have you find what you look for here?  

finelady4_44 56F
421 posts
11/8/2005 10:07 am

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have you find what you look for here?


I would love to hear from those that have had success here.

I would like to know there are actually people that honestly represent themselves and are not just playing games.

I thought I had finally found someone. We talked 2 days in row nearly 5 hrs each time, sharing our history, our past, our current desires.

Then our 3rd phone call we were both tired, conversation was stilted and neither of us had much to say, oddly enough.

I have not heard from him since nor do I expect to. The same man that said communication was important to him abrubtly stopped communicatng, no explanation given.

On call number two we had semi phone sex, meaning in depth sharing of what we would enjoy doing in bed. I had my son nearby and was needing to be careful.

Although I felt an attraction to him, I decided without meeting him in person, I was not quite as comfortable with getting hot and nasty on the phone. I wanted to meet first and make sure the attraction was mutual. He does not like large women, and am one, and I didnt want to get into him and then we meet and Im not his type.

I told him this, (he knew from the begining I am a BBW) and I have not heard from him again.

This leads me to think he was just looking for a little thrill, maybe a little phone sex, but was not serious about meeting.

So why the hell spend nearly ten hrs on the phone with me if you are not looking for what I am?
How honest is that???????

Why waste my time and yours?

So if you have had a POSITIVE experience, DO SHARE.

rm_borobadlad 46M/F

11/10/2005 9:33 am

10 hours on the phone just to jerk off? what a loser! Does'nt appreciate all that bbw have to offer? What a dick! Sounds like you had a lucky escape.


rm_michael4852 64M

11/13/2005 8:44 am

I think that's one of the unfortunate side effects of this type of thing... You never quite know who you are dealing with... It is unfortunate....


passion8_lady 57F

11/15/2005 6:57 am

You wrote:

"He does not like large women, and am one, and I didnt want to get into him and then we meet and Im not his type.

I told him this, (he knew from the begining I am a BBW) and I have not heard from him again."


I honestly think that 99% of the men here do not bother to really read our profiles before responding. I get so many responses from men who are CLEARLY not looking for the same things I am looking for, who want a different body type than what I am, etc., etc.

I too have kissed a lot of frogs here. Unfortunately it sometimes went a lot farther than kissing before their true colors showed through. People who, as your experience went, tell me one thing and then end up doing another. One of these men pursued me online for almost a year before we got together, so I assumed he had staying power, but after two months he ended things. Pity, because he was sooo good in bed. Another guy told me all kinds of lies when he didn't want to see me again, and I caught him in his lies. He lied to me like I was some sort of idiot or something.

I'm sorry, you wanted to hear positive experiences... There is only one man I have met here who truly represented himself as what he is, but he's not a "one woman" man. I consider him a friend with benefits, he's always there for me, but it's not the same as having that torrid, passionate "affair" that I really crave sometimes.

I want to tell you to hang in there, but I'm far too defeated and jaded now to believe that things ever really work out for anyone...


single30inohio 41M

11/17/2005 6:01 pm

I have had some success on the site. I think that you are contacting the idiots on here that just use the site to see naked women and don't have the balls to meet them. Fortunately I am not one of those people. Check me out or send me a pic and we can see what happens. I am not picky


aapsmot 55M
7 posts
11/22/2005 10:17 am

I agree with Borobadlad... sounds like the guy was definitely a jerk and trying to live out some fantasy. He likely did you a favor by stopping his communication. Chalk it up to experience and move on...I think BBW are sensual and very caring with a lot to offer!


immellow 41M
3 posts
11/28/2005 3:52 am

I would love to meet with you and go have a good time! :] Just write me.


Brock5132 35M
5 posts
11/30/2005 10:16 am

HEY I AM SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU. YOU SEEM LIKE A VERY NICE WOMEN AND DOESN'T DESERVE THAT. I PERSONALLY HAVEN'T HAD ANY SUCCESS ON HERE BECAUSE OF MY AGE. THE PROBLEM IS I ONLY DATE OLDER WOMEN AND IT IS HARD BECAUSE WOMEN DON'T LIKE YOUNGER MEN. I KEEP LOOKING BUT I THINK THE TIME IS GETTING CLOSE WHERE I AM GOING TO GIVE UP ON THIS SITE. WELL GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING.


rm_pair2beat 47M/46F
11 posts
12/5/2005 4:09 pm

Dear finelady,
My wife and I just decided to commit to being true to our sexual lives as well as our every day lives recently. My wife has decided for her to trully be true to herself she must at least attempt to have an adventure with another woman. We felt it would be somewhat easy to find someone here in the hundreds of thousands of people but to no avail. It is quite weird actually we have had no correspondence with anyone at all that we have reached out too. So im with you if anyone has any ideas how this is supposed to work to make people happy let us know. Thanks I hope things work out for you finelady.


rm_purple987654 50F
8 posts
12/31/2005 9:08 pm

Stick with it. I can't count the number of guys I sent numerous emails back and forth before they just faded away.Also a large number of guys I cammed with but never met in person. Smaller than that are the numbers of guys I met in person, saw once or twice then never heard from them again, but I have been successful in finding a LTR .
It does seem that the longer they are willing to email with you before getting on the phone or meeting in person, correlates a bit with how serious they are, but not necessarily.
The guy I am with now can't believe how the men acted either, so there are some nice guys out there.
A major problem is people ( men and women) aren't really sure what they are looking for.


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