Which comes first sex or romance?  

fastandslow4u 53M
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6/23/2005 9:25 am

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Which comes first sex or romance?

Sounds like the "chicken or the egg" thing. However it is something that probably should be answered. In my opinion since physical attraction seems to be everyone's first "impression". I would make the presumption that sex comes first. "Lets get all the messy stuff out of the way so we can get to the good stuff". I happen to enjoy the messy stuff and being that every person is a unique individual our "criteria" is also unique.
Science has synthesize everything down to a very boring conclusion. Women seek out a man that will help her to produce healthy offspring and is capable of being a good "hunter". Being that we don't have to hunt for food except in a grocery store, "the hunt" has been replaced by how much we are capable of providing for a family. Men seek physically attractive women because they instinctually feel a "barbie doll" will be a more capable "baby producer". To this I say no wonder scientist are so boring.
Maybe just maybe we just enjoy sex and maybe when we do choose our mate it is because we "fit" in everyway. I'm sure everyone would agree with me that sex feels good and is pleasureable and our "species" do enjoy pleasure.
I believe that being that sex is part of a relationship, romance begins and grows as we begin to fit better together. When we wake up in the morning and look over at our partner and we know that we want to be with them. The true test is if you want to run back to your partner and they want to run back to you at the end of the day. You don't have to always be together, but you want to be together. If you can't wait to get away from the one you are with, then it can't be right.
Everyone has a choice and everyone is unique...thank God! Something I'm realizing is that even the most beautiful people, with the world in their hands...they get lonely too...they want someone to be with...and they don't always have sex or at least good sex. I'm sure they sometimes think...am I just a better blow up doll for the guys or am I just a better vibrator for the girls. We all have insecurities and we all deal with them in our own ways.

So endeth the blog!

DirtyLilSecret61 55F

6/29/2005 7:35 pm

I find myself more and more becoming attracted to a man's mind/intellect. Perhaps that's my age showing, I don't know. Now granted, I can't help but suffer from whiplash when a 'god' walks by I mean I am after all human. But I'm tired of the drop-dead gorgeous guys who can't stop talking about how much they work out, or how attractive they are and wouldn't I like to be with someone who looks like they do. Um, no, not really - not if you're constantly having to tell ME how great/gorgeous you are.

Sometimes, I think people with a vision loss see a person better than I ... they see the heart and mind.

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