Thoughts on this and other dating sites  

gentelmanjim53 63M
487 posts
9/9/2006 2:33 pm

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9/14/2006 3:23 pm

Thoughts on this and other dating sites

Let me start this out by saying that I really have no rant here about the site at least as far as the success or lack there of that I have had here. I have been very fortunate to have met some very wonderful people here who are friends and count me among their friends. The fact that I have been here almost two years and have not found a companion/friend as yet is not really the issue.
The issue is that recently I have heard from some of my female friends how crazy some of the e-mails are that you ladies get. Now for a man who is trying to get your attention in a positive and nonthreatening way, reads your profile and interests and tries to make a connection, I still am doing something wrong. I just plain do not get any response. A few have responded but only once and then nothing more.
The reason for putting this here is to get some input from you ladies as to what I might do differently to get a woman attention right from the title. Ladies remember this, I do not have any nudes or dick pics (though I have thought of a beefcake shot)just me lol in all my glory with a big smile.
Ladies I would also like you to tell me some of your more humorous e-mails recieved. A lady friend had a bad experience recently (not from here) but have heard some scary stories from other bloggers. I also have heard some real ROFLMAO, dumb things guys think will have you wet with excitment just to get to them, as one girl put it "the only reason my pants were wet was cause I was laughing so hard I peed my self". So ladies please let me hear your funny stupid male tricks from AdultFriendFinder. Ya'all have a good day

ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
9/10/2006 2:19 am

I have not been here very long...but I am wondering a little on that as you stated as well. Of course the blatant obvious rude emails and approaches are a sure sign you will not get a foot in the door. But as to why the well put together thoughtful and respectful emails and approaches do not work, I am not sure but I am thinking that there many females that do get a lot of email and cannot answer all. And am sure that many are looking for something in particular, which many people will fall through as far as getting near to them. Good Luck *smiles*

tracy_de_lacy 105F
9268 posts
9/13/2006 4:09 am

AdultFriendFinder Jim the best way to meet people from here is to join groups in your area and go to their meets. I haven't met an idiot at meets yet, so far everyone I have met has become my friend in real time.

As for the mail...this system is so crap that sometimes women do answer and it doesn't get received. I sat last week and mailed over 20 people with the location of our next meet and not one was received.

Bye everyone, it was a blast

citizen4722 59M  
47341 posts
9/13/2006 8:22 am

Jim, I've been on this site for just over a year and, like yourself, have made some good friends here without actually meeting any one (although i have been asked to several meets, something always turns up and i couldn't make it)
I know a lot of girls on this site have left because of the shocking e-mails recieved (from male and female members). I have been honest in my profile and do get a good number of sincere replies.

rm_4it921 61M
1371 posts
9/13/2006 5:34 pm

Hi mate,
Sorry for the male response but I have to say I cant wait to read your responses. I have the same problem.
I really dont know what the craic is sometimes, people ask for one thing in their profiles and then dont respond at all when you contact them. I felt like giving up myself and appart from blogging I suppose I have. I dont e mail anyone much now because I feel its a waste of time and effort and I consider myself polite and fairly competent in the vocab stakes.
Cant answer your question but I hope someone can.

Take care mate.

gentelmanjim53 replies on 9/13/2006 8:35 pm:
Hey Mate, obviously an aussie by the lingo, appreciate any support here and will have to check out your blog. I am makeing more friends around the world than I am at home. G'day to ya mate.

EroticaXTC 50F

9/14/2006 5:51 am

Hi Jim, I found your blog a while back when tracy was looking for your handle (because of your stories), and I'm glad to see that you stuck around here.

Naturally, I can't speak for all of the other ladies, but I think that a lot of times the person we'll respond to will meet more "qualifications" than what we've asked for in the profile. I don't think everyone puts down every thought that they have about who they'd like to meet. That sounds discouraging, I know.
I turned off my own profile because I really did come to the conclusion that trying to meet someone this way just didn't work well for me, and everyone just ignored that I stated I was blogging only. LOL.
Since I'm not really "looking" here, I can view it a little more objectively, and I think the key to generating more interest for yourself (and anyone else, for that matter) is to let everyone see what a PRIZE you are.
The people that stand out above the rest in some way are the one's who will receive more attention, more responses.
Having a blog is the best marketing tool you could have besides the profile, and in some ways, I think it's even better, because people really get a sense of who you are that way.
When I did have my profile turned on, I wrote in bold letters to come check out my blog if they really wanted to know me, and most of them would.
I hope you find something in this bit that helps{=}

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