Just the facts ..ma'am  

freetime648 52F
7629 posts
3/22/2006 1:53 am

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Just the facts ..ma'am

Let me start this by saying that men have a wierd ass sense of truth and honesty. No offense meant at all by that statement just the facts........

Fact #1: I have a friend, a dear, sweet friend that I would not trade for the world.

Fact #2: This friend expects me to tell them everything from the get go.

Fact #3: But,this friend, refuses, after me stating the need for this, to tell me anything until the hurt is done

Fact#4: Now, yet another fact is out there and I am hurt by it.

Fact#5: Fact is, I have no clue how to handle this hurt

I am not sure what to do with it all or if I should even be hurt by it at all. I am not my friends keeper, they can do what ever they want and I cannot get the point across to my friend that HONESTY on every level is why I am so upset by this.

I wish I could say what the dishonesty was but I do not want to embarrass my friend at all. But, I do know how easy that could be for me to do. I mean I was about to make an utter fool of myself because they chose not to be upfront with me. I cannot get the thought out of my head how embarrassed and foolish I would have felt had they not finally said something to me!

Just let it go and move on with the friendship or be justified in the hurt and let things cool down????

FRIEND, you tell me what to do......

xx FREETIME648 xx

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
2386 posts
3/22/2006 10:25 pm

First of all, Free, if you're hurt you're hurt and if you're upset you're upset ... no need to wonder "if I should even be hurt by it at all".

It's all about emotions, those illogical things that cause so much confusion and difficulty but without which life would be a pale shadow of what it can be with them.

I hope your friend can advise you what to do (in that spirit of honesty that I know you so prize) ... whether he does or not, though, you can only follow your intuition. Deep down inside, you know what you want to do, what is right for you ...

My thoughts go with you ...

citizen4722 59M  
47275 posts
3/22/2006 8:02 am

Keep the friendship on-going for the time-being & eventually the truth will come out. Perhaps your friend needs to sort out the facts from the fiction ?

elbman 41M  
2566 posts
3/22/2006 3:13 am

Honesty is never something that should be compromised.

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