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I was just reading the post [post 61934] by mnfun952 and it reminded me of my own situations where I had similar feelings. The post is about a woman friend of his who expressed how she was surprised that she felt jealous when she read a post he had written about meeting another woman for coffee. The consensus of the responders was that this woman in turn must have feelings for him. I didn't see it that way at all. Here is why..........
Believe it or not, there is a lot of competition between the women on AdultFriendFinder. It's easy to spot in the chat rooms. I read an AdultFriendFinder article once that said that even though the men out number the women on here in multiples, it was the women who were competitive. Seems strange doesn't it.
There was a guy I had met on AdultFriendFinder and we had gone out a couple of times. We were primarily just friends and I really liked how it was. I had no desire to stop seeing others nor did I wish for him to. One night I invited him to join me at a local meet & greet. He finally decided to come, even though it was pretty late and most people had already gone. I took him around and introduced him to everyone that was left just like I always did when someone came there to see me. He started asking me to tell him the names of some of the people again. I noticed they were all women he asked about. He made little comments here and there about some of the women and I realized he had that "kid in a candy store" look on his face. When the bar closed, some of us went to the hotel room of a woman who happens to be a good friend of mine. We just went to hang out for a bit before heading home. She laid down on the bed and he ended up sitting at the end of the bed. I noticed she was being a bit touchy feely with this guy. Nothing inappropriate. I did not not not not not like this one bit though. I think that the best way to describe what I was feeling was possessiveness. This had not happened before...ever. I had no claim on him but I just wanted to scream "MINE!" and yank him away from her..LOL The funny thing is that he was not even there as my date. He was there as a friend whom I invited so he could meet other people from AdultFriendFinder. I wanted him to get to know these people! So you can imagine how surprised I was at my reaction.
There was another occasion that was similar but with a different guy whom I had only met the night before. I invited him there, but this time I was looking at it as his being my date. However, I failed to mention that so we weren't on the same page that night. Again I was not a happy camper when he ended up shooting pool all night with one of the other women there.
Btw, just in case you are wondering, I did not do or say anything to cause any problems. I just kept it to myself.
I was laughing at myself about this one night with a friend of mine. I told her that I decided that my problem was that I wanted a chance to know these guys better FIRST....after all I did find them...LOL. When I'm done, then they're fair game. I know that sounds bad but hey we were drinking at the time..LOL
After all of this I decided not to invite any more men to the meet & greets.
But wait, it doesn't end there.
There were a couple of occasions that I made the mistake of taking a date with me to a social
AdultFriendFinder party. The first time there was absolutely no question that this guy and I were together. We were staying in the same hotel room together and we went to the pool party together. But that night at the bar, two of the women there were hitting on him big time. LOL...He didn't believe me when I told him that. It seems we are always the last to notice when someone is interested in us.
On another occasion, similar situation. Except this time only some people knew we were together. I walked out of the ladies room to see this one woman with her tongue down my date's throat! NOT GOOD. Now her...I wanted to pulverize her. Well...if it weren't for the fact that she was the jolly green giant and could have probably put a world of hurt on me..LOL
Of all four of those guys, I only had any kind of feelings at all whatsoever for the last one. So now if I invite a guy anywhere near another woman from AdultFriendFinder, I give him a heads up. I tell him the possibilities and how I react. That way there are no surprises.
Not too long ago I had a totally different situation. I had started seeing a guy who was fairly new to AdultFriendFinder. I seems that he was having some pretty good luck meeting women on AdultFriendFinder. For some unknown reason he would often talk about these other women...like he was bragging. I told him that I really did not care to hear about it, but for some reason he didn't stop. (He later confessed that he had a bad habit of bragging period.) We had been seeing each other fairly regularly when one day he came over, but much later than usual. This time instead of telling me about this other woman he had spent the morning with, he made up a lie. LOL...this poor guy could never get a break with me. I am very logical and analytical. I could see holes in his story a mile wide. So I asked him to explain something that didn't make sense and he panicked and fessed up. I was really pissed. I told him that I did not like the idea of him being with someone else and then coming to see me afterwards. Let's just say he's learned what the word discretion means now. LOL...He really is a great guy though.
9/24/2005 1:06 pm
...and while we THINK it's possible to keep jealousy and posessive feelings at bay (especially when we're online) - it's difficult to predict how we might react in a given situation. I think this is why many realized threesome fantasies end up a debacle when all parties involved should have been having the time of their lives.|