Chester and Spike  

frogger1995 39F
4342 posts
9/17/2005 7:36 am

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Chester and Spike

Yesterday I went on date number three with Mr. Married. The night before he called to make plans and I had to inform him that sex would probably not be a good idea, giving him an opportunity to take a no- offense-I-completely-understand-out. I am a realist about this site and realize that (frankly even outside of this site) dinner or lunch eventually comes at a price. Since Mr. Married and I have never actually taken that step (not always at my insistence mind you) I was worried about his reserves so to speak.

He laughed and then went on to explain the difference between himself and some of these other “young studs.” He used the example of the Chester and Spike cartoon from Looney Tunes with the big dog (Spike) who is calm and nonchalant while the little dog (Chester) is excitedly yapping about what they were going to do today and when they were going to do it. I laughed as that had been my experience. He insisted that he enjoyed spending time with a lovely lady who offered good conversation, as opposed to men like a prior young Adult Friend of mine, who was in his early 20s. The younger they are the more they want to jump into bed right away. Right now everyone I am seeing is at least 35, if that tells you anything.

I still get messages from the 24 year old who: 1) Called me at 1:30 a.m. to double check our plans for that night and 2) Stood me up on that date. He wants to know when we are going to finally meet up for “a good time.” On the other hand, Mr. Married engaged me for almost three and a half hours of great conversation that ended with a simple kiss and a promise to call to meet in the future…a promise he will keep.

I had certain expectations coming on to this site. But it has turned into some alternate universe where up is down and backwards is forwards. Normally I would never “date” a married man in his 40s. Normally 22 year old hotties wouldn’t be tripping over themselves to get a response from me. Could AdultFriendFinder be the Bizarro World of Online Dating?

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rm_zeon37 54M
9 posts
9/17/2005 1:09 pm


toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
9/17/2005 1:16 pm

My feelings EXACTLY. I have been completely surprised at what I 've found here and blogging is quickly becoming a passion.

Although I have neither 20-year-olds chasing me [at least not yet!] nor encounters with married women, it 's been totally different from anything imagined.

Thanks for making that point.

digdug41 49M

9/17/2005 1:28 pm

it's a strange place indeed .a parallel universe but hey it could just be you assimilating to this environment too either way just go with the flow and have fun

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

luckywithladeez 49M
266 posts
9/17/2005 3:09 pm


Everyone has to bottomfeed a little before they see the light. Although I object to your married friend's obvious manipulation and half-truth. There are far more divorced/widowed/single men in their mid-late thirtees that are well-balanced and socially mature than he might acknowledge. In this light, you're dating a mariied man suggests your principles may be slipping, as well. Then again, if you don't care, go for it!


beewulf9 38M

9/17/2005 5:21 pm

There is something strange about AdultFriendFinder, but also something intriguing; intoxicating may be a better word.

beewulf9 38M

9/17/2005 5:23 pm

There is something strange about AdultFriendFinder, but also something intriguing; intoxicating may be a better word.

As for the exampe of Chester and Spike... Spike becomes the yappy dog at the end of the cartoon and Chester becomes the confident big dog.

frogger1995 39F

9/17/2005 6:49 pm

Lucky: yes there are knuckledraggers, as our friend Travleingintexas likes to call them, of all ages. Likewise there are sublime gentlemen of all ages. But no matter what, there is the maturity level, which is higher in older men generally speaking.

As far as married men goes...I have to admit to taking insult from that statement. I suppose a lot of people may make the same statement but I am not breaking up any marraiges or trying to hurt people (in fact I have helped believe it or not). Nor do I intend to. I explained it all in a prior post. This is a site where people can loosen up thier inhibitions, that is what I am doing.

DodosWelshFerry 48M

9/17/2005 8:35 pm

I love these blogs with and without the cartoons and DC Comics references. Bring in some Amazing Spiderman too. Seriously, thanks for such well rounded and thought inspiring moments. Don't you worry none about the few who didn't read before the reply darlin'. They probably won't get it anyway. You are indeed a great conversationalist. As we get older, we apreciate more the sensual qualities of the mind.

WildWon1982 34M

9/17/2005 9:10 pm

I'm kind of in limbo. I'm only 23, yet most days I feel like I'm 37. All the half-wit sideshow psychics call me an "old soul" before my friends fork over the ten bucks. As far as age comparisons with partners, I don't really have the realm of experience to make the judgement. I've done sexual things with only three women. One was a few months older than me. One was a year behind me in school. And one was 9 years older than me. A short list to compare and contrast, and I didn't really notice any differences, save one. The older woman wanted me to experiment and try new things with her, whereas my first girlfriend, the one basically my age, was too shy to be naked around me, but also very selfish in that she wanted me to give her oral all the time, but she never went down on, or fucked me.

excited045 56M
92 posts
9/17/2005 9:27 pm

I have to agree with you as long as your not hurting anyone what is the harm. However I do agree with luckys statement ,there are alot of single etc.. people on here who would love to spend time with you weather it be in bed or just for drinks and dinner. I hope and wish you luck on your quest. Take care.

Phiero2 48M

9/17/2005 10:27 pm

I think many people of all ages forget that foreplay starts with the mind not just the body. Many people want to rush into bed and forget about how wonderful their time can be with someone.

I believe that foreplay begins the day before or at breakfast and builds as the day goes on. It’s the winks and the table, the phone calls during the day and the conversation over drinks that make the mood passionate. If you were looking for quick and meaningless sex, you would go to bar around 1:00 am.

rm_dragonspyke 34M

9/17/2005 10:32 pm

Yes, as much as it would be exciting to just jump in the bed with Frogger, I must say, conversation has to come first. Sometimes there are just days when women aren't in the mood and men just have to bite the bullet and let it be. She'll let you know when she's ready, she'll make it obvious. So I understand what you mean Frogger, and hopefully, you and I could be really good friends and meet up for a coffee or dinner and talk.

frogger1995 39F

9/18/2005 5:29 am

OK, this will be my last post on this topic. I know when a dead horse is beat and there are two many "YOung studs" like dragonspyke, who has been nothing but a gentleman, who prove me wrong over and over again.

your_gypsy 51F

9/19/2005 12:40 am

psst... frogger baby: he's jealous.

SirMounts 102M

9/20/2005 4:01 am

*kniw* ?taht kniht uoy dluow yhw woN

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