Question.......a simple answer will do  

freetime648 52F
7629 posts
12/14/2005 9:49 pm

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Question.......a simple answer will do

What do you say when your mother has decided to die? She can have surgery but she said no......

xx FREETIME648 xx

PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
12/17/2005 10:27 am

Give her all your love and understanding... it is her choice to leave with dignity, so give her the respect she deserves, it can't have been an easy decision to make.

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

rm_EE407 41F
3903 posts
12/17/2005 7:54 am

Hug her, tell her you love her and tell her you understand.
After that, I guess... let her go.

Good luck. These things are never easy.

You're in my thoughts

rm_keyboardjedi 64M
2 posts
12/16/2005 7:41 pm

About the only ting I can think of not mentioned above, is to (if the timing is right) ask her to tell you about her decision. Her answer will help you understand.

My wife has had more surgeries than I can count (without actually counting the insurance statements). I would understand if she declined to have any more.

Let your mom know you are there for her and you want to hear what she has to say.

lipsvc4u2 45F

12/16/2005 1:52 pm

free, you try not to feel selfish for wanting her to stay longer...maybe she feels she has accomplished everything in her life she wanted to (raising a WONDERFUL daughter is an accomplishment in itself) and is ready to to see what is waiting for her on the other side...

jaymichel 59M
52 posts
12/16/2005 6:32 am

Freetime, You can not blane yourself for what she has made up her mind to do. Be with her and tell her you love her and it will be OK. We will all do what you want us to do. I thanked my dad for what he did for us.
We are all thinking about You Freetime Jay

freetime648 52F

12/16/2005 2:58 am

Helga.....I appreciate the thoughts...they do help right now just knowing that! xx

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freetime648 52F

12/16/2005 2:57 am

Goddess, Nipa, and BB.....thank you!!!! From the bottom of my heart!

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freetime648 52F

12/16/2005 2:56 am

GB, I know I can rely on you and your words of are a true friend and I treasure that!

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freetime648 52F

12/16/2005 2:55 am

The Wraith ...thank you....your words mean alot to me......xx

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freetime648 52F

12/16/2005 2:55 am I do not believe she is looking for attention...she is too tough for that. Thanks for the comment....

xx FREETIME648 xx

GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
12/15/2005 2:55 pm

.... don't think I can add anything to the comments before this one.

many are thinking of you

helga_hansen 49F  
1987 posts
12/15/2005 11:36 am

Free... you swallow the tears you want to shed, and you smile and let her see that you love her. Think of the good times... no regrets. Be strong and know we're thinking of you.


Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

brightblonde3 58F

12/15/2005 10:41 am

Just be there...

Thinking of you,


GB_Cple 66M/55F  
3042 posts
12/15/2005 3:37 am

just hold her hand , and help her take whatever advantage she can out of the time she has left,
it may be longer than you think

love + kisses

The_Wraith_1969 47M

12/14/2005 10:30 pm

You hold her hand say "I love you mom, you rest now, you deserve it", then kiss her on the forehead, and let her go.

I learned this when my Grandfather died 2 years ago. It is important that the person dying know that you will be ok. This helps them pass peacefully.

My regards to you and your family.

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