My AFF date from hell  

finelady4_44 56F
421 posts
10/6/2005 8:35 pm

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My AFF date from hell


Ok so I have been talking to this guy from here for about 3 months and we finaly meet. I open the door and there is this 500 pound gorilla standing there. I am stunned. The pic on his profile must have been 20 year old. Zero resemblance. His face was so fat I could barely see his eyes. I decide to attempt to judge him by his heart not his looks. I really tried. We talked, we kissed, I tried to focus on the inner man. We did NOT have sex. I had never in my entire life seen a man so large and hairy.

Since the meet, he has called me about 5 times, and I wasnt sure how to tell him without hurting his feelings that he was not my type, so I had not returned his call. I really hate hurting people. It had only been two days, and I was trying to find a way to tell him that would not hurt feelings.
So, I get email from him today and he informs me that I look like a man that has had a sex change operation or like Arnold Shwarzenegger on Total Recall when he dressed like a woman.. and goes into great degrading detail about why HE would never see me again. I cried. I was stunned. Keep in mind, when he left voice mesages he would say "hey, sexy hows it going?" Hmmm is this contradictory? And he sure did not mind kissing a woman that according to him looks like a man.This person I thought had such a good heart went into attack mode the minute he sensed I was rejecting him. What kind of person does this? What kind of person needs to destroy another person to make himself feel better?

I have met a handful of men from here and most have chosen not to see a second time becaue I did not feel they were what I was looking for. I never felt the need to destroy someone in the process.

I have never claimed to be a Barbie, I am a large woman, but im very feminine, classy, and confident in my sexiness. I have had many men tell me they love my soft curves.

I am a person, no matter what else, and I deserve to be treated with the same dignity I treat others with. Here I was sweating out how to call and NOT hurt HIS feelings.. wow.

I assure you, I do NOT resemble a man in ANY way shape or form so there is no basis for truth here, he simply wanted to stick a knife in me and twist. I am stunned.

How does it benefit someone to destroy another?

AughtMusedSpill 48M

10/7/2005 4:50 am

Well anyone that would intentionally misrepresent themselves to meet someone is not worth 5 minutes of your time. To insult you on top of that, after lying to get you to meet him, is the ultimate in idiocy. I certainly hope that you're not upset by his comments any longer; it's obvious that he's a small person, not worthy of your tears or anything else.

And this is one person who agrees that you are definitely a woman and definitely sexy


methodman1000 40M
1775 posts
10/7/2005 10:39 am

i really sympathise with the guy-and if only he knew the pain you were going through so as not the hurt his feeling,he will pray he could turn back the hand of time to make amend of his childish behaviour..........


rm_joeyrenn 65M

10/8/2005 7:57 am

HE IS NOT WORTHY OF YOUR TEARS. THERE'S ALOT OF GUYS LIKE THAT OUT THERE BUT THERE ARE ALOT OF GOOD GUYS TOO. ONES WITH GOOD HEARTS LIKE YOURS. AND YOU DON'T LOOK LIKE A GUY! YOU ARE VERY ATTACTIVE AND SEXY! DON'T EVEN LET THAT BOTHER YOU. HE WAS WRONG FOR WHAT HE DID!


nesta 65M

10/8/2005 8:00 am

i agree with ted, the fellow misrepresented himself from the start. in this day & age, unfortunately, there are people that just expect they are gods gift to women & can not accept the fact that not everyone likes the gift. sounds like a very big man with a very big ego & no self respect. to attack anyone verbally like he did you only shows how closed minded & egocentric he is. don't get too upset about his verbal attacks, sounds like losing him is a blessing in disguise. take care, believe me, most of us on here are not beasts or fakes, just people trying to enjoy others that meet our criteria.


passion8_lady 57F

10/9/2005 1:54 pm

Finelady, I've been there... years ago before AdultFriendFinder. I think it's the same guy!!! (just kidding) It wasn't so much his weight, or his lack of teeth, but the fact that he was not groomed very well and I couldn't picture myself getting close to him. Ick. Like your guy, after I refused a second date he then did a 180 and heaped all sorts of insults on me. Of course, I felt bad for rejecting him, and his insults hurt. Did I deserve them? No, and neither did you. He's just another a-hole, don't let it jar you. No more tears, ok?

BTW, how do you know if someone visits your profile every day? I thought the stats only showed 1 visit in such-and-such a period of time.


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