Question: BJ vs. Intercourse  

frogger1995 39F
4342 posts
8/31/2005 5:27 am

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Question: BJ vs. Intercourse


As those of you who read my past couple of blogs know, I gave head this weekend to wake Mr. HMMV up. It went on quite a while until he finally decided he wanted to fuck my tits, at which point he came instantly. So of course I had to ask him how he came so quickly from some tit action but didn’t appear to even come close to cumming as I was going at it with my mouth for at least half an hour. As men seem to be wont to do (see previous posts of mine), he was clueless when it came to critical questions about the blow job.

Though he was the first man I ever asked about this, it is quite common based on my experience. Many times I have felt that I could go on for a week straight and the man would never come. Now I am as willing as the next woman to please the man I am with but the oral muscles were only meant to take so much action (not to mention the knees).

I hate to ask another inane question about blow jobs (thus making me look even more naive than I already am), but how can a man come so quickly during intercourse but last for eons during oral? Does this only happen when it’s exceptionally bad…or exceptionally good? Do you purposely hold it in so as to prolong the entire experience? Be honest!

MikeT375 61M
12 posts
8/31/2005 9:37 am

Flogger, Good morning.I personally try and prolong cumming and enjoy the experience when i get a blow job. I look at it as foreplay, getting ready for the hot pussy or ass. But, if the lady deep throats me... sucks with more pressure on the tip... and uses her teeth lightly on my cock,i find that it's hard not to cum. I prefer to eat a hot, wet pussy moreso than getting a blowjob.. The expressions on her face as she cums and cums really turns me on.

MikeT375


BigNorman1000 42M

8/31/2005 10:06 am

Well, in my experience, I tend to hold on longer during a blow job because the rhythm is different a varies depending on how the woman does it. She could go fast and constant, and I would probably cum quickly. But if she slows it down or changes it up a little, that allows me to go for quite a while. During intercourse it is usually a pretty steady rhythm and if it doesn't get varied a little, I would probably finish up fast. Just my experience.


BigNorman1000 42M

8/31/2005 10:09 am

Well, in my experience, I tend to hold on longer during a blow job because the rhythm is different and varies depending on how the woman does it. She could go fast and constant, and I would probably cum quickly. But if she slows it down or changes it up a little, that allows me to go for quite a while. During intercourse it is usually a pretty steady rhythm and if it doesn't get varied a little, I would probably finish up fast. Just my experience.


WildWon1982 34M

8/31/2005 11:25 am

I prefer full on penetration, cause like I've said previously, I'm all about getting the women off. But I have gotten some good head in my day. It does take a little bit longer for me to get off on it, mostly because it's not consistent. With intercourse, the dick is in, thrust, thrust, thrust, and finish. When a chick goes down on me, sometimes my dick's in her mouth, sometimes she strokes, sometimes she pulls it out and licks my balls, which actually separates them long enough so that they can't produce the semen, and the orgasm process is prolonged. If she just sucked the entire time, without stopping, or coming up for air, a blowjob would probably take about the same amount of time for me as good old fashioned fucking does.


Drafthandle05 44M
1 post
8/31/2005 11:52 am

Um, it's because most girls don't know how to give blowjobs. That's OK, because to be fair, most guys aren't the most Cunning Linguists.


bigman48002 60M
19 posts
8/31/2005 12:23 pm

I think the reasons vary. I do agree it depends on how the BJ is given. Some I have had were novices and didn't know about certain stimulating points on a man's penis. It's just like giving a woman oral pleasure. You need to work it and find the way that makes the woman moan and thrust those hips the most. In other words, be cognizant of what pleases your partner the most. Another factor is the mental and physical pleasure of entering a woman's vagina. It is wet, warm, soft and completely wraps around the man. Feeling the inside of a woman and the touching and caressing of the rest of the body that can occur during intercourse, is very stimulating.
Now, my suggestion to you is also my philosophy. If at first you don't "suck"ceed, try, try again.


mustang65695 57M
54 posts
8/31/2005 3:31 pm

Reasons vary. Could be that your getting them so excited during the blow job that as soon as the enter you (being that you are also tight) they just can't hold it. A lot of guys also need to have their cock stroked at the same time of the bj. Younger men seem to have trouble lasting as long during intercourse we have all been there. My best guess is that you are a beautiful woman and as soon as they get on top and look into your eyes they cum!


MrNuttz05 49M

8/31/2005 5:48 pm

Good day'. For the most part when you are performing oral on men, you are in control. That is for the most part. When we are in control of the situation, that's when we like to cum. It's a mental thing! Here is a test! The next time you try oral sex, let him take control. Put your hands down to your knees & ask him to do whatever. In your mind count to 30, I ensure an orgasm.....


Greenguy96 43M

8/31/2005 7:52 pm

Good question, Bifman is right about the vagina, also it depents on the position, for me "doggie style" can Squeeze me and I cum quick, but durring oral it does take a while. Many times it's becouse she is trying hard to plase me and moves around a lot which changes the rythme. As if I'm ready to cum and she stops me and I have to get back up there. However I did go out with a women who used it to an advantage, You can use your hands and mouth, just use your mouth to concentrate on the tip and then use a little perashor with the palm of your hand on the tip, with a cercal, it drives me crazy and can make me cum quick.

Hope that made scense to you.


frogger1995 39F

8/31/2005 8:41 pm

Thanks guys. I think I have a better understanding...a bit. It's good to know it isn't a reflection on quality


NatchuralGuy 63M

9/2/2005 12:39 pm

Frogger - one question in response: When a man's going down on you are you in a big hurry to cum, or did you want to enjoy the experience as long as possible?

Also, I find that when I'm taking a while, I start to feel pressure to cum and that starts an anxiety which makes it more difficult to do so. What relieves that worry is the thought that she REALLY loves doing it - so if she says she could do it for hours, combined with sincere "Ummmm!" sounds as she takes me deep, I find myself cumming in no time.


frogger1995 39F

9/3/2005 12:42 am

NAtchuralguy: I suppose I should take that as a slight jab at my desire to give head. Not true. Perhaps you have met a girl who could do it for hours without a problem. I however am a mere mortal and not Superwoman. I do love giving head. I also like recieving it but am considerate enough to give the guy a break after a while. It was simply a question as to what the difference was.


toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
9/5/2005 7:41 pm

My, this is a great posting- sorry i saw it so late!

well, it's been my life-long unfulfilled fantasy to be waken up with a blowjob; somehow I always end up waking up first (sigh!). Reading about it makes shiver.

And to answer your other question, for me it's the other way around: I can last much longer during genital intercourse (probably because i have some control over the rhythm), but rarely more than a few minutes orally.


NatchuralGuy 63M

9/6/2005 1:45 pm

Heavens, Frogger, I would never jab at any woman who likes to give head -- great oral is about the best thing two people can share, in my humble opinion. I was just saying that "performance pressure" can be a factor on why a guy may not cum as quickly as you might like. Sorry if I intimated otherwise. I think you are AWESOME, and I mean your mind as much as that fabulous figure!


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Dirk98765 45M

12/27/2005 6:44 am

You need to ask him whether or not he had a relationship where the woman refused to let him cum in her mouth. Could be a mental block brought on by that.


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