5 Easy Steps To A Happier World!  

fingerlickin_69 42M
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7/4/2006 6:37 pm

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5 Easy Steps To A Happier World!

I spent the weekend with my family, and my brother is in town with my little nephew (a year old). I see him play, and run, and swim, and laugh; and I see my brother and his wife talk to him, show him things, take him places. It all got me thinking. How does a human being start off so innocent and full of potential, and grow into a heartless, uncaring, selfish beast, like so many adults are?

I will not be answering that question today. Instead, I would like to share with you 5 things that I have noticed in my 32 years on this Earth that people do not do nearly enough. I have often joked that if I ever become a judge, I will not try to post the Ten Commandments in my courtroom (especially since the courts seem to think that is a bad thing). Rather, I want a poster of "All I Ever Needed To Know I Learned In Kindergarten." If everyone did everything on that list, 95% of crime would be eliminated. In that spirit, the 5 things below are, I think, not such lofty and incorporeal goals as "be honest" and "listen." Instead, they are 5 specific things we all can do a little more every day to make the world that much better. Even though I took exactly 3 days of Psychology 101 in college before dropping the course, I have attempted to include my take on what each thing says about a person. So, without further ado...

1) Ask questions during a conversation. I have noticed that many people will nod their head, agree with what is being said, and leave it at that. The people who do this are not actively participating in the conversation, either because they do not care, or because they assume that they understand perfectly what is being said to them. A conversation is not an exchange of facts (you might as well read the encyclopedia to each other then), but an exchange of ideas. Asking questions shows that you care about what the other person is saying, and it ensures that you have a good grasp of what is being averred.

2) Say "bless you" when someone sneezes. Made popular by the '90's movie "Singles." I myself say the German word that I cannot spell, so I won't even try...lol Saying this shows that you are not so self-involved that you are not cognizant of your surroundings, of what other people are doing. This is a simple way to just be more aware of your surroundings.

3) Use your turn signal and check your blind spot when turning or changing lanes. What? Traffic advice? Yes, absolutely. Our driving habits are as much a means of interaction and communication with other people as the telephone (don't use that either! lol) Look at the world around you and the people in it while you drive. See the frustration, the happiness, the generosity, the selfishness? See the guy with the flat tire that no one is helping? See the nice lady who lets in a car in front of her who has been trying to get in for 3 traffic-light cycles, while everyone behind her honks their horns to get her to move her butt? This step will not only help you avoid some of the most common accidents, but it will teach you to understand that your actions have consequences, sometimes annoying, sometimes dangerous.

4) Turn down the music a little. I am routinely guilty of this one. We all stake out our territories-our car, our home, or 2 square feet on the bus. We claim our territory by blasting music so that nobody bothers us, and to pretend that there is no world beyond what we can hear. How often do we stop to think about whether the person next to us is enjoying our live recording of Offspring's "Self-Esteem" at the Spinal Tap volume setting that goes to 11 on our iPod? Maybe they can't concentrate on their book or newspaper? Maybe their child has finally gone to sleep after being sick for 2 days? Maybe your nuclear-powered extra-bass subwoofer is shaking their car windows out of their tracks? Maybe they are shouting into their cell phone, "What? Can you hear me now? How about now? ", in which case, don't bother to turn down your music. This is simple consideration of other people.

5) If you are walking with someone on the sidewalk, make room for people walking by themselves. This one comes straight from my personal list of pet-peeves. I'm walking one way, and two people are coming the other way, 2 feet apart from one another, taking up the entire sidewalk. I move over as far as I can, but a collision in inevitable because they think the sidewalk exists solely for their locomotive benefit. As always, I end up standing in a planter where a dog probably has taken a crap recently. It's not that there's no room for 3 people on the sidewalk, it's that neither one of them moves AT ALL, preferring to dominate a crappy little stretch of concrete, regardless of who they have to run over to get to the 7-11. Single file, people! And we will all get to where we're going!

Take a look, see if I'm not right about how often these things happen. Maybe you will realize that these are simple things we can all do to help others enjoy the day a little more. Maybe you will think I'm a nut who needs to get a life. Either way, just try them out.

ArtisticTwist75 41F
2505 posts
7/4/2006 7:54 pm

I hate it when people don't consider singles as people... we deserve our space on the sidewalk too by gosh. By the way, I managed to follow your five guidelines without being told. Do I win a prize?


fingerlickin_69 replies on 7/5/2006 12:07 am:
For our first winner, we have a choice of prizes: either a paperback copy of a Clive Cussler novel (autographed by me), a KKG baseball hat that I'm pretty sure was my ex's, or an all-expense paid trip to Chicago (paid by your Visa card)...lol

Thanks for believing!

cookiequeen1000 53F

7/9/2006 12:30 pm

Good one babe! I do all those things and more. What does the first runner-up get besides the all-expense paid trip to Chicago? LOL.

fingerlickin_69 replies on 7/13/2006 3:16 am:
Well, Cookie, you have your choice of a pack of year-old Altoids I found in my car last week, or a shot at the grab-bag mystery prize!

cookiequeen1000 53F

7/15/2006 7:12 pm

Too funny babe! Not too sure, but am thinking the altoids would be the safer choice. LOL. Grab bag mystery prize...is that like what's in the hole of the pocket of the jeans you're wearing or something? ROFLMAO.

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