love versus lust  

gladheateher31 44M  
31 posts
7/29/2005 2:26 am

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love versus lust

This is an age old arguement, what is the difference between love and lust?

Lust is easier to describe. A sense of sexual desire, passion or plain got the hots for someone. It could be the way they look, way they talk, whatver. Something about them put a rise in your levis or increased the moisture level in your panties, whichever fits...hopefully not both.

Love is a little harder to describe. Biologist will say it's the influence of certain hormones or chemicals. That would explain why some people don't feel it. One theory is love is related to the amount of estrogen you have circulating. Even "manly" men have estrogen. Everyone describes the sensation differently and no one can describe how you'll feel.

Then you also have infatuation, which falls somewhere in between the two. Or does infatuation exists? Is the infatuation you feel the beginning stages of love or lust?

Is being in love a weakness? I don't think so. Think about it, when you're in love/lust/infatuation, that's the strongest you'll ever be to the charms of the opposite sex. You only have eyes for one person, want to be with that person doing anything from talking to cuddling to many, many more activities.

But this comes at a cost. Loss of appetite, problems in concentration, insomnia. This feeling is very fragile. The least little thing will make it vanish. Ignoring it tops the list. Then you have the distractions. You try to put this person out of your mind. Stay busy, exercise, spend time with another person, or even drink. Drinking is definately a bad idea. Everywhere you look you think you see this person. With a low willpower and alot of alcohol on board, you get the brilliant idea to call them. Another bad idea. No one wants to listen to a drunk.

So what do you do? If it was meant to be, it'll work out. Yeah right, I read that hallmark card too. Try to get your mind clear and look at it objectively? Yeah, do that without sleep, crappy diet and after a weeklong binge of alcohol and wild sex.

Then when it doesn't work out, you become bitter...until the next time.

redmustang91 57M  
8599 posts
7/29/2005 7:23 am

I think love is lust that has mellowed and deepened with age and affection. Of course there is love of your children that usually lacks the lust component, yet still has the affection.

AtomicKisss 58M

7/29/2005 7:32 am

Biochemical update... it is not really estrogen that plays a role in love (bonding), instead, the hormone Oxytocin is more closely related. Stay tuned and I'll post an article in the magazine on the role of Oxytocin as it relates to bonding/nuturing. The article should be posted in a couple of days and you can find it by searching for articles written by me (AtomicKisss).

Nonetheless, I really liked what you wrote; I found it thought provoking, detailed, well written, and most of all interesting!

Lapkin4u 42F

7/29/2005 8:19 am

So true! I've tried the date someone else thing...just seems to be more of a hassle, and they can't compare to the one stuck in your mind anyway!

gladheateher31 44M  
5 posts
7/29/2005 9:17 am

Yeah, I thought about that after I got a few hours sleep. Oxytocin, not estrogen. Synthetic form is Pitocin, used to stimulate smooth muscle contraction in the uterus, especially with post partum bleeding. That's just want everyone wants to read about on a sex site. LOL.
Doesn't oxytocin play a role in orgasms?

Thanks for the comments!

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