Regrets  

flagg134 35M
1430 posts
3/14/2006 10:37 pm

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Regrets

I found myself thinking about this after a post on the Ad lines. Why do some of us carry our pasts with us. A feeling of regret it has no use other than to bring us down nothing can be done to change the past. So why do we fret about it so much.

Can't we chalk it up to experience and move on. A lot of the things I could regret in my life I don't because I wouldn't have known some of my really good friends if I hadn't followed that path. Who knows where I would be now if I took the path towards personal success would I be satisfied with that. I personally don't think so. I don't measure happiness on material things. Who is to say my path was the wrong one why do I even feel the need to judge myself on based on this.

I do have one regret that will follow me to the end but, that is only because I feel it directly affected the life of another. Do you have any regrets from your past? Why beat yourself up over that which you cannot change?


themisskrissy 56F
2302 posts
3/14/2006 11:25 pm

"no experience is a bad experience unless you fail to learn from it"

Virtue Alone Ennobles


flagg134 35M
1582 posts
3/15/2006 12:10 am

Sage advice good way to look at things.

The more I look at people lately the more i see them following the same patterns never learning from their mistakes.


SolarPowered0 67M
8018 posts
3/16/2006 12:26 am

Regrets are not something to be learned from. They are pieces of who we are. Things happen and we either live with them or we don't live at all. To forget about what has made you who and what you are is impossible... baring Alzhiemers or blunt force trauma.

On the other side of that coin are the choices which we learn from by making. We choose the paths we take and somewhere down the current path, we realize we have either taken the right one or the wrong one. Right, because it got us to where we wanted to go... or wrong, because it got us to where we didn't plan on ending up.

When all is said and done, though, we all have regrets. If we don't end up with some regrets, then we haven't made the right choices... because we made no choices. Life is imperfect. Regrets are simply nature's way of reminding us of this fact.

And remember, there are only three things in life really worth looking forward to...

1: With any luck, we won't live long enough to have too many regrets.

2: If we do live that long, with any luck, we will go out in our sleep.

3: If all else fails and we do live that long and haven't gone out in our sleep, as yet... hopefully the price of Viagra will have dropped substantially.

Solar...


flagg134 35M
1582 posts
3/16/2006 8:58 am

No we don't learn by regretting misskrissy made a good statement about mistakes though many people make history repeat itself by not learning from past mistakes. You are right somethings in peoples past they can't bury and it becomes a part of them for good or ill.

Every action has an equal and opposite reaction. The choices we make affect us and those around us. I haven't regretted the path I have chosen thus far. Some stupid choices yes some paths not followed yes but not my major life choices. I do not regret them because they were my choices. Others let people make choices for them this I feel is the road to unhappiness. I'm not saying that you shouldn't listen to others only that you are the only one who knows what will make you happy.

No life isn't perfect if it was there would be no need for advice or even talking. It is imperfection that makes this world interesting. If regret and pain are a part of that so be it. That makes the enjoyment of living that much more satisfying.

1.With any luck we have no one to worry about when we pass

2.I too wouldn't want to know 6 months before I was gonna die I wouldn't be able to handle that.

3.May I die of a viagra induced heart attack between a beautiful womans legs lol.

Flagg


fitjames68 50M
547 posts
3/16/2006 6:18 pm

I think people sometimes beat themselves up over that which they cannot change precisely BECAUSE they cannot change it. There may have been a time when they could have done something, and feel they SHOULD have done it - but now the other person involved has died and it is too late to do anything. People in that situation can be very angry with themselves.

I agree with almost everything Solar says - but I do think that it is possible to learn from regret. Pain of any type, physical or emotional, is often an incentive to distill wisdom from a situation. The pain of my particular regret makes me realise that I made some bad choices - and I have made an effort to avoid making similar choices ever since. It doesn't in any way remove the pain of the original regret, but it does mean I (hopefully) won't make the same mistakes again.


flagg134 35M
1582 posts
3/16/2006 6:54 pm

Fit I understand to a degree why people do it and i realize the pain of it is a good thing to stop us from making the same mistakes again. Other than that I just feel regret is a futile emotion. I even feel it sometimes I just try to shake it off ass a silly emotion. I hope you can get over whatever it is that you regret the same I do for myself. However, unlikely that is for you or I.

Flagg


themisskrissy 56F
2302 posts
3/17/2006 8:03 pm

some like to haul around their black cloud, because it is all they know, and it is familiar, therefore safe... letting it go and embracing a new light takes an immense amount of courage... some people have no idea that there is another way to live.. and positive change is often vewy scawey.

Virtue Alone Ennobles


flagg134 35M
1582 posts
3/17/2006 10:21 pm

MissKrissy I know the feeling its always easier to wallow in our own misery rather than face change. Its always been my motto to live life not to let it pass you by. The last year has taken its toll on my outlook though I am doing my best to work through that though. Its good to use the adlines as a vent and a way of seeing others hardships that I don't have. Such as the lack of a brain or common sense.


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