BDSM...... FUN GODS OPEN FORUM  

funintheday2006 56M
8366 posts
7/13/2006 9:25 pm

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BDSM...... FUN GODS OPEN FORUM

BDSM I want answers.

Lets discuss it.....

I have absolutely no experience of any of the aspects at all of this lifestyle and I am intrigued, mainly due to the fact that a couple of blogger friends are into it and I do not understand at all.

Not only that, am I missing out??!!

So.. tell me your views and any experience of bondage, spanking, that kinda stuff.

There are blogs here that deal with the lifestyle but, they are so fucking deep they confuse me.
I am so fucking naive its scary

Have you done any? Would you like to?

If so, why. If not, why not?


rm_WackyEPP 52F
8470 posts
7/13/2006 10:19 pm

I've dabbled into some of the light stuff and really enjoyed it. There are many aspects to it. Like many things in life, you just have to try it, if you don't like it move on and try something else.

xx


Wacky Jacky


funintheday2006 replies on 7/13/2006 10:47 pm:
Whadya do, how, did ya laugh, was it erotic, sensual, go on, tell me more

funintheday2006 replies on 7/13/2006 10:48 pm:
It'll be our secret, no one reads this blog anyway..

smirkingdevil 48M
237 posts
7/13/2006 11:02 pm

You should know that hardcore BDSM is not exactly an easy thing to "look into". It takes time and requires a small amount of patience.

The people into hardcore BDSM are genuine people, just like any other people who enjoy other types of hobbies or activities. However, unlike remote control model airplane enthusiasts, one can not just head to the local hobby shop and "get aquainted". The BDSM community is "closed", more for their protection than those of others, due to the activities they enjoy.

Your best bet is to find a local "dungeon" or private club in your area. Check the adult listings in a newspaper or from publications sold at your local adult bookstore. Or, visit a local bar that caters to the BDSM crowd, maybe once a weeknight and try to make contacts there. Your goal should be to find someone willing to "help" you get aquainted and hopefully mentor you.

If you look at some of the personal listings on ALT, you will notice many people will not tolerate "beginners", but many do. The mentoring process is not a small issue, so don't feel mad if someone does not want to help you. They may have helped others in the past and just don't feel like going through the process again.

I got myself completely submersed into the BDSM community in the Los Angeles area. There are some genuinely good people within it and they are out to have a good time. The issue of safety is the only thing that holds them back from openning the community wide. Just be respectfull of that fact and you should have no problems for what you seek.


funintheday2006 replies on 7/13/2006 11:08 pm:
Wow, thanks smirky, thats surreal. Its like its a Masons type thing, Im even more intigued now but, being 'mentored' is not a comfortable feeling. Mentored into what? What are the activities, what do they do?? Bloody intriguing.

smirkingdevil 48M
237 posts
7/13/2006 11:24 pm

Oh yeah, you wanted to know about experiences. Let's see...

I've seen a naked man, blindfolded and ball gagged, chained to a St Andrews cross (the kind that looks like an "X") and paddled so hard with a ping pong paddle his senses completely left him. This was after he had endured about 15 minutes of abuse (nothing permanent, of course). His dominatrix looked at us (those sitting and watching in amazement) when his body went completely limp. She smacked him hard again, but no response. "He's off flying," she shrugged to us. This was the man's goal during the whole scene (BDSM speak for bondage play). His mind had had enough in dealing with the abuse his body was having to endure, so it "disconnected" his brain from his body. It was no easy task getting that man's brain reconnected to his body. It took about 15 minutes (ice cubes on his testicles did the trick!) and he was completely disoriented when he came back from losing all control. I saw him 30 minutes afterwards, completely satisfied.

I've tied a woman to the bed and spanked/flogged/whipped her for over an hour. The idea is to "warm" the person up to the point where the pleasure/pain aspect starts to become one for the submissive. I never got the submissives I played with to orgasm, but I have seen others achieve the effect in a relatively short amout of time. The Dominate should really be into the physical aspect of the scene. I found I just couldn't get excited about abusing the submissives and that is why I stopped playing in the BDSM community.

I hope you find what you are looking for. Let us know what you discover!


funintheday2006 replies on 7/13/2006 11:38 pm:
Not sure Im looking Smirk but, that was awesome and really fucking scary. Submissive is certainly nnot for me and I would feel the same about hurting someone, I think

catkit13 66F

7/14/2006 12:54 am

finaly, fun, a question that's easy for me to answer! i'm not into the "lifestyle" but i absolutely love a man who's dominant in the bedroom. my real life requires that i'm in charge, in control blah blah blah, and so there's nothing more exciting - to me, anyway - than to relinquish control to a man in the bedroom. i enjoy being blindfolded, not knowing where he might touch me next, which toy he might pull out of his bag of tricks . . . and spanking? nothing gets me hotter or more excited! again, not as a lifestyle, but to add some wonderful spice to an already-great relationship . . . kind of like the bonus at the end of a long day, i'm ready to give myself over to him
i don't have a dominant bone in my own body, so i'm not able to return the favor to my partner, but he (whoever he might be) doesn't seem to mind. i'm into total pleasure, not pain or humiliation, and when we both enjoy my fantasy, then the pleasure is over the top!
ok, maybe tmi? but you did ask, didn't you?


funintheday2006 replies on 7/14/2006 2:28 am:
oOOO, THAT ACTUALLY SOUNDS VERY EROTIC..:d

000TBoy 42M
194 posts
7/14/2006 3:24 am

I'm with Dee on this one, can't help it, I'm stapled to her.

never really tried it S&M stylee, bit of light is good but I like to think that I'm too clever (I qualified it smartass! so don't even think about kicking a self de(pr)(f)ecator!!!) to suspend reality like that without elephant tranquilisers! It's all a game no?

Plus it's not really my bag humiliation and shit, all a bit dark! I'm a lover, not afighter!!!!

I'd be happy to come round and beat you tho fun, it would be a pleasure, just don't think it would turn me on!!!
Happy weekends by the way!


funintheday2006 replies on 7/14/2006 3:37 am:
You THINK you're too clever?? That must be novel for you, thinking
Now, if your a lover not a fighter I think coming round to beat me could be a BAD idea, i might just screw ya My gay tendencies might just unclost themselves

funintheday2006 replies on 7/14/2006 3:40 am:
BTW Thank you, you are page boy, got the gear??@D

EroticaXTC 49F

7/14/2006 3:28 am

oh my, lol!! you two are hilarious!!

no experience whatsoever...haven't met anyone in person I'd willingly submit to, lol, ...and I don't think I really care to completely dominate someone either...I'm all for equality


funintheday2006 replies on 7/14/2006 3:39 am:
Hi Ero, shes a hoot isn't she?? Looks like a panda though, but, I do like fluffy animals
I'm all for equality myself: You suck me, I lick you and toss a coin to see who goes first

JuicyBBW1001 54F

7/14/2006 5:15 am

I am a pleasure seeker no blindfolds for me or restraints. However I think Dee will put a hurtin on you on your wedding night sure wish I could be a fly on the wall for that one.

Juicy


funintheday2006 replies on 7/14/2006 5:27 am:
There will be no walls for flys, we will be displaying our initial nuptuals in the volcano outside the Mirage.. All welcome

rm_WackyEPP 52F
8470 posts
7/14/2006 9:13 am

I'm not into the really hard stuff. I'm a 'switch' but to be honest I prefer to be sub. I love to dress as a Mistress, it makes me feel extremely sexy.

Blindfolds and bondage can heighten your senses to the extreme. But also wearing sexy lingerie, leather or rubber can all be a good part of it, depending on what my Master wishes.

Maybe you should read Part3 of my 24hrs & Horny story, that was based on a real experience, only I was tied to a bed and wearing leather, there was also a lot more than fruit involved.

On my profile, there is a link to my ALT profile. If you need any more details, mail me.

xx


Wacky Jacky


funintheday2006 replies on 7/14/2006 8:19 pm:
Oo, interesting, I will check it out

000TBoy 42M
194 posts
7/14/2006 3:57 pm

I think that door was broken down a long time ago!
Now, Sailor boy or Liberace?
At least at an AdultFriendFinder wedding there'll be plenty of rings to choose from!


funintheday2006 replies on 7/14/2006 8:20 pm:
You are correct ooty, many many rings, we fly soon

IAmRubytuesday 55F
3193 posts
7/15/2006 4:01 am

beats me.......

Q.2 flies in an airing cupboard. Which one's the soldier?
A.The one on the tank.


funintheday2006 replies on 7/15/2006 7:09 pm:
Is that a request

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