Thoughts on... dominance  

esm428 42M
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3/26/2006 10:14 am
Thoughts on... dominance

Looks like it's going to be a lazy Sunday - hopefully one or more of my friends will be online for chatting later, wink wink.

Anyway, a post over on needatrustysteed's blog got me thinking about asking what a partner wants, and dominance, and all kinds of stuff.

Thing is, I never would have found my dominant side if it hadn't been for one outspoken woman, in the last town I lived in - Y, I think I mentioned her before. Before I met her, I'd been the polite Midwestern boy I was raised to be, even in the heat of passion - the kind of guy who asks if it's OK to kiss you, if it's OK to put it in now.

But she really brought out my, what should I call it, my caveman side. She would happily tell me to talk dirty to her, tell her what a slut she was, give her orders - she got off on that a lot. And I realized that that instinctual sub-brain I talk about so much kind of liked that, being in control and taking advantage of the strength and weight advantage I have to bring even more pleasure to my partner. I'm not into BDSM or anything, but I definitely have a straight-talking streak that comes out when things get heavy. Yeah, I'd like you to do that. That too. Sure you want to. And I make first moves now, with more confidence. And I've found that a lot of women prefer that.

And I'd never have known if I hadn't met someone who wasn't afraid to tell me what she wanted.

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