Judgement Day!!  

flagg134 35M
1430 posts
7/17/2006 8:07 pm

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Judgement Day!!

We all do it and we shouldn't make judgements and ASS-U-ME things about people. Very often without complete information or even a second thought about our observations. It can be dangerous cause friction and in general will limit the interaction you have with people.

Sometimes these are generalisations made about someones age, sex, race, or creed. Often though its just about appearances which is why society is often stuck upon its vanity. We can look at someone and just place all sorts of labels upon them. Slacker, Nerd, Geek, Yuppie, Metrosexual, Hoochie and the list could go on but we gather a general description based on outward appearance. Its unfortunately something that wont change but we can at least put forth the effort when approached to judge on their actions.

Another thing is something I've learned from getting into 1000's of arguments. Thats not to judge unless you can't put yourself into the other persons shoes. To see how it would feel and what you might be tempted to do in their situation. Thats not to say justify the evil a person does but sometimes things aren't that cut and dry. Everyone has their vice whether its sex, drugs, attention, gambling or anything done outside of moderation. I'll admit mine is due to a weak self image I seek positive reinforcement often as out of humility I only highlight my negatives. Its pathetic I know but at least I know the problem.

Lastly is judging by hearsay and reading things into words that just aren't there. In two forms is this harmful one more so then the other. The lesser is when people read to much into what you have to say about them. Inflating their ego's and altering themselves in the process. Worse though is when people read things out of paranoia. Finding fault or malicious intent within someones words or actions. There has to be some level of trust and if you are questioning everything a person does you will find yourself alone burning the bridges. Because everyone is against you...

Sorry my little rant is over just something that has been bothering me lately..

RF


header1979 37M
507 posts
7/17/2006 8:36 pm

Hey, Flagg, ranting is good for the soul.

Please go back to Solar's blog and explain the Jerry thing to us.

Header


real36CgirlPA 37F

7/17/2006 8:42 pm

I find the bandwagon-jumping disturbing here on the site lately. Not going to disagree with you at all on anything you said. It applies to real life as well as here. A lot of assuming makes hypocrites out of all of usas well because we might all eventually find ourselves in the same situation and find what we criticised to be the only realistic choice.


cactusass 55F

7/17/2006 10:04 pm

flagg baby , i recommend the movie "what the bleep do we know" has some very unique ideas about how we perceive ourselves, others and our world around us. it may take one or three run throughs to get the most out of it, but it certainly has helped me try to head in the right direction understanding myself and dealing with others is concerned.
(brg being the exception i am ashamed to say, but hey! i said i was trying!)

p.s. i miss your postings, you've been so quiet lately


themisskrissy 56F
2302 posts
7/18/2006 12:30 am

RF.... a rant now and then is good! It is like drano for the soul.....flushes the guck out....

rant on brother!


Virtue Alone Ennobles


phoenix639 49F

7/18/2006 10:17 am

I appear to have been the victim of this by many this last couple of weeks.

It hurts.


flagg134 35M
1582 posts
7/18/2006 9:18 pm

Header: My mistake I thought the words needed no explanation besides you hit the nail on the head. Ranting is quite cathartic I should do it more often perhaps...

Real36: Hmmm I'm not a fan of ye olde bandwagon either...though I have been accused as such I guess I should just disagree with everyone. As for as assuming goes there is a reason why I spelt it as such. Just something which can only lead to misunderstandings and hurtful feelings. Communication and an open mind are the keys to understanding others.

DBG: Perhaps I shall though I always try to be fair with people even when the reverse isn't true. Notice I avoided the whole BRG situation as much as possible it was unnecessary to bring him down. It would have brought temporary satisfaction in the end I would question my dignity though.

TMK: Perhaps I shouldn't apologise for it rather just do it.

Sexyeyes: I don't get it either although I am guilty of something similar. I don't read things into peoples words per se as much as I don't see the things in myself that others do.

Phoenix: Is that so? Sorry to hear you are troubled so...

I will admit when it happens I find it quite dissapointing. People should try to be more open minded and respectful of others. Proper communication and understanding will cause alot less problems in the long run.

RF


Gossip_Anyone 40F

7/19/2006 3:54 am

I'm sorry to bother you, sirs, but I have an announcement

Flagg you have been officially drafted by the us government for our 4077/ Iraq edition!
flagg134
Sorry I don't remember Stephen King hanging out with the MASH?

you're being sucked into Psycho's world


gypsy1629 41F

7/19/2006 5:25 am

Empathy sems to be lacking in a lot of ppl or they do use it just with only certain others and that sucks but thats also life.......lately I rarely even travel to other blogs and definitely stay away from the AL's......like you said lots of not so good shit going on and being said and so forth....I am a lover not fighter...well most of the time anyways...hope ur rant helped ya feel better....and you picked the best place to do it too......hope ur doing well take care and be safe!

gypsy


themisskrissy 56F
2302 posts
7/19/2006 3:41 pm

"TMK: Perhaps I shouldn't apologise for it rather just do it."

that's the ticket sweetie! one has no need to apologize for how one FEELS.. you apologize when you are wrong..
a persons feelings are valid and true to the individual..


Virtue Alone Ennobles


SolarPowered0 67M
8018 posts
7/19/2006 8:49 pm

Are you perhaps confusing interpretation with judgement? The usual definition tied to the term "to judge (or) judging" is 'a moral value assignment' and is most often used with a negative overtone.

Interpretation, however, is a result of your taking in data and processing it so you can use that data in some way. It is not, by default, moral - nor is it negative. It can be either... or not.

I think most people mistake these two totally different perceptions and in doing so, they manage to create a great deal of trouble, not only for themselves, but also for others.

Judgement is not necessarily a bad thing. It has been bandied about by the PC's and others, as a label to be attached to that which might not sit well with them and as a result, many of us become confused with the two terms above.

Without judgement AND interpretation we would all fail miserably in our attempts to interact with others, or even to exist isolated from others. The real problem isn't judgement or interpretation... it is misjudgement and misinterpretation.

Solar...


Hippink 35F
4499 posts
8/6/2006 6:14 am

I go through this every day at work. My boss hates me (that's OK, I hate him, too), and no matter how good of a job I do, it will never be appreciated. I applied to work in a different position because that employee is leaving, but they didn't even consider me for the job because they believe my boss, who probably says I'm stupid, dull, work slow, etc. When the truth is, I work for less than my MALE co-worker who does the exact same job as me, and started only one month before me. So I try to not work as hard. On his sick days (which he takes a LOT of!), I try to prove my worth by working as hard as I can. It goes unnoticed.

Point being: my boss tells his boss what he thinks of me, instead of the head boss seeing for himself what I really am.
It sucks. And it seems as though there's not a damned thing I can do about it. I have to go where I'm appreciated.
Hippie XXX


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