The hunter... or the hunted??  

five_speed 41M
3250 posts
8/11/2005 5:57 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

The hunter... or the hunted??

I found this woman’s profile with a local search. She sounded great in her profile and looked even better in her pic. I emailed her and said hi. She emailed back and gave me her yahoo email. I was glad, because I don’t have any faith in the AdultFriendFinder email system. I emailed her yahoo account, and she replied with pleasantries and a request to check her out on another website. I had received these types of solicitations before and dumped them immediately, but this time the woman explained why she used an alternate site, and her reasons made sense. Plus it didn’t read like a generic auto response email. I checked out the site, and it required me to have one of those free adult pass things, but it was free, so I was slightly assured.

I jumped through the hoops to get into the site, and sure enough, there was her profile, just like she had promised…. but oh, wait, to learn more about her, I had to re-verify my age and credit card information, just as a double check of my identity and age, you see. I was already bailing out when I noticed her profile on this site listed her home state as “CA” (it was VA in her AdultFriendFinder profile) I evacuated immediately, canceled everything I had signed up for to get into the site and then called the bank and told them to cancel that card and send me a new one with a new number. I told them I wanted to be notified before they approved any out-of-state charges.

Then I emailed this girl back on her yahoo account, and I used nicer language, but I basically asked “WTF???” Guess what… I received the same reply verbatim that I had received earlier, the one prompting me to go to the other website. Big surprise, huh?

So I reported her to AdultFriendFinder in the hopes that they’ll can her, but I know she can come right back with a new account.

I wasn’t smart enough to avoid her trap completely, but I was smart enough to bail before the jaws closed on me. So learn from me, guys and gals: There are a lot of predators floating around, and no matter how big you think you are, there’s always a bigger fish some place… So be careful, be smart, trust your instincts, and don’t ever pay for anything outside of AdultFriendFinder. If a person is serious about wanting to know you, the tools offered by AdultFriendFinder are adequate. It’s safer to keep it in-house in the beginning.


tamethytension 54M
2320 posts
8/11/2005 7:52 am

I am glad you shared this experience. It is a common one. I went through it 3 years ago. I now have learned the tell tale signs. The initial response will be personable as their is a real person ... think of them as telemarketeers on the other end with an automated message. There is an easier way to pick up this I have discovered. When I do communicate with those that are suspicious, I direct them to an anonymous email address. Often these appear in my bulk folder as the ISP service has flagged the IP address from which the email originated. I then wait 1 week. These website re-directs have an automated response that will contact you again in a week suggesting that they miss you not having gotten back to them; what really gives them away is this automated response will often repeat only part of their name correctky substituting a different last name each time. After three years, I still see the bulk file with up at 15 of these contacts a week from 2 and 3 years ago when I was less discerning in my reading of profiles.

Three years ago, in the Cleveland OH area, 40% of the profiles between 18-29 years of age, were almost verbatim similar (dozens in fact were verbatim copies) and it was among these that I had problems with directing one to a site. I don't care how reasonable it may sound ... fact is anonymity is already provided for here on AdultFriendFinder so that argument does not fly.

I have not investigated this more recently, largely as I have chosen to ignore profiles under the age of 30 (which at my age is merely practical anyway). However, for a younger man on this site, this is a much greater challenge and your experience serves as a much needed warning.

cheers

TTT


five_speed 41M

8/11/2005 11:51 am

Sil,

I have met a number of these types. I call them "fishers," and this woman was the slickest yet. I'm just glad I started thinking with the right head before I really messed up.

Of course, men are not without fault. 2002 has a blog entry this week - [post 65192] - that sums it up much better than I can.


five_speed 41M

8/11/2005 12:01 pm

Sil,

I have met a number of these types. I call them "fishers," and this woman was the slickest yet. I'm just glad I started thinking with the right head before I really messed up.

Of course, men are not without fault. straightten2002 has a blog entry this week - [post 65192] - that sums it up much better than I can.


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