why must u assume i am all talk?  

firecrotch32 45F  
129 posts
5/24/2005 7:04 pm

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why must u assume i am all talk?

ok..I am a regular chatter here in the chat rooms and I find it very frustrating that people accuse you of being nothing but a tease and are all talk just because you won't run off to meet them and fuck them after a few minutes of chatting! Any woman who would be crazy enough to do that is just asking to get and murdered. I mean puuulllleezze! I am not looking for a one nite stand quickie. I want a real friend with benefits. Someone who I truly enjoy their company outside of the bedroom and yet I do get to fuck if we are both in the mood. To get to this point...at least for me....a lot of time has to be invested in getting to know me and me them. the scenario usually goes like this: we meet in the chat room a few times and chat if I like their personality we move to a private im if all is still going well we move to the phone...and finally it we seem to be clicking then a meet and greet is set up with no expectations. Most guys it seems don't want to spend the time to do all this they just want to chat a few minutes, exchange some pleasantries and then meet up to fuck. If this is what they are looking for why the hell don't they just go hire a prostitute?? I am sick to death of being accused of being all talk an o action...sigh.

pubesofire 48M

5/24/2005 7:52 pm

firecrotch & pubesofire, hmmmmmmmmmmmm

rm_d0ughb0y35 50M
16 posts
5/24/2005 7:55 pm

Well, I can't speak for all of guy-dom, but personally I find it difficult to even break the ice in the AdultFriendFinder chatrooms. I find that people seem mostly to speak to those whom they know, and ignore those they don't. Also, you come into the middle of a conversation, and it's really hard to break in. You try, and get the cold shoulder, etc. I don't know if there's a better way, I just wish the chat system here was better. Anyway, that's my thought.

Well, enough chitchat... wanna fuck?

(Just kidding...)


rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/24/2005 8:31 pm

You go girl!!! Stick to your guns....

Better to be safe than sorry. The guys I have met through AdultFriendFinder have appreciated the pickiness that I have had in meeting any of them. I told them that a woman has to play it ultra safe these days b/c there are too many crazies out there....

P.S. Personally, I prefer the blogs instead of chattting; more of a chance to build up a rapport and see their personalities.

autodenominator 43M

5/25/2005 12:49 am

Personally, I haven't hit any of the chatrooms here yet, I tend to avoid them in general mostly due to getting tired of immediately getting hit with "A/S/L?" every time one logs into one. Not to mention, who knows who you're really talking to in there. If a person isn't willing to take the time to get to know you and establish a rapport first, they're not worth the time in my opinion. Caution when meeting anyone from the 'net is good, and on sites like this, it's that much more important.

From my perspective, I won't meet anyone from online one-on-one without taking the time to talk to and get to know both them and what they're looking for first. On the same point, I won't meet them one-on-one without seeing a picture (actually, I prefer at least two if possible-- a person with two pictures is more likely to be who they claim they are than a person with one), and talking to them on the phone for a bit. Consistency and the ability to hold a conversation go a long way, not to mention the fact that talking to a person via voice will tell you more about them than just typing back and forth, as you have inflection, tonal quality, and cadence to add to the communication. If I'm not impressed with how someone carries their phone conversation (read: the conversation is like pulling teeth or I'm bored out of my mind), especially if it's consistent over multiple conversations, there's a good chance I won't be interested in meeting them face to face.

In the end, those guys that accuse women of being all talk & no action when said women won't agree to just up and meet them, are usually lacking personality and social skills as it is. If they're not willing to spend the time to treat you like a person and show interest, they're not worth the time to interact with.

rm_gicaz89145 46M
2 posts
5/25/2005 1:23 am

See if they listen to you anyway. I like the blogs too. If I see people who are active there I assume they are real and send them a wink or and Email. You still have to take the time to get to know someone. Its really no different than meeting people in public. It.s a fun place..................Hugs

redmustang91 57M  
8604 posts
5/27/2005 11:57 am

I agree that chatting is too difficult. Of course it is hard to meet with all the noise and competition. Taking time makes sense, but too much buildup before meeting can make the whole thing seem too much. I prefer some chat then meeting for lunch and then perhaps for drink and the third time is the charm!

Priapeo 46M

6/3/2005 3:07 am

It all is so vulgar, sometimes, isn't it? a lot of guys think that in a sex site everybody must be ready to immediately drop his/her pants down else he/she is a time waster. "What if you are not my type? What if i don't like the way you speak and think? What if I only want a black man between 6" and 6'10" tall, bald, with a very big cock and a fixation for pistachio ice-cream?" lol... questions like these ones never come to their mind. Even at the supermarket I can choose, why I shouldn't be all the more careful here since I'm dealing with things with personality and feelings? Don't feel frustrated because of those people who are not capable of understanding the world we live in. And since you rightly want to take time before eventually do the bed-test it's only natural that it will take quite some time on the other side too. Baci


Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience

sadock76 44M

6/26/2005 10:35 pm

I'd have to agree with most of these comments. The few times I've even logged into a chatroom, it's always a total clusterfuck. There's this huge mishmash of people holding different conversations. Just doesn't work for me. Throw in the fake members with their urls just to make things even more confusing and I don't even waste my time anymore. I stick to emails and blogs.

Not sure why no one emails anymore.....*SIGH* I totally agree with having to be careful though. I've always insisted on getting to know people, first by either IM or email and then phone b4 meeting.

rm_affbreak 46M
287 posts
7/14/2005 10:53 am

> I want a real friend with benefits.

And some just wanna "meet down at the shore in 5 mins for a good fuck" ... this line came from a woman btw.

Regarding your 'selection process': Every person seem to have an internal clock, each running at different speeds. Woman obviously wanna know quite early if they will get attention for a long time and if the male part can "just sit next to her, saying nothing". From a biological standpoint this is useful.

For us males though this is _boring_. We wanna fuck you, rate the outcome and decide whether it's worth to build a family or not.

Sth. like this could be read in a blog:

"Female gives sex for love, males gives love for sex"

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