Women's rights to orgasm - a duty?  

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10/4/2005 10:49 pm

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Women's rights to orgasm - a duty?


Browsing the web, I have stumbled upon several lists of "dos and don'ts" on how to behave in and out of the bed. Good thing in general, but nevertheless I am disappointed by the fact that according to most of those lists, men are in general insensitive, selfish and inconsiderate and women have a basic right to be treated according to their exact preferences.
Everything of what's mentioned above is true; where's the problem? you might ask.
Firstly, I'd like to say that you are right. Many men are inconsiderate, selfish lovers and women have a right to be pleased as they deserve. The problem is, that because of the picture of men presented above, they are coerced into the role of the provider of a service of increasing difficulty: apparently, it's not up to the woman at all, if she has an orgasm. Good lovers bring great orgasms, bad lovers don't.
As an example: I dated a girl, not one of the best-looking by the way, and when we got down together, she started explaining that she is a really special woman (all are!) and that - in order to achieve an orgasm - she needs to be held, touched, massaged and shagged in very particular ways. Despite all the instructions it still had to remain - paradoxically - a very sensual setting. When she furthermore pointed out that she'll also need to have her ear licked in order to be able to take off, I left.
Last weekend, I picked up a girl in a pub and she wanted to come to my place. We just got it on, basically no talking. At a certain point, she asked if she could come now. Generously, I gave her the permission (Never before I have heard a women ask that question, admittedly). We took off and went on for some time. Afterwards, I asked her why she asked that question. She told me that she exactly knew how to "get herself off" but she didn't want to do it too early, because guys could think she might be faking it.
The reason I am writing this is exactly the result of this experience. It is great to please a woman and live up to her needs, but that doesn't mean that the woman shouldn't try to meet the man halfway. The woman's pleasure is at least to fifty per cent her responsability. More technically, women can take an active role in getting to where they want to instead of asking to "be pleasured". Otherwise it would be like switching on a vibrator, laying down next to it and complaining that the bloody thing doesn't work. Don't just ask of your lover to satisfy you. Use your lover to achieve satisfaction!

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