I think I have enough critics but how about one more?  

flagg134 36M
1430 posts
6/1/2006 11:13 pm

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I think I have enough critics but how about one more?

Well to start out the post I want to thank all the kind people who comment on my blog. When I came to this site I never expected I would get much out of it. Thats always been my mantra anyway keep expectations low and hope for the best. However quite the opposite is true my experience here has been great. I have made many great friends that I would have no way of meeting outside of this site. I do appreciate the support and laughs you guys have given me.

Thats not what this post is about though unfortunately. I have noticed in my life that I am my own worst critic. No matter what it is about me I think there is something wrong. Almost as though I have become a perfectionist. Which isn't true I'm far to lazy for that. I notice the flaws in myself much quicker than I notice my strengths. Perhaps it is in my nature to beat myself up over the tiniest things. I even feel vain and foolish for posting this .

Regardless I noticed people making the same observation about me. I would get annoyed myself with someone who always was in misery with themselves. So I will endeavor to change that fact about me and put more stock into the positive observations that people make of me. Rather than the reflection I see of myself as nothing truly special. If you see me whining about myself or not taking a compliment then please feel free to slap me back to my senses.

To be quite honest I feel honored that so many of you sincerely have such a favorable opinion of me.

Thank You,


themisskrissy 56F
2302 posts
6/1/2006 11:28 pm

how about i just paddle your bottom?

sweetie, i see so much of me in you sometimes...

you are a good and worthy human being...

you are not lazy...

you are far, far from stupid...

you have insight and wisdom that amazes me for you age...

you are sexy...

you are articulate...

you are well mannered...

you have honor and integrity...

you are a damn fine individual...


Virtue Alone Ennobles

phoenix639 49F

6/2/2006 12:16 am

Ooooh you know i love slapping you around dont you.

I now have it in writing its ok lol.

Many of us have been reprimanding you for quite some time over your negativity on yourself. You beat yourself up so much at times you will have to watch for scarring hun.

Youre a great person.

header1979 37M
507 posts
6/2/2006 10:35 am

Hey Flagg,

You are an OK guy. Everybody always tries to improve themeselves and notices thing about themselves that others don't.

Take it EZ.


alchemistz9 57M

6/2/2006 1:23 pm

Hi Flagg,

Just had a wander through your blog...you're some wordsmith! Thanks for the joyof reading it.

MissAnnThrope 56F
11488 posts
6/2/2006 1:58 pm

We're always our own worst critics. That is, unless a person suffers from clinical narcissism.

We all do it. You should hear me go on about myself. We all do it in different ways, too. We all have our neuroses and insecurities. It all depends on how well we deal with them.

flagg134 36M
1582 posts
6/2/2006 4:20 pm

TMK: I need a good crack in the head to see myself straight sometimes. Though given all the compliments I have recieved of late I just wanted to apologise to people for the way I handled them very poorly.

Fit: The AL is a mess I can't post there only sporadically. What I was trying to get at with this post was that I might have seemed ungrateful to some. Which isn't true just a character fault of mine.

Phoe: You are right I need to quit it and accept what others say. Hard for me at times because my mindset is so used to picking out my imperfections.

Mari: I really don't dwell on it or voice it to much. Don't know why I did so here I guess I felt the need to explain some of my coarse actions. Its very true that the most intelligent people always find fault with themselves. As the saying goes "Ignorance is Bliss". I also know that I earned the respect of these individuals. Which means I am doing a lot right as these are people I think very highly of.

Header: Right on the mark I'm just glad someone pointed out that I was doing it. I wouldn't want to continue it as I know it to be annoying to others.

Lovespell: You hit the point of this post on the head. I've not been able to see myself as others do. Thank you for the compliments as well they mean alot coming from you.

Alchemist: Not a problem at all it brings a smile to my face to know that others enjoy what I have to write. Feel free to drop by anytime.

MissAnn: Very true I'm sure I'm not alone with my self opinion. However I haven't been handling it well in my own eyes. At least I see that though and can do something to change it.


real36CgirlPA 38F

6/2/2006 4:37 pm

I think every person is the first to pick out his/her own flaws. I haven't been blogging on here for very long, but I have actually noticed less self-criticism/negativity on your blog than a lot of others. If people were all positive and bright & shiny or whatnot anyway I would figure they were fake.

cactusass 55F

6/2/2006 5:21 pm

flagg baby, you'll always be a sweetiepie to me. no matter what you say!

themisskrissy 56F
2302 posts
6/2/2006 11:54 pm

so,now that we are pretty much done blowing sunshine up your arse hon, wanna play with mine?

cougar kisses

Virtue Alone Ennobles

flagg134 36M
1582 posts
6/3/2006 5:03 pm

Real36C: I try to stay away from it just brings people around me down. I also feel like I'm whining when I do it and feel the need to apologise for it.

MZhuny: THX and yes we are our own worst enemies.

DBG: You don't know how my mind works yet when someone says something like that. I try to think of what I could say. Though I would never and, I think you know that. Thanks for the kind words.

TMK: ROFL is that all it was huh? Anytime you like.

SSS: I think I'm starting to see why I liked you.
Does that mean you don't like me anymore?J/K

Thanks for the kind words I still don't consider myself any sort of catch I understand your meaning though. I'll never claim to understand women as soon as I think I have one figured out they do something out of the blue leaving me confused.

As for how I was raised the opposite is true I'm not much for my parents. My only grandparent died when I was 5 and I only have an older brother who is the mess up of the family. The only thing that can explain I suppose is I always have had female friends along with male ones currently my best friend is an elder female.


Hippink 35F
4499 posts
6/3/2006 7:38 pm

Like MissAnne said...we are all our worst critics. I am very hard on myself.
I see it as a good thing, though... with all the praise I get here, I feel my own self-loathing keeps me grounded.
Naw, not self-loathing... just harsh criticism. I feel it helps me keep striving to do better. Hopefully, your criticism of yourself is nothing more than that, too.
Hippie XXX

flagg134 36M
1582 posts
6/5/2006 4:07 pm

Hippie: I suppose it can be a good thing though thats open to interpretation sometimes though. We shouldn't be so hard upon ourselves as there is alot more productive work to be done than nagging on ourselves.

Sheeana: Believe me I know it sometimes it confounds me why I have such a firm base of friends here. I understand SSS's point and I suppose I'll never see myself as a catch exactly. Also you are absolutely right sometimes its hard to believe some good things said as oftentimes the things they compliment, are the things I feel are weakpoints of mine.


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