick and you have a deep tight pussy.. the sex is great! But if you're shallow and loose, but I love the smell and taste of you.. it's Great. But, if it feels right, smells right and tastes right.. and you're talking like GW Bush and wondering why I don't have those 400 thread count sheets, or the Chanel candles... the sex SUCKS!.
If you want me to bore you for another 3-4 hrs I will... NOT!
When you fuck, you both know real soon.. I thought it was the best ever.. you thought it sucked more than masturbating to Oprah...
Not a chance in hell of knowing til you try!
The only worthwhile part of sex is the five minutes after your heart rates get back to normal.
Got another 3-4 hours?


silverfoxrun 40M

10/24/2005 12:12 am

But then....say the next night...he meets a different woman...and this time when he has sex, the woman thinks he sucks...He didn't get her off at all...

thats the problem with being with someone for the first couple of times. you have to get to know their body. although you can get lucky, if you can call it that. or if you have a one night stand. you have to be very perceptive to pick up on what it is you are doing that is 'actually' getting the girl off. otherwise when you are walking and you hear ppl laughing and you get paranoid they are talking about you, well...they are.

does "The Mood" affect the sex too? Does the chemistry affect it? Does a certain time of the month between ovulation and period affect it?

you also need mood, that sexual attraction that you can feel...it buzzes in the air. you just cant wait to get together and feel the body heat.

I also wanted to know what makes a guy say a woman was GREAT in bed. It's not like they have multiple orgasms...like a woman...so...what makes it feel so great when they are having sex?

its how you move together. if its one thing I hate and most guys probably hate is a girl who lays there like a fish...BORING!!!! Get into it. You have sex for a reason, because it feels freaking great! The pleasure is intense or can be. Be creative. Dont get into a rut. same positions, routine...whatever. Take charge. Don't wait for the guy to make the move. and ladies you need to tell the guy what the hell the dealio is. he is not a mind reader. if he is fucking you the wrong way or a way you dont feel pleasure then tell him. i prefer to hear a woman say 'Hey, you're not licking it right. Do it this way' or whatever.

never stop learning


curious082385 31F
4925 posts
10/24/2005 6:09 am

I have to say that it is the feeling throughout....do both people feel comfortable enough to let go? Because, in my experience, that has been the best sex ever....when both people can let go of any inhibitions they might have, when they can ask for what they need/want and can be totally in the moment with each other.
Even if the other person's technique is not the greatest....if you are comfortable enough to show/tell them the way you want them to be doing things.......
Mood is important too.....although a lover's skill can always change the mood.


curious082385 31F
4925 posts
10/24/2005 6:15 am

I have to say that it is the feeling throughout....do both people feel comfortable enough to let go? Because, in my experience, that has been the best sex ever....when both people can let go of any inhibitions they might have, when they can ask for what they need/want and can be totally in the moment with each other.
For me, knowing that I'm giving my partner pleasure is essential for me and hightens my own pleasure. Moans, the way his body moves, the look of his face, if i can make his toes curl......this goes back to being able to let go of inhibitions.


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
10/24/2005 11:25 am

i'm trying to think what it was about the best sex ever, and i just can't ... its so hard to define ... it is to do with intensity, and sometimes it is off-the-scale intense and sometimes it isn't --> it doesn't seem to have anything to do with how physically attractive the other person is. i think it happens when both parties at the same time stop worrying about what the other is thinking, feeling and just get completely into the animal mode of bodies, pure bodies. that means letting your inhibitions drop -- so yes, that is about your own mindset, but if you let yourself go and the other person doesn't, no great sex either...!



[blog freelove999]


tillerbabe 55F

10/24/2005 12:40 pm

Great question! I 've often wondered this myself.

-chemistry
-pheremones
-sexual inteligence (the mind is the BEST sexual organ)
-How "open" each person is
-Astrology (Wht's your sign baby?)
-surroundings
-communication

So, TiT, Need a "study" partner???


rm_sassy807 66F

10/24/2005 2:37 pm

deep love an the chemistry for real


SweetDarlinAngel 39F
2996 posts
10/24/2005 4:58 pm

goddess~

I think that chemistry is always a big issue. But another part of it is going to be the ability for the two people to communicate. Not just talking but able to read one another. I mean if you are in the middle of an intimate moment and you lean in for a kiss on the neck and the other person thinks you are going for a lip kiss then you end up with a bit of an awkward head bobbing "who's doing what" dance. If you have two people that are able to be comfortable with one another and take the lead or simply follow another then you usually end up with a smooth sailing "first time", if you have two people who like to "take charge" you end up with a lot of bumped heads and missed signals.

Mood is always a factor too, as is monthly cycles and even the environment. But basically it comes down to simple communication and ability to read one another. Two leaders in bed are bound to bump heads, two followers are bound to get lost...

~SDA

~Angel


rm_anacortes 74M
2850 posts
10/25/2005 5:57 am

IS "GREAT SEX" ABOUT SEX???

I THINK NOT... YEP, THE REALLY GOOD STUFF MOVES EACH OF YOU INTO A NEW ORBIT..A HIGHER ONE.. ONE THAT DOES HAVE SPIRITUAL CONTENT.

SO THERE, I HAVE SAID IT..

ALL YOU "PLAYERS" FIRE AWAY AT ME.....WHO CARES?


rm_RxSUGAR 60M
102 posts
10/25/2005 10:38 am

Romantic compatability,,,the heart and soul must click if the sex is to be anything other than just ( getting off ).


2xTwiceShy 51M
470 posts
10/26/2005 11:45 pm

The best sex follows no words. There are only sighs, moans, muscles leaning in leading directions. Every want is anticipated, every desire fulfilled.

You know it was good if neither of you can remember when it ended or even falling asleep.


LIBlonde97 40F
1028 posts
10/31/2005 12:29 am

I don't measure how great the sex was by how many time I came, how many positions and how long it lasted... I judge it more by how I felt about the person before, and how I felt after.

If I'm really into a guy and have been dreaming about him for hours, days, weeks, months... and he held up to my imagination, and more...then I know it was good (bc I have a great imagination).

And if I am lying in his arms after and wishing that time would only stand still, if not rewind, while I am deafened by my own beating heart... I know it was good.

If I am closing my eyes the next day while waiting at a red stoplight, and I can still feel his hands all over me... I know it was good.


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