Mission Impossible  

gameonatdidashve 42M/41F
43 posts
2/4/2006 4:16 am

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3/10/2009 2:34 pm

Mission Impossible

Why is it so hard to find like minded people with whom one can cultivate a relationship ?

Is it really asking for the impossible ???

Ok, we do understand that for the majority of folks around here it might be hard due to the size of their countries and that the "matching" couple might live a few hundred miles away, but for us on the tiny pebble of ours, it takes maybe an hour to get from one tip to the other.

So it's obviously got nothing to do with distances !!

So, what exactly is it ?
What holds people back from at least giving their desires a kick in the back side, and start off with a simple chat?

OK, it's a bit like finding a needle in a haystack, but hey - they did indeed manage to find a needle in a haystack on MythBusters, so why is it so hard for us ?????

rm_sting40004 40M
3 posts
2/5/2006 2:02 pm

Live and let live. Each and everyone has a double life. Just get going with your own life and follow your instincts. There is so much to enjoy especially with others who share the same thoughts. There is nothing wrong with speaking your mind, but yes with the right person at the right place and time.

gameonatdidashve 42M/41F
17 posts
2/6/2006 12:50 am

Indeed Live and Let Live sting40004 - that is actually our religion !
We tend to disagree however that everyone has a double life. We do not. It's just that certain aspects of one's life have to unfortunately be kept less public than others due to circumstances beyond our control, such as, living on an island where the majority of the folks strive to stick their noses in the business of everyone else.

Could that be the reason why fellow islanders find it so hard to get things going, even on sites such as this !?!?

lookforsquiert 44M
17 posts
2/14/2006 5:32 am

Hi your both,
I'am during April in Sliema for language holiday. Do you know interesting pub or bar where I can go in the evening. Do you know good, cheap restaurants for havin Dinner or lunch? If you are interest to give me a comment my thnaks in advance.


gameonatdidashve 42M/41F
17 posts
2/14/2006 7:38 am

Being based in Sliema is a good choice because it's within walking distance from St. Julians and Paceville - where all the night life is.

There are plenty of bars & restaurants in the area, so you'll have plenty of choice - and if you're looking for some adult fun you can always check out "Steam" - a lap dancing club in Paceville.

lookforsquiert 44M
17 posts
2/15/2006 6:19 am

Thanks for your prompt reply.

rm_vinisrosso 43M
1 post
4/26/2006 3:11 am


i am practically new here.

i see your point natida, no its not a mission impossible but nearly. and yes we all do live doubvle lives i belive.

our island bing so samll is an adavanmtage and a big disatvantage at the same time. courage and stigma are very important elements one has to consder. courage to go away from tyhe norm, the accepted and expected behavior. keep in mind that anyone married is oftren constrained with thge partner in that the partner often does not share the idea of sharing, or alternative life style. there is also the issue of relegion.

live life to the fullest should be everyones' credo, but the opposite is correct.

well we only have one life, so lets all live it/


l indrizzi tieghi huwa vino-rosso ghand postashuna

rm_Mushroom572 67M/63F
12 posts
7/22/2006 2:47 am

Game - hopefully, since you wrote the first entry in this thread, you have managed to find your ideal couple (or more), if not from this group, from our own group.

If you have not, we are amazed, other couples are really missing out in a very big way.


Mushroom and BrownSexyEyes

gameonatdidashve 42M/41F
17 posts
7/24/2006 2:31 pm

Hey Mush, nice to see you here too
Yes, a nice cirle of friends has been established since, however new additions to the group are always welcome aye !!


rm_Mushroom572 67M/63F
12 posts
1/22/2007 12:45 am

It is some time since anything was added to this thread so lets re-cap/update.
Having spoken to several couples visiting the island from abroad it would appear that Malta couples are not unique in finding difficulty in finding compatible couples to play with locally. Indeed, many couples from abroad have emphasised to us how difficult it is and they have to travel hundreds of miles to meet up with similar couples that suit them.
Actually, Malta seems to have more couples per square km who are at least "interested" on the swinging lifestyle than many larger countries.
The largest restriction we can see to couples getting down to having fun is self imposed. Obviously everyone has their own likes and dislikes but if you put up too many pre-conceived hurdles then your chances of enjoyment must be reduced. If you look for perfection in the other couple you might as well give up all together.
Because we are older than most couples we tend to wait for other couples to contact us; especially the younger couples as we quite understand that we are less attractive to them.
Fortunately some more mature minded younger couples see the advantage of meeting up and having fun with a stable sensible older couple that are not into guessing games, wasting time and drinking too much to get up the nerve to do anything; but are able to provide a great fun evening.
Having said that, we do not advocate jumping into bed with just any couple. We always meet couples socially for a chat over a cup of coffee or a drink and never swing on the first meeting. If the first meeting goes well and all four are then happy to meet for a fun evening then we go for it. If not, at least we have made some more friends and that is not a bad thing in this day and age.

rm_hotguymalta 42M

4/25/2007 12:45 am

Hi I am married, But my wife would never swap as she is brought up in that old fashioned way. I on the other hand love to experament. People might say its wrong to do what I do but I feel its the only way I can express my sexuality. As I was looking through this sight I didn't believe the amount of Islanders that were on it. Yet still its hard to make contact. Hope you have found what you have been looking for.

rm_Mushroom572 67M/63F
12 posts
5/1/2007 1:20 am

We do feel for you and do understand your problem.
There are two arguments regarding your situation. One view is that why should you not try and enjoy life and exercise your sexuality just because your wife is locked in a restricted mentality. The other view is that you should honour your wife's standards and beliefs and not attempt to cheat on her.
We are fortunate in that we have overcome the brainwashing and broken free as a couple to enjoy sexual experiences with other couples. It has made our marriage very much stronger in that once you have removed the sexual barrier between your spouse and share sexual experiences with others together, there is little or nothing left to hide from each other.
You have to play your cards as they fall, a good hand would to be able to open up to your wife and get her on-side. It is possible but may take time and patience to convince her that you love her and the difference between that love and enjoying sexual experiences together as a couple with other couples.

rm_blondisfun 49M
1 post
5/23/2007 8:01 am

hi all,
Cannot agree with mushroom though. Self-interest perhaps, but if important as it is that people's ways of life are tolerated, then one of those lifestyles to be respected should be that he explores sexual adventures while she remains in the traditional lifestyle. There are many reasons why this could happen, and who can judge them from the outside.

censu444 50M  
66 posts
6/18/2007 6:08 am

Hey Mushroom, Untouched_23, Gameon and others I don't know,

There are many influences with the Maltese community and these vary from religion brain-washing, social status reputation, neighbor talk/gossip fear and the fact that it's a small community females and couples take extra extra precautions to discreetness (which could also hinder an encounter sometimes)
I met many couples and females who are quite happy going to swinger clubs and nudist beaches abroad but never to Malta. Other couple swingers and bisexual females swing only with visiting foreigners to safe-guard themselves from local gossip or "spread of word".

This are issues beyond our control and one has to work around them and cannot beat them, unfortunately.

rm_Mushroom572 67M/63F
12 posts
7/15/2007 1:30 pm

Hi Blondisfun

Sorry it has taken so long to get back - but this is not a part of the site that we visit very often.

You have the perfect right to disagree with anything we say - however where we have given both a pro and con view, it is very difficult to understand what you disagree with - perhaps it is a defensive reaction LOL.

Untouched_23 - It would be interesting to know exactly what your point was exactly or even approximately ?????

Censu - A good summary of some of the many problems facing individuals and couples in Malta - wouldn't life be boring if everything was easy

SecusArrayRiper 46M
2 posts
1/14/2009 11:35 pm

hello all maltese citizens

24239361 50M
3 posts
2/8/2009 11:47 am

Hi All,
I read with interest all that you said. I think that the problem here is to start, poeple are afraid to show what they believe in (on this topic). But things are improving and i see more singles and couples joining this site, especially since i returned to our rock. I am now single, but know some couples who would love to get into this. Maybe we should organise some kind of gathering, maybe even on the net at first and then we see where it will take us. Till then enjoy and take care....

rm_anodonis 46M
4 posts
2/24/2009 10:35 am

Not sure why game is saying this we sent an introduction to them in order to start to get to know them and they have not even given us a reply.. So for sure this does not help matters does it... So if you read this game practice what you preach and answer when someone writes to you... Or maybe mail was not received then in that case my apologies and hopefully this will help us get going...

It is hard to find someone for one thing most people are paranoid as hell so trust is an issue and Malta being so small this make this problem more concentrated and also trying to find people that both you and you partner like is a difficult thing to do..

We are very new to this and to be quite honest we are a little disappointed at how difficult it is to get started and make new friends so please if you are a good looking fun loving couple contact us, there is so much we need to learn about this life style and we need some one to teach us...

gameonatdidashve 42M/41F
17 posts
3/8/2009 7:02 am

Anodonis, for starters, you were right - when you send messages with a full email address in them, this sites message filters will delete it so recipient will not even know you contacted them. You have to use your imagination when sending emails.

I guess by the time you read this, you will know exactly who we are, and how we practice what we preach. We are a genuine couple that loves to meet people with the same mindset. We had actually given up on this site years ago, and concentrated our efforts on other areas of the net. However, thanks to Anodonis we've decided to get back into this site and become faithful members of this massive community.

For those of you that doubt how genuine we are, we are validated real both on this website as well as others.

Finally, Anodonis, I guess you are giggling, now that you found out who we are, and that you had actually met us a couple of years back !!!

gameonatdidashve 42M/41F
17 posts
3/8/2009 7:05 am

24239361, just for your info, social meetings are organised once a month for genuine interested couples. Unfortunately, these events are strictly for couples. So if you know of any couples that might be interested, please ask them to get in touch.

rm_anodonis 46M
4 posts
3/8/2009 11:53 am

Isn't it just horrible when this happens... I have to apologies to game on as he is correct we did meet a few years back and they are great people we would love to meet again and catch up.

These people are not only genuine but also helpful so thank you mate for all the sound advice you have given us, it is much appreciated.

You ever need anything mate just let me know.

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