Damned if you do, damned if you don't...  

felixoxox 48F
46 posts
7/29/2006 6:33 pm

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Damned if you do, damned if you don't...


The older I get, the more I realize how fucked up relationships are and for the life of me, I can't understand how on earth men and women were actually created to be partners in life considering how different we are. I hate being a "nice girl" in the dating world because no matter what I do or say, I still can't get what I want to be happy. I'm starting to understand why woman are manipulative. I found a great, nice guy on a traditional dating site where I have posted your basic relationship profile about finding true love...sent a wink...no response. About a week later, I stumbled across the same guy's profile on AdultFriendFinder where he said a lot of the same stuff from the other profile. However, my AdultFriendFinder profile is sexual in nature and says nothing about finding true love. Amazingly enough, I got a quick response when I sent a short email. After emailing him a few times and getting to really like him, he told me honestly that he wasn't very attracted to my "traditional" profile but was attracted to my AdultFriendFinder profile. You know what that tells me? I'm good enough to fuck but not good enough to date and bring home to momma. What's a girl to do? Should she agree to meet the guy for sex under the false pretense that she's hoping to win him over emotionally? On the flip side, I wonder how many guys I would be able to find on AdultFriendFinder that are looking for love, along with a great sexual relationship? I feel like I've already proven that I can't get a guy's attention AT ALL without throwing something sexual out there. And if I do approach a guy on AdultFriendFinder using a sexual profile because I know it will get his attention, how in the world and I supposed to make it known I'm looking for more than sex without scaring him away? Where does a girl go to say "hey, I'm a fantastic, fun, caring, sensual girl with a heart of gold that deserves all the love in the world and if you're the man that will treat me like a queen, I'll treat you like a king every day of your life and be the best lover and friend you've ever had".

Supervy_Sage 50M

7/29/2006 7:07 pm

Finding that perfect person is almost all timing it seems. Are you in the right place at the right time to grab them before someone else gets the one that interests you. They might seem great, but are not interested for whatever reason, or it is all a lie to snare you, like a Venus Fly Trap.

But you know exactly what you are looking for. So, knowing what is good for you, don’t except anything less. If this perfect guy didn’t think you were good enough to take home to mom, what would he really have to offer you in the long run other then heart ache?

Be exactly who you are. Show your true self, and hold nothing back. There a tons of folks on this site, so be choosey. Don’t let a bit of bad luck stop you. We all have the potential to find someone that will make us truly happy, just takes a bit of time sometimes.

The Super Pervy Sage


ella1966 50F
1528 posts
7/29/2006 7:08 pm

Oh hon!!!!!!!, welcome to real life on passion.com or if you are on the other (sister) site, weclome also....this must be one of the most amazing dilemmas of us women in modern dating for us "thoroughly modern milly's" and one that alot of us face.

Please, would you do a number of things for me, hon:-

1) join us like-minded girls in blogland, to which I welcome you with open arms (and I'll let you in on a little well-kept secret...nearly all the fantastic guys on this site live in blogland!!!) and

2) Please, please, please, make your first point-of-call or visit in blogland the blog of the lovely woman known as tennismaiden, just knock on her door politely by clicking on this link and enter, introduce yourself and she will welcome you with open arms..I am sure she will help you, she has a heart of gold like you, understands EXACTLY where you are coming from, and

3) Come and say G'Day to me on my blog to say that you read and understand where I am coming from, and

4) Please allow me to "pimp" ie cross-reference (?) this post for my own discussion purposes on my blog!

Welcome to the sisterhood, honey, however long you stay, I officially anoint you to the sisterhood of blogland!!!!!!!!!

ella xoxoxoxoxoxoxo


ella1966 50F
1528 posts
7/29/2006 7:09 pm

    Quoting Supervy_Sage:
    Finding that perfect person is almost all timing it seems. Are you in the right place at the right time to grab them before someone else gets the one that interests you. They might seem great, but are not interested for whatever reason, or it is all a lie to snare you, like a Venus Fly Trap.

    But you know exactly what you are looking for. So, knowing what is good for you, don’t except anything less. If this perfect guy didn’t think you were good enough to take home to mom, what would he really have to offer you in the long run other then heart ache?

    Be exactly who you are. Show your true self, and hold nothing back. There a tons of folks on this site, so be choosey. Don’t let a bit of bad luck stop you. We all have the potential to find someone that will make us truly happy, just takes a bit of time sometimes.
(((((Amen))))))


JustACluelessGuy 56M
2139 posts
7/29/2006 11:25 pm

Guys are smart enough to figure out what you want. You have to be curious enough to figure out what each guy wants beyond the obvious.


69springsguy 58M

8/15/2006 12:31 am

Interesting...

For me, I'd be like woohoo she's on AdultFriendFinder too!

A few times I've chatted & exchanged emails on the vanilla sites and then when I find her profile here and send an email on AdultFriendFinder saying hi it's me from match or one of the other sites... it's been the kiss of death...


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