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It's been awhile since i wrote anything- amazing how fast time goes by i can't believe it's almost Christmas! Bad news is that it means more hetic schedules and probably will have to wait until after the holidays!
So i think we are making some progress, but i think i or him or we sometimes chicken out a little too.
I need to put aside my insecurities about not knowing what to do or "measuring up" to other sexual experiences and just be brave!!! I tell brian then that means we either have to decide we are doing this and do it or decide we arent, i cant keep getting myself ready to do this and then we don't do anythign really for a week, if i am going to try and to do this then i have to give 100% effort and do it!
So, being new we dont know how everything works really- so when asked what we are looking for it's a little hard-
so we made a list of what we would do and not do:
Groups: So, with another couple, any combination but just 2 guys! 2 girls and me or 2 girls and him ok too! With experience larger groups!
Possibly 1 on 1
Some fetishes- i get off on the "rough, fantasy " type stuff (sounds bad i know) but nothing with the whips, torture, master/slave etc. handcuffs or being tied, is fine, roleplaying- two strong guys can just be too much sometimes for a little innocent girl!
Guy on Guy
Ok, that's the beginner list!
I know it might be a little risky putting myself (us)_ out there but this is the best place to find tutors right?!!
I know i have this sexual goddess inside just waiting to get out!
12/17/2005 9:44 pm
Good luck! Hope you found/find what you are looking for.|
Being a sexual goddess does not necessarily mean that you have to do all these things. I'm sure you are a sexual goddess to your guy even without being in the lifestyle.
12/19/2005 7:19 pm
I'm glad that you took the leap and came to a party. I hope we were able to put some of your fears to rest and that you'll attend another and cross off a couple more of your "will do" and maybe one of your won'ts. Believe it or not, but you behaved just like everyone else on their first time, but once you relaxed you and Brian did very well. I wish I had read your blog before you came. There were a couple of women who would have loved to help you with some of things you wanted to try. |
One last thing, in a previous blog you said that you and Brian didn't find yourself attractive. That's just wrong. You are very attractive and (since I'm straight, it's only my opinion) but Brian isn't repulsive.
2/9/2006 12:23 pm
Hi you guys, and thanks for wanting to join our network. We usually don't accept people who don't have albums but you sounded very sweet in your profile and you both look very attractive too.|
So anyway, we have been into a fairly open relationship since college and it has extended into married life becuz we are so comfortable and secure. All I can say for advice is never ever feel pressured into anything you are not up for as so many couples do. We have been to parties where the girls were only there to fulfill the guy's thing and they hated it. Start off slow like others have said maybe with just some flirting and some touching and then maybe some feeling and kissing. I find this works for guys and girls so we always start slow with new friends. Its a chemistry thing as you already know, either ya got it or not.
So for me, I do like multiple partners for sex, mostly guys because it gets all the senses and juices flowing. I actually prefer two guys over two girls, I like more 1-1 with girls. I am hoping to set up a 3-guy for me soon but the guys have to be comfortable being all close down there and all ... some say they are and just aren't.
Anyway, best wishes, take it all slow and feel free to write me at phlyphuncpl at yahoo. My name is Lin and hubby is Jimmy.
1/10/2007 11:15 am
I'm a big chicken as well! I want it, until it get's to the actual date and then I just can't seem to follow thru. I don't know if that means I don't "really" want it, or if it's like I said before....I'm a Big, Fat Chicken!! Why can't I be like a guy and be able to f*** anything on legs???HAHA!!|