True friend or truly bored?  

firestarter665 42M/39F
3158 posts
5/11/2006 9:16 am

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True friend or truly bored?

I had a visit today from a "friend" of mine. I met her in the pub last year and we bacame friends. She would come over every weekend and some nights during the week to keep me company.

After a few months of this, she stopped coming around so much. (She is single with no kids to give you an idea of her.) She would still text message me, but she was always at one bar or another. Being that she enjoys the bars so much, I was left in the dust.

I was told by a few people that she is into me in the sexual sense. That the reason that she was hanging with a certain group of people was for her to get closer to me.

I don't see things that way. I see things as if I am a backup plan if there is nothing better for her to do. This does not bother me at all. I don't expect people to entertain me every second of every day, but a few visits would be nice.

Well out of the blue, she came over today. She had said that she misses hanging out with me and that we need to get caught up. We get along great, but like I said she is single and can always go out. Whereas I can not.

Maybe she is sincere or maybe she had nothing better to do today. Who knows.

mycin62 54F

5/11/2006 9:31 am

Only you can judge her true intentions. But it's been my experience that people who are not in similar situations as us (i.e. married with kids) don't understand where we are coming from. It does kind of sound like you're her back up plan tho.

Wish we lived closer

firestarter665 replies on 5/12/2006 5:02 am:
It is hard to be friends with someone who isn't in a similar situation.

We aren't too far away from each other. Maybe one day we will have to come to CT.

(What the fuck is this shit..?? *rolls eyes*)

5/11/2006 9:47 am

Even if she isn't sincere as long as shes not causing you any trouble just see her as someone you get entrained by from time to time..Hey she maybe and your not that into bars any ways are ya..??...Ready


firestarter665 replies on 5/12/2006 5:03 am:
She is no trouble at all. I enjoy the bar scene, but don't get out to often.

StillSmokin2oo6 44M/43F

5/11/2006 11:13 am

Friends are there when you need them,not just when they need you..
I think they're called acquaintances...

firestarter665 replies on 5/12/2006 5:04 am:
I think you are right!

rm_cru1972 44M
4407 posts
5/11/2006 4:39 pm

I like the way StillSmokin put it

firestarter665 replies on 5/12/2006 5:04 am:
Me too.


5/11/2006 4:45 pm

agrees with stillsmoking.. I don't depend on friends in times of trouble but dayum.. thats how I found out who my true friends were.

But hey.. I'm wanna those.. you got to get in my face and spell it out type..
My friend Hottiemama.. her and I are close.. but we are frinds that don't need to talk all the time.. we just know we are there for oneanother.. Last year she was going through some bad stuff.. I had no clue she was hurting..When I found out.. omg I could not say sorry enough.. I still feel bad..But she is like me.. we cry with smiles on are faces.. go figure.
so maybe you need to spell it out???

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firestarter665 replies on 5/12/2006 5:05 am:
Good advice. Thanks.

ilsuconu 56M

5/11/2006 7:55 pm

Maybe she's having a bad time with something, and because she trusts you she wants your help... but just hasn't found a way to ask for it.

firestarter665 replies on 5/12/2006 5:06 am:
I am not sure yet, but I plan to find out.

pragmaticCTcpl 61M/50F

5/12/2006 10:24 am

Sweetie...I have so much to say on this one that I can't even write it all down. BEEN THERE ..HAD IT DONE TO ME!! Trust me when I say..."Your a filling." You have to become the filler!! Love ya! {=}

firestarter665 replies on 5/12/2006 5:00 pm:
I honestly think so too.

sassybelle21 32F
13313 posts
5/12/2006 12:43 pm

I can't give you a definite answer but I hope she's sincere

firestarter665 replies on 5/12/2006 5:00 pm:
I really don't think that she is, but I do like to be hopeful.

naked2182 48M

5/12/2006 2:32 pm

tell her to be on her way

firestarter665 replies on 5/12/2006 5:01 pm:
For me, the nice person that I am, I think that would be a little harsh. Even though she is not a true friend, I just can't bring out the side of me to tell her to go.

libgemOH 56M/52F

5/12/2006 4:30 pm

Still smokin said it perfectly!! Trust your feelings on this one!! -B

firestarter665 replies on 5/12/2006 5:02 pm:
My feelings tell me that she visits when she has nothing better to do, but when she comes over I do enjoy her company.

toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
5/12/2006 6:08 pm

I 'm sure she enjoys your company...

firestarter665 replies on 5/12/2006 7:01 pm:
I would like to think so.

hdflstc1965 51M/44F
2 posts
5/14/2006 4:48 pm

How does the story go? people come into our lives for different reasons...
The ones that are truly meant to be in your life will leave footprints on your heart.

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