Can't Talk to a Psycho....  

foxxxydiva 37F  
112 posts
2/6/2006 9:30 am

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6/17/2007 11:07 pm

Can't Talk to a Psycho....

The countdown

Okay, I have officially had it with this site. Its one thing that it an alcoholic senior citizen with a Viagra allergy properly functions more often than AdultFriendFinder does, I can almost deal with that. Its another when the site doesn’t function and they sell your profile or use it for advertisement by submitting your handle to various search engines. Even getting banned for posting a URL or advertising a party I could live with. The tardy posts, profile hijacks, inoperable iggy button, bot whores, even the occasional email never delivered.

What I can not take is all of the above coupled with BP (beyond Phucktards.) These lovely individuals are the ones that go 5 steps below Phucktard and won’t leave well enough alone. The individuals who are branded phucktards once they turn nasty or crude when you reject their advances and call you foul names are even tolerable. A wicked tongue lashing once or twice and they usually leave me be. Not the BP’s, they keep at it. My current BP, has literally, been damned near stalking me for the past few weeks.

About a month ago, we had our spat, and once he left chat, I let it go, let him chat in peace, but EVERYTIME he sees me in chat, he must say something defaming or derogatory. I put him on ignore and all was lovely for a while. Then the smarty pants gets a new handle and does the same thing. I try to iggy, no such luck, I even copy and pasted his handle and tried to iggy that way, no such luck. So, for the first few days, I ignored it him in chat, not responding to his commentary, thinking her would go away after a while. No such luck. The fourth day, I started getting a bit nervous and started logging all the unsolicited comments that I didn’t respond to. By the end of the evening, I had about 3 pages of copied and pasted, unsolicited negative comments he was making attempting to bait me into an exchange. Someone would approach me in chat and say they were interested, he would chime in, she’s got a dirty pussy, or she fucks everyone, or something equally mature or rude. I finally logged off.

The next day, I log into chat, same thing, so I continue my cut and paste routine, growing increasingly weireded out. Now, I have about 7 total pages of commentary w/o reaction or response from me. I finally snap, ask him to stop. Now me being me, of course I didn’t ask nicely, but like my girl says “You can’t talk to a psycho like a normal human being.” He keeps it up, so I report him to AdultFriendFinder. He gets banned for a day, but comes in again under his original handle, (which was magically paroled from my iggy list BTW,) making other threats, name calling etc. Now I am a big girl, I can take as much as I give out but this was going on two weeks of CONSTANT baiting for hours on end in hopes I would respond. Needless to say, we were involved in another exchange and I once again left chat.

This continues over the course of two more weeks, but has tapered to maybe 10 post instead of the normal 30. I report him again on Friday, he still hanging bout. Well, today, it went on for 4 hours straight. Last night he kept at it for about 3 hours and I just let it go. Today, I lost it by hour 4. Got into a horrid verbal match up, *although I must say, I was embarrassed by my competition.* The thing that really sets me off is I have sent AdultFriendFinder document proof of this behavior which, IMO is bordering on Internet Stalking and they have done nothing. My alleged “friends” in chat allow it to continue and go as far as to state that it is in fact my fault that this guy won’t leave me alone. I know what some of you are thinking 1) never spoke with the kid outside of chat; 2) never met the guy, 3.) Never slept with him; and 4.)Never even seen his face picture.

Now everything else on AdultFriendFinder I can kind of deal with. But all of those items, coupled with the caliber attitude friendfinder network has in regards to concrete concerns by a member on their safety and continually allow them to be submitted to harassment, but yet they ban people for posting a url for a sex toy, is just ridiculous.

I am tired of fighting the good fight alone and for so long. Tired of attempting to connect with members by going to and promoting meets and being repaied by a chat ban. So the countdown to the emancipation of Diva is in effect. My profile is turned off (I cant take another email from someone the complete opposite of what I am looking for, or someone who thinks that it is okay to degragrade me in email and I will swoon.) After the next meet I am helping host, My AdultFriendFinder days are over…I will still come and blog every now and again and stop by bootcamp to touch base with my peoples who were the only reason I would deal with the bullshit that this site has become. So, if you are interested in remaining in contact with me after 2/25, add me to your hotlist or reply to this message with your email addy.

moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
2/6/2006 4:27 pm

I have to agree as much as clearly this isn't your may not have any other recourse on how to ditch this creep but to go underground and resurface as someone else...How awful for of luck...

kind thoughts,

foxxxydiva 37F  
50 posts
2/6/2006 7:36 pm

Thank you very much ladies, but I am a fairly active member of AdultFriendFinder here in our area planning parties and such. My chat style is very discinctive, so resurfacing wouldn't help, unfortunatly *pouts* Thanks so much for the warm wishes.

rm_bstud1953 63M

2/6/2006 7:42 pm

OK, you wanna I take-a care of this low-life egg-sucking dog, my uncle don Luigi, he runnin' a special this-a week; buy one broken leg, get the next one free. And hey, I'll even throw in hot coals to the family jewels. That should teach this dirtbag a lesson or two. If not, "I'll make him an offer he can't refuse!"

barbiebunny 36F
5597 posts
2/7/2006 3:15 pm

Noo ugotta stay we need a tart meeting to dispose of this freak once and for all! I got your back!

Its good to be...ME

Boo_Blushes 64F
926 posts
2/11/2006 8:21 am

Foxxy how sad it has come to this and your right it is stalking so call the police deptartment and tell them whats going on they should have a detective come out and see all your info re this guy and should investagate since he has threatened you
AdultFriendFinder will have to turn over all info reguarding this nut.
Sweety be known if had I been in there for this I would have spoke up... I was there one time when he started and said something and of course his mouth went nasty but to hell with him..
Please re think leaving the chat room will never be the same..
Much Love
and many hugs
Boo_Blushes aka Boo

Artimus4U 55F

2/16/2006 10:04 am

Foxxy<< I dont always follow all of the chat in the room, but GAWD,
Had I realized what was goin on and the extent I would have done something...
This shit for brains has to get his ass kicked. There was once some jerk that pulled that on me... and kept changing handles to pull it on me again and again, dropping private information about me in teh room... he finally quit cause I iggied all the variations he put up..
I never met him in person... just chatted in yahoo...

If I spot your stalker in the room I will kick his ass...

- Artimus

Bard of Norcal

Sinderlicious 51F
310 posts
2/17/2006 8:07 pm for all and all for one. I've been documenting too but it's time to out him and let everyone know who it is and what's been said. My suggestion? Post it in another blog message and if AdultFriendFinder doesn't LIKE it..then they can do something ABOUT it! But in the interim...WE need to make others aware of who he is and start forcing AdultFriendFinder to do something about it. What they REALLY don't want is a bunch of pissed off women tying up the phone lines.

Sin like you mean it!

Venus107 49F
156 posts
2/28/2006 7:43 pm

Hey Foxxy my friend, Should I come bearing a overly large can so we can open it on his ass? Sometimes a good ole' fashioned ass whooping helps rather than a tongue lashing girlfriend!
Plus if you allow him to have his way- then he wins- screw him and his opinions sweetie! We love you just the way you are!! SO now be a good tart and tell us ALL a name! lmao- With all of us joining forces do you not think he will soon learn that there is no where he can possibly hide? You have my email darling woman! If and when you need me just let me know! Much love to you and great big hugs to ya!!!

SatisFakshen 38M

3/5/2006 10:49 pm

Resurfacing might actually work. Sure, you're style of talk would be the same but it would be hard for him to figure you out in the first place. And maybe you might not want to put up a pic for some time either. But you're right, too many crazy ppl on here sometimes.

MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
3/11/2006 3:32 pm

crazies....geee i dont think they ever think....

live more, laugh often, love much

Lookalike 52M
25 posts
3/17/2006 9:09 pm

I'm sorry this happened to you, Foxxy. I hope you don't let the bastid keep you from comming to bootcamp. I would miss reading you.

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