Sound off swingers!  

funinoakpoint 44M/50F
2 posts
2/6/2006 8:42 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Sound off swingers!

We would like to hear how other REAL swingers address the anonymous surfer. Blind dates?

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
2/6/2006 2:58 pm

Well, by definition, as a single straight woman, I'm not a swinger. However, as someone who has been on this site since nearly it started, I can give you advice.

When you sign up for any personals site, you are setting yourself up on blind dates. Which means, meet in public, don't run off to a hotel with strangers or go to meet them at their house. Use common sense. Realize not everyone on here is looking for what you want. Some swingers are sex in front of others, or touching and no sex, and some are full switch. Respect others on the site, don't do things that would get you kicked out of a swing club.

Don't rush out to meet people. Realize a good number of "couples" on this site are actually men with no partner, looking to pick up single bisexual chicks, thinking they can meet more women if they pretend to be part of a couple.

Also keep in mind, there are LOTS of couples on here where she's just doing it because he pressured her into it. Although, most of them are looking for single women, not other couples. There are also the couples who saw a porn movie or watched something about swinging on Real Sex or something and think they'd love to try it, until they get into the situation. Over the years, I've hear some really weird stories of how one half of a couple will freak out massively the first time out.

All in all, if someone keeps putting off meeting, like for months and keeps it to chatting or phone, move on. Keep them as a friend if you like, but if they have to be pressured into meeting, they're not serious. If you get a bad feeling about someone, don't go there. If you meet for coffee or dinner to see if you like another couple and the chemistry isn't there or if it's a bad vibe, be up front about how you don't think it's going to work out. As I said, the entire idea of meeting people over the Internet is setting yourself up on blind dates. So use common sense.

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
2/6/2006 3:58 pm

We meet for drinks in a public place first. As for the occassional surfer, I ignore them!

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