Equality of profiles  

FanErotic6996 57M
917 posts
8/6/2006 5:50 pm

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Equality of profiles

I saw an advice article today regarding whe differences in profiles - that guys with crap profiles get crap thrown back at them (when asked for others opinions)but the ladies get cut a break.
So I reviewed some profile intro lines and tossed out a question to see if the women responders would be impressed with the lines I saw. I am awaiting the response as there will be a follow up to this blog post and the advice line.

Over time as I haved viewed womans profiles I noticed a few things that would make me go hmmmm

such as
still trying to figure out if the profile that i read that said - like candles/soft music/massages etc but then said foreplay is overrated - was a lie or just confused

and really liked the one that implied - my husband is a great guy who takes very good care of me and the kids and buys me whatever I want - but I am dying for a huge cock - who can help fill me up with one

The other profile issues I have are very similar to what the women always complain about -
the typos, the crass wide open pussy shots ( verus dic pics), the template of who you are that shows no originality, the ideal person described in 2 lines, the prefer not to say responses.
The question becomes not what is wrong with these guys but rather what is wrong with these people.

There is a double standard as the women can usually get away with it - and maybe that is only fair since men have had the upper hand in many other areas of life for years (though it is changing - which is good)

In the interest of equality - I just wanted all to know that the piss poor profiles are inhabited by both sides of the sexes.

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8/6/2006 6:39 pm

You are absolutely right about this.

rm_wetfingeraz 54F
3012 posts
8/6/2006 7:31 pm

I agree. Even my profile sucks, but I'm too lazy to do anything about it.

FanErotic6996 57M
1019 posts
8/8/2006 1:15 am

Wet - your profile certainly does NOT suck - you did take the time to really talk about yourself and ideal person, nice pictures and information -

Sorcha - that is a very interestingobservation regarding the change in photos in a group environment - I think as you have good discussion threads you probably dont want to be letting it all hang out at the same time

I think the issue with the dic pics is that guys get more views ( quite possibly from other guys) but in polls taken the women almost always say let me see a face or chest type shot.

I think the profile is a huge factor in deciding to take a chance on communicating with someone - for both sexes and probably more so for those that are a wee bit older such as myself.

I did an advice line question the other day and got ripped to shreds for it - I said had reviwed several mens profiles and these were the intro lines - would they work
Now some people thought I was using or considering them - NOT and others just said how bad they were
The follow up to that question was that I had in reality taken female intro lines from the most popular members ( i.e. most viewed) and changed them slightly to make it appear that they were from guys
I havent checked that advice line tonight but I am sure there are many more bad comments - basically I was just trying to throw off everyones perception a bit - but I dont think many realized what I was attempting to do - go figure.
Bottom line is male or female - there are thousands of people with very poor profiles and it is no wonder that they cant meet up with someone if that is what they are attmpting to do.
I'm not trying to meet anyone but maybe I should reread my own - haven't changed it in a long time and maybe with the new insights I should.

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LapALotta 54F

8/10/2006 1:18 am

fan, people tend to go with what they think sells and will attract attention. Unfortunately for most of us, we sometimes forget that a legion of attention isn't necessary if it isn't the type of attention we desire.

As for complaints about your advice line post, as a friend of mine says "there are always haters". You make a good point and went about it in a great, logical fashion. Not everyone wants to be called out on their stuff, so that's their deal not yours.

You think outside the box and present thoughts that others barely touch on. Your mind is one of your most attractive qualities. Don't let the turkeys get you down.

FanErotic6996 57M
1019 posts
8/10/2006 2:11 am

Lap - you're making me blush - thanks for the kind words - saw your post in the group - I cant believe either we have both been on SAOB so
I heard from Wanna the other day - she is pretty much gone from AdultFriendFinder and looking at other venues

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passionatechik5 42M/40F
14 posts
8/16/2006 1:31 am

I have to say a bit about this...

First of all, about the double standards, of course we can get away with it! Women are the gatekeepers of sex, we can get sex anytime and anywhere, and there are a lot more men out there than women. So, for about every 25 emails a guy sends out, there's about one response back. Are you really going to bring that up? A woman with little on her profile can still get laid...A man, well, poor sucker..

Second about the profiles or should I say lack of, I take myself seriously therefore,I protray myself the best I can. I think it's a matter of respect for oneself. I am very busy person and I value my time. I know what I am worth therefore, I have my own standards.

One story I have to share: Before, my profile had this pic that was bit blurry on purpose-the lighting was different so I thought it had a nice effect. Well, I emailed this one couple (who had most of their stats as "prefer not to say.") telling them that I was interested (since the woman had a nice body). They wrote me back saying if I don't mind sending more pics since my was a little "hard to see." So I responded with, "sure! Of course, do you mind filling out your profile a little bit more since I have a hard time reading it?" They never emailed me back...Hee hee..As a female, i can do this...

FanErotic6996 57M
1019 posts
8/16/2006 11:04 am

passionate - definitley their loss I think - and you are so right about the women ruling on here and being able to pick and choose - the good thing for the guys is that if someone can actually write something of interest it does have a much better chance of being looked at since it isnt the usual drivel that the females get.
I think your idea of knowing what you are worth should be a required statement in the fill out your profile section when someone creates one - it may make people stop and think a lot more. Thanks for all of you input too.

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