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Well it has been awhile since I have last posted and hopefully I can get back in the swing of things and start posting again on a regular basis.
When I was thinking about what to write I started thinking to the last partner I had sex with and how I felt they were either holding themselves back or maybe I was making them feel a little intimidated. So I sent them a email and asked them if it was just me imagining this or had the really felt that way. They replied that that had been afraid to ask me to do certain things for them and to allow them to do certain things to me. I replied back saying that if we get together again they should feel free to ask me anything, the worst I will say is no or maybe they have to get me more in the mood to do what there asking for. I started to realize how many of us are shy about asking for what we really want, I know there many time I have been, but the times I wasn't I always had a better time.
So I have decided whether I am playing a dominate role or being the submissive I will always let my partner know to ask me to please them in a manner that they find enjoyable and I will ask the same of them.