SHIT, FUCK, HELP  

funintheday2006 56M
8366 posts
6/22/2006 1:17 pm

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SHIT, FUCK, HELP


Ok, I have a serious problem and Im pretty scared!!

In my earlier blogs I alluded to a girl I met in a café in Spain and had a relationship with for some time.
What I omitted to mention was the reason we split and that was that I made a somewhat insensitive remark regarding the number of females from her country invading Europe and the USA in order to get passports. To achieve this end many were marrying foreigners and leaving them soon after said passport arrived.
Natural reaction, and I quote “Is that what you think, bastard, is that why you think I’m here, you think I’m a whore, you pathetic shit, is that it?”Unsurprisingly it wasn’t long before she left to study in the UK and we have stayed in touch more or less constantly since.
Every time I asked ‘Have you got a boyfriend yet’ the answer has invariably been ‘ Why do I want a man, I’ve already got one.’
That answer I always considered an evasion, now I am concerned.
On a number of occasions, usually after a small amount of alcohol she has said,” When I am ready, I will have you, trust me.”
Naturally, I have taken these statements with a pinch of salt, as you would.
Now, she visits me regularly and today I received an email that says
‘ I will arrive Friday about 5, leave keys.(normal for her)
You can go to work Saturday morning till 12 but do not make plans for Sunday, we are going out.(slightly unusual)
Make your plans, I am now about ready. I told you to trust me.’(fucking unique)

Now that’s fairly dictatorial and what’s worrying is that it is normal for her to talk to me like that and for me to comply. The last sentence, as you can imagine, brings me out in a cold sweat. What does it mean exactly, I shudder to think. Many times she has said the When I am ready statement but, I always thought it was hot air, now I’m not so sure!
To give you the full picture, she still chooses my clothes and occasionally I will get a package similar to a red cross parcel with appropriate clothing in it and she will visit to ‘take me shopping.’ This tradition started about 3 months after we started living together and I came home from work and was informed that all my suits and outer garments had been taken to a charity shop. Now these clothes were not £25 suits, believe me, and when I protested was asked ‘Do you want to look like an old man?’ How do you answer that? So, the next day was spent making me look NOT like an old man.

I have to describe her to you so you understand my fear and can advise me(!)
She is a really pretty woman of 32 who regularly gets asked for ID when buying alcohol ( yes, really, she looks exactly like she did when we met), beautiful body and with a character that is a cross between Atilla the Hun, sweetbabydee, Precious Orchid and TabithaElectrica. Now any one of the three bloggers mentioned would be a hell of a challenge for any man, can you imagine the combination?! Atillas drive, sweets attitude, precious sweetness and Tabithas sultriness? What fucking chance have I GOT?
What the fuck am I going to do, what does she want?

She can also gang up on me all on her own and, apart from my mother, is the only woman who can beat me in an argument every time.

Now, you help me out here

You can see my predicament, what can I do???

catkit13 66F

6/22/2006 2:44 pm

all i know is, i'm looking for similar traits in a man on this side of the pond . . . does she have a dominant brother living in the states???
oh, btw, ENJOY! what's the worst that can happen?


funintheday2006 replies on 6/22/2006 10:41 pm:
No brothers, only child, used to getting what she wants. The worst that can hppaen?? Jeez, I dread to think, the womans made of steel

florallei 99F

6/22/2006 4:11 pm

STEPS TO TAKE

1) have the blue pills handy
2)make room in closet for her clothes
3)enjoy, enjoy, enjoy
4)tell her you are ready - no wimping out
5)just answer "yes dear" to everything she says
6)you are a strong man, you can take a strong woman
she sounds terrific for you.
7)inform all women here you are no longer available
apologize to her for what you said...

You get the drift...step up to the mark...big guy...you can do it!!!

Am thrilled for you and her!

LOL when is the wedding?
Hugs,
Florallei


funintheday2006 replies on 6/22/2006 10:43 pm:
Pills not needed, closet already has somne of hers in it, in fact more than mine, enjoy, how the hell can I?? The rest, who knows!!

JuicyBBW1001 54F

6/22/2006 4:29 pm

If you like that kind of dominance go for it. However if a man did that to me I would run for the hills.

Juicy


funintheday2006 replies on 6/22/2006 10:44 pm:
Shes not dominant, just bloody relentless, she wears yu down and then attacks when your at your weakest

maverick1255 51M
3953 posts
6/22/2006 7:47 pm

You're screwed!!! Has it been like ...... 9 months? LMAO!!!!!

Oh, you are so TOAST! Liquidate all assets. Leave the country. I hear Mexico is real nice! LOL!! Or the USA!

OR If you want to keep your life - step up and decide if this is what you want. Yes - ok, just let it happen. Have a nice life 'kept' man. If No - then tell HER! And shut her down. NOW!!

Mav - you're really screwed .....


funintheday2006 replies on 6/22/2006 10:45 pm:
First sentence, last sentence. My thoughts exactly!

catkit13 66F

6/22/2006 10:58 pm

ok, so i misspoke - i MEANT to say, what's the BEST that can happen? use your charm and imagination and body and ENJOY!


funintheday2006 replies on 6/23/2006 12:02 am:
Charm 1% imagination 99% body : nothing left, its the imagination thats set in..

ella1966 50F
1528 posts
6/23/2006 2:29 am

While I have one, I wont give you a pussy comment like the pussies you fancy on this site. Why don't you be a man, grow a body temperature and face up to your unhappiness in your marriage at home? I know I have to in some regard. Or must you suffer in all aspects and then get pussy whipped by a Spanish woman. God, I got dropped for saying a lot less in an email to my "love" and he never wanted to hear an email from me again!

Pardon the pun, but all I can see in respect to the Iberian maiden is alot of "red flags", hardly a woman you would want to have in your life, is she? So the sex is good, get over it, and stop thinking with your dick and use the PhD you have earned to come up with a better solution.

Sorry, I am in a mood today, bugger the turkey and avocados foccaccias, I am sure you can find similar or better in the Harrod's food stall (like I remember being impressed by a mango and chicken b baguette, cost a pretty penny, then ate it on the side of the street).

Must be the bipolarity coming back? I knew I should have changed me bloody location to The Australian Antarctic Territory, but the dickheads on this site don't have it listed.

Goodbye for now


funintheday2006 replies on 6/23/2006 3:22 am:
Now I might be wrong here but, are you cranky today hon? How do you grow a temperature, and I aint married. I'm not sure if you got me confused with someone else here as the lady in question is not Spanish and my dick is brainless and doesn't think.
The lady is already in my life and has been for some years. She's a great and valued friend and companion.
The pussies on here are my cyber friends too and you can have a go at me hon but, not them, thats not fair.
You cant bugger turkey and avacodo babe, its only breast meat. Now I want you to sit down and take a deep breath and you come back anytime, you hear

funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
6/23/2006 4:34 am

Hi all
As this is an open blog, you can say what you want to about me but, please, if you want to have a go at anyone else who posts here then it is good manners to invite them to your blog and have your say in the relative privacy of your own space. Please respect other people here. Thanks


rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
6/23/2006 12:54 pm

You're a dead man. To which chapel shall we send the flowers?


funintheday2006 replies on 6/23/2006 1:01 pm:
OMG kelli, dont even go there! Welcome to crazy land babe, thanks for popping in and reminding me of her goals!

Kancana 46F

6/23/2006 5:36 pm

Thanks to her for the changes on your wardrobe, so that you will look younger and by the way man look more sexy by the age of 40.
If you would look into her beautiful and she to beat you on an argument, it is all your decision.

Is the matter of respect for both partner and not taking control on each other.

If both of you are happy with what is your doing or commitment then just go ahead, still there is room for improvement.


Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.
~ Helen Keller



funintheday2006 replies on 6/23/2006 10:56 pm:
She doesn't take control hon, if you knew me in the real world you'd know that I surrender only when I decide I want to!! There will always be room for improvement in me, I have a very low starting point! But why does she buy me bra's??

ella1966 50F
1528 posts
6/24/2006 6:33 pm

Sorry for the misunderstanding and comment whoring. Yes, you were correct. Sour grapes? Nah, I don't givva shit really.


ella1966 50F
1528 posts
6/24/2006 8:10 pm

    Quoting funintheday2006:
    Hi all
    As this is an open blog, you can say what you want to about me but, please, if you want to have a go at anyone else who posts here then it is good manners to invite them to your blog and have your say in the relative privacy of your own space. Please respect other people here. Thanks
I am really sorry fun. My previous post did not do justice to an apology. My earlier post was way out-of-line and shows I really had no comprehension of your situation at all, so I am sorry.

It doesn't sound like a really healthy relationship, but only you can weigh it all up in your heart. I have given up understanding any man besides my husband, anyway. I don't think you can possibly expect others who don't know you in real life to understand how you truly feel, it is an impossibility. Yes, I am one angry cow. Not having much of a happy life myself, but I have stopped really caring and life goes on, as they say. Please let me know if my apology was insufficient.

Best Wishes.


funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
6/24/2006 11:11 pm

    Quoting ella1966:
    Sorry for the misunderstanding and comment whoring. Yes, you were correct. Sour grapes? Nah, I don't givva shit really.
Everybody gets cranky hon, its part of life and your apology is accepted unreserverdly


funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
6/24/2006 11:16 pm

    Quoting ella1966:
    I am really sorry fun. My previous post did not do justice to an apology. My earlier post was way out-of-line and shows I really had no comprehension of your situation at all, so I am sorry.

    It doesn't sound like a really healthy relationship, but only you can weigh it all up in your heart. I have given up understanding any man besides my husband, anyway. I don't think you can possibly expect others who don't know you in real life to understand how you truly feel, it is an impossibility. Yes, I am one angry cow. Not having much of a happy life myself, but I have stopped really caring and life goes on, as they say. Please let me know if my apology was insufficient.

    Best Wishes.
Ella babe, it is easy to react, we all do it, what is difficult and shows character is to recognise what we did and have the courage to put things right. You did that and I really appreciate it, honestly.
I read your blog a lot and know you have been hurt and are angry, thats normal. I just hope your life improves and you find what you are seeking. Take care.


ella1966 50F
1528 posts
6/25/2006 2:42 am

    Quoting funintheday2006:
    Ella babe, it is easy to react, we all do it, what is difficult and shows character is to recognise what we did and have the courage to put things right. You did that and I really appreciate it, honestly.
    I read your blog a lot and know you have been hurt and are angry, thats normal. I just hope your life improves and you find what you are seeking. Take care.
Well fun, it is nice to be called a babe, even if the only reason is that I have always cried alot in my life! Anyway, I should apologise to the lovely women you mentioned in your post who I took a swipe at with my "pussy comment", being sweetbabydee, Precious Orchid and TabithaElectrica (I assume They are ALL handles of women on this site?).

Sometimes I sit on both sides of the fence in this regard. People complaining about the blatant sexuality and flaunting of it, by both men and women and then realising that it is as much the right of these people to for example send explicit emails or display their genitalia and send other people pictures of them, as much as it is other people's rights to be offended by them. Then there is always the option on one's profile of being able to not view explicit photos. Anyway, I digress...

Bloody hell, I get myself in the poo sometimes. I am no good at being a bitch, I should just stick to being a loser in the pecking order of things!

Regards

ella X


funintheday2006 56M
9659 posts
6/25/2006 9:24 pm

    Quoting ella1966:
    Well fun, it is nice to be called a babe, even if the only reason is that I have always cried alot in my life! Anyway, I should apologise to the lovely women you mentioned in your post who I took a swipe at with my "pussy comment", being sweetbabydee, Precious Orchid and TabithaElectrica (I assume They are ALL handles of women on this site?).

    Sometimes I sit on both sides of the fence in this regard. People complaining about the blatant sexuality and flaunting of it, by both men and women and then realising that it is as much the right of these people to for example send explicit emails or display their genitalia and send other people pictures of them, as much as it is other people's rights to be offended by them. Then there is always the option on one's profile of being able to not view explicit photos. Anyway, I digress...

    Bloody hell, I get myself in the poo sometimes. I am no good at being a bitch, I should just stick to being a loser in the pecking order of things!

    Regards

    ella X
Thanks for that Ell, sop far as being in the poo fgoes, Im usually protected from the sun up to my neck!!


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