Curious question for you men?  

fiestygirl72 44F
40 posts
8/26/2005 9:04 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Curious question for you men?

I know this is a sex site and being on here you have to expect the unexpected but curiously I'd like to know from you men what exactly are you looking for besides sex. Is it an actually relationship and maybe marriage because some of you just confuse the hell out of me. Either you just want to screw and that's it or you want passion and sensitivity etc... My question is that how are we as women suppose to know when some of you men don't write anything in your profile. I myself if it's just sex, something has to click and I have to be comfortable with whom I'm with I just can fuck anyone. Whether it be a spark or physical attraction or something else something has to be there (for me). So either way guys let me know what is it that you want from us women? Thank you for reading.

rm_luke69iner 48M
3275 posts
8/27/2005 8:59 am


I may be wrong but I think most men's overriding interest in using this site is to get more sex and anything else is just secondary stuff. In the real world men utilize whatever rational means they have available to entice women into considering them for sex or a emotional relationship. I think that in AdultFriendFinder world men are even more willing to use whatever words they can to get sex. It is a sex and swingers site after all. Men are going to tell you what they think you or the average woman would like to hear. Many send out form emails to a lot of women at one time hoping to get a connection. Some men will read your profile (standard members can't) and will write an email based on your profile. Some men will say they want a relationship when it's not that big of a priority for them, their primary interest is getting laid. Some men will say they only want sex when they know in their heart that they want a relationship as much or more so.

If someone isn't serious enough about their search to write a decent profile, I wouldn't be interested in them. I would encourage them to complete their profile and try again. Some new members might not have had a chance to complete their profile or they didn't realize it was important.

This site is great for women that want no strings sex and don't care about knowing that much about new sexual partners. It's more complicated for women who are seeking a great sexual lover who is also willing to commit themselves on an emotional level.

Just like in the real world, it's usually complicated trying to find what you are looking for. Find someone that looks promising and spend a little time communicating with them to see if they are really like what they have protrayed themselves to be.

Be thankful that there are tons more men on this site then women. It makes for a lot of work having to sort through so many men but should give you reassurrance that you will be able to find what you are looking for. The only way to find out what a man is TRUTHFULLY looking for besides sex is to communicate with him over an extended period of time and ask him.

Fiesty, just be open and honest in what you are looking for in your profile and be ready to sort through a whole bunch of men.

As far as what I'm looking for
"I myself if it's just sex, something has to click and I have to be comfortable with whom I'm with I just can fuck anyone. Whether it be a spark or physical attraction or something else something has to be there (for me)."

Best wishes


S'io credesse che mia risposta fosse
A persona che mai tornasse al mondo,
Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse.
Ma perciocche giammai di questo fondo
Non torno vivo alcun, s'i'odo il vero,
Senza tema d'infamia ti rispondo

fiestygirl72 44F

8/27/2005 9:09 pm

Thank you Luke for your time I greatly appreciate it, your a very kind person.

RaterWivesParty 56M
51 posts
8/28/2005 10:36 pm

I believe that most men have no idea want they really want. Let alone what they want besides sex from a woman. I know that there are a few men with integrity out here who do know. Most of them will send some type of mail looking for a friend. This will show his interest, without sounding pushy or needy. I think that because of this site being set up as a sex orientated site, it's hard for most men that don't get very much sex, to understand what it take's to get a woman in the mood to even concider it with them. If a man who is playing with him self every night on this site( and you see how many there are) thinks he is ever going to get the chance to be with any woman on this site, he only fooling himself and really has no idea that a woman - lady, (you know one with class), he's only fooling himself. Women need to buckle down on these guy's so they start to understand what it is that they are doing wrong. I get a kick out of you ladies who are tired of thier foolishness. You can see the profiles of all you beautiful women telling them exactly what their tired of seeing. I dont think that all women understand either, what is on most men's mind is do to not getting enough of it. Once they do, some of them come back to reality. So if you like a guy, but he's a bit of a perv. You may be what he needs, to make him what you want!!

fiestygirl72 44F

8/29/2005 2:25 pm

Thank you 1hotstik for your input, I appreciate the time you gave to read my blog. And I hope your getting what you want from this site. Have a wonderful day.

rm_srtsr45 49
1 post
9/3/2005 4:04 am

Most men are here for sex, but most men are so shallow and not in tune with emotions there are just going through the motions. I could be wrong but I don't think so. I must have a spark or something that lights a fire inside. But even then it is hard for me to be comfortable and get naked with this woman. The first time syndrome. There still are men out there that can be emotional, which leads to passion, and need the connection like women. And then there is other woman that "sportfuck" like the men do. This man perfers to have the connection makes the sex better and more intense.

fiestygirl72 44F

9/3/2005 11:07 am

Thank you for you comment srtsr, it good to know there are men with good intentions out there. )

ks_traveler67 49M

9/3/2005 11:37 am

Sex for me is secondary. I want to get to know the woman first. I know some men would tell you that's a crock, but I've jumped into the sack with too many psycho women in my past. I've found out that some connection has to be there. Although, eventually I would like to settle down with one woman, I would be extremely happy with a good friend with some benefits thrown in.

I'm older now and think I've matured well and one nighters, although they were fun in my past, are not a part of my life now.

goldengreek70 46M
1 post
9/3/2005 11:55 am

Im looking for a nice hot woman not just for sex but for excitement, someone to go out and party with and have a good time.

roll2swing 63M
59 posts
9/3/2005 12:32 pm

I am here for a couple of things. One, of course for sex and the opportunity to meet some very open minded people. I love the excitement at a groupsex party and it gets my heart racing.
Two: I also spend a lot of time reading blogs and sometimes writng them.
Three: I post kinky pics in my album and do a lot of chatting with my friends.
four: many more, depending on mood and fantasy
Lastly when finaly meeting and the vibes don't seem right you just leave after the drink...

fiestygirl72 44F

9/3/2005 4:45 pm

thank you kstraveler, goldengreek and roll2swing, your comments mean a lot to me. You men are great, and I hope you all get what your all looking for. I hope you do, and I hope I find what I'm looking for. Keep in touch sweet gentlemen.

RailBaron2 54M

9/13/2005 9:25 pm

Hi Fiesty, I'd First like to say I love those eyes! I'm looking for Frindship, companionship,Love & Sex,all in one if possible but i have not found it in many years. Jim

redmustang91 57M  
8598 posts
9/14/2005 12:21 pm

Truthfully many are not sure what they want. Most want more sex! But what else depends on the interaction. So labels and plans are often changed by the reality. I have learned not to limit the future too much and try to be in the present. I am looking for sex, friendship and love, even if not exclusive and possessive type.

rm_cja9in 43M
1 post
9/24/2005 8:40 am

It all depends on the signals from the woman ands being able to read the signals correctly. Onceyou know what she wants you can start to let her know what you want. Straight sex or something with a little romance or something else all together.

rm_RenoCarson 52M
1 post
2/3/2006 8:49 am

Hi Fiesty,

I'm here looking for my soulmate. I want someone who is open about her sexuality, so I chose AdultFriendFinder instead of a more traditional meeting place. There are so many women here it is a statistical universe, so precise searches yield good results.

On an astrology website, I have learned a lot of interesting things. That site's functions can compare two people's horoscopes and will rate the potential match on a scale of -1.0 to +11.0. For me, a woman born in 1972 from mid to late September is usually a +11.0 match for exceptionally deep love and great sex.

So I've searched AdultFriendFinder's many countries for that special magic; distance, language, and culture aren't a problem for me, I love to travel. And there you are, just down the street (so to speak) in Ventura.

Warm Regards,
PS. Your eyes are a window to your soul. Thank you for sharing.

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