looks and looking..........................  

fgocpl4fun 52M/43F
88 posts
8/24/2006 8:30 am

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looks and looking..........................

looks can be deceiving. we all know that. however, looks can be such a double-edged sword; especially on a site like this. everyone here is who they are, and looks like they do. everyone seems to accept that. until it comes time to make "the hook-up". someone "carrying a little extra around the middle" seems to have a much lesser chance of making a swing connection. understand that we too are attracted to people with "hot bods". who isn't? but both being in the category of " a few extra pounds", such as we are, realize that not as many people will want to play with us. things being as they are, we both look further than just "the wrapping" when looking for possible playmates. it's what's inside that counts. compatibility!!! that's what we look for. that's what we found in each other, and what we were looking for when we met. most of us here that are in a serious relationship or are married will agree to that. obviously, what caught your attention first was what you saw on the outside, but its what you saw later on the inside that really got you to stay. right? so, anyway, here is the obvious question (or comment) we are getting to: why do so many people throw away the possibility of a great friendship (or more), simply because the person you are looking at doesn't look like someone you would like to "jump into bed with this minute"? P.S. we know that very few people here do that(we don't, necessarily either, though we have).

2daycowboywanted 45F

8/24/2006 9:12 am

And so is the sagga of life. If people took half as much time into getting to know the inside of a person as they do trying to find the perfect 10 the world just might be a better place!

Until later

TnWitchyWoman 56F
6852 posts
8/24/2006 9:22 am

I know I'm having the same type of circumstances and I got bummed about it until I gave myself a little attitude adjustment and looked at it in a different light. If those people judge like that are they REALLY someone you'd want to share your body with even if your body was perfect? I don't know about you...but looking at it like that just made me smile and tell 'em "Keep on walking dude, you'll find that perfect 10 and she won't have a thing to do with YOU if she has an ounce of brains so you'd better hope she's pretty AND stupid!" *smiles sweetly*

Tapaal103 62M

8/24/2006 10:27 am

Well for me there are a couple of factors working... I was once a man who lived the "gotta be a man in control thing". Life was kind to this naive soul for quite some time... Then a lady friend told me that she thought my legs and butt would look good in panties and stockings... My idea of sexuality changed after that because I felt sexier than ever before... My sex life was much better when I didn't have the pressure to get her off connected to my manhood, whatever that was...

Then being a black person (I hate even bringing race into the conversation)there is the nonsense of sexual superiority which those of both races seem to subscribe to... Or the extra bs of being dominated for someones ego rather than for the mutual enjoyment of both... or all... sad...

Tapaal103 62M

8/24/2006 10:35 am

All that to say that I now have a little "extra padding" outside but inside when I cd I do it for how I feel. When I'm submissive it's for how we both or all feel... not look!

caseman68 48M
21 posts
8/24/2006 7:21 pm

Beauty is only skin deep, underneath are many different layers just like a sandwich. While it may look tasty on the outside the inside may be rotten. You don't know until you look past the suface so yes, many opportunities are missed because society in general tells us that we should all look a certain way. Just watch a few commercials and you can see what I mean.

wjo1218 47M

8/30/2006 6:07 pm

I strongly agree with what you are saying I recently started chatting with another member and every thing was going fine till I sent her a really bad face shot of me you know how hard it is to get a decent photo of yourself taking it yourself well after sending the pic never heard from her again what really pissed me off is that she doesn't even have the common courtesy to tell my why she quit chatting with me
ps the two of you sound like a really interesting couple and would love to chat with you sometime I have my own group page called the real People and i'm a member of the best of the rest maybe we could meet in the chat room of either group some evening and get to know each other

hornyoldguy1957 59M
26 posts
8/31/2006 4:31 pm

If we only chatted with people who looked a certain way we`d sure miss a lot don`t ya think.I never pass a chance to chat with new folks, met some great ones.

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