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When I first came to AdultFriendFinder, my conception of what I wanted was somewhat different than it is now.
We (husband and have experimented a bit over the years with other men and even a couple now and then. Last time (before AdultFriendFinder) was about 10 years ago. In oregon we didn't have any AdultFriendFinder the only thing a person could do was make the dangerous, approach someone you knew and see what happens, sometimes it was a total screw-up. excuses and apologies had to be made.
like searching for the needle in the haystack.
I did have a couple of "affairs" (with hubbys OK) and we did initiate a couple of contacts thru a local swingers magazine, never worked out.
Seems what I was looking for was NOT an option.
Friends first just to get comfortable and then let whatever happens,..Happen.
was always quickies. Never found a couple to be close comfortable friends with...LOTS of pressure to 'perform'
When we drew up my profile hubby decided to not participate, said it wasn't worth the drama and games. so we set it up for me alone.
My initial approach was to limit my contacts to just those we felt might be able to connect with.
I accepted a very large number of invites and met a LOT of men and a few couples. VERY FEW of which ever made it to our home. I absolutely refuse to go the hotel or motel route. Only went that route ONCE.
we gained 2 men over the last year that were intigrated into our lives. became very close to me and my husband ( understand hubby is straight and I do not mean they were in his pants too)
BBQ's, Dinners, evenings at home. just plain simple, no drama fun.
If you read my blogs you know the outcome of one of the "friends"
The other one is really a true blue friend...to both of us. He has made several choices over the last year that proves that to us.
I have in the interum entertained a few others in our search for that elusive person.
Men in general...LIE. about everything...and they will not read the profile before contacting me. Then they get rude when I tell them no. I always tell any contact to go back and READ the profile. We have had to rewrite some of it often due to men and women NOT READING before contacting.