Webster’s Dictionary defines gossip as 'often malicious talk; a person who spreads sensational or intimate facts.'
Now, if gossip is sure to end up hurting someone or several individuals, then, what motivates people to gossip?
There are many reasons why people feel compelled to gossip, therefore, humiliating and putting others down. Sometimes people do it out of spite, just because they can. Other times people gossip because they feel they will benefit from its end result, such as possibly looking better in front of the boss in a working situation. But the true, deep rooted reason, and psychological studies have proven it, is the feeling of superiority that results from such vicious spreading of information. The person feels superior not only because he/she feels that they have information to offer that the other person does not have, and we all know that knowledge is power, but also by gossiping about someone else, the gossiper feel as if he/she was a much better person than the subject of the gossip.
When I received an email, a phone call or even a text from a member regarding another member, I will confront the person spreading the gossip IF I KNOW HIM/HER. If I don't know this person, then I chunk it in File 13! They don't know me, and I don't know them so why bother stressing over it!?
Gossip is a destructive habit whether the information being spread is true or not. In fact, it's irrelevant. If people would mind their own business and deal with their own problems perhaps they wouldn't have time to be so interested in the lives of others. There are those that look for negativity in others simply so they can feel better about themselves. There may be other issues that cause one to gossip incessantly such as low self-esteem or an inferiority complex.
My pledge to YOU...when a member approach me with information about my friends, my fellow bloggers or another member. I don't listen. I will not be an enabler! I really don't care. HOW YOU TREAT ME is all that is relevant!
I am here to meet interesting people and to blog with my friends and blogville. PERIOD!
Please don't let the gossipers INFECT you with their feelings of insecurity and spite...you are so much better than that! Have a great Thursday!
I find that both men and women have hang ups or baggage from a previous relationship. Now, I have to pose a question...IF WE ALWAYS LEAVE OUR BARRIERS INTACT AND HAVE NO ROOMS FOR HOPE, BELIEVE, TRUST THAT THE NEXT PERSON MAY BE 'THE ONE', OR GENERAL EXPECTATIONS...then how will we EVER experience FRIENDSHIP, MUTUAL RESPECT AND DEFINITELY LOVE?
Don't be sorry for things you have no control over, that's not your fault. You may be the greatest woman in the world. Then again... I guess this is what happens when "the nicest guy in the world" (as I have been so often labeled) gets used and walked-on one too many times. The old adage about "getting back on the horse" holds less and less meaning each time it happens. Until finally you just shoot the horse and go for the 4-wheel drive. At least if I wreck the jeep, it was my fault and I don't have to worry about where the blame is going to be placed. (damned horse!)lol To answer your question though, only one word comes to mind: TRUTH What men want is the truth. The Truth about where we really stand with whomever we are with (or might be with) at that moment. We all know that nice guys finish last in this contest. And it is a contest since all women seem to go for is the "bad boys" first. Then laugh at the nice guys that are trying to get your attention with something other than the promise of best sex of your life or the biggest cock you've ever seen. Some of us DO live in the real world and we know that's just a smoke screen, but it puts them ahead of us every time. Answer me why that is? lol maybe in a different post... Let's face it, men want love, real love, just as much as women do. Yet we play these stupid games pitting one side against the other, trying to "put one over" on the other. Why? I'll tell you why. It's a defense mechanism. It's the "just in case I'm wrong about you, I've already got one over on you" strategy. The real question is why are we all so defensive? I know why I am. It's because of all the lies. The one thing I hope everybody gets is this: The Truth may hurt but the hurt goes away. Lies cause pain, real pain that doesn't go away and that pain is the first thing you feel when you think you might be on verge of a new relationship (it's called remembering the last time). In geek-speak it's called "last in, first out" and is one of the basic rules of operation of your computer. Think about it, men and computers aren't so different. So, Shields up! Man your stations and make ready all batteries! This is war we all fight. Ain't love grand?!?!?! lol
This man have a valid point and I find that the MAJORITY OF US fall into this position in regard to new relationship or starting over.
So, I ask again...where do we go from here? Can YOU be courageous enough to try again...FULLY KNOWING THAT BY PUTTING YOURSELF OUT THERE AGAIN...YOU RISK HEARTACHE, BUT YOU MAY GAIN SOMETHING SO SPLENDIFEROUS that it defies any attempt at describing it or quantifying it!
Jul 8, 2009 8:52 am Mood: Disheartened!, 779 Views
This was a disturbing read, but I couldn't refute anything that the article said...which in my opinion, was very sad and disheartening!
by Patrick J. Buchanan June 26th, 2009 Chronicles: A Magazine of American Culture
PALM SPRINGS, Calif. —In just a few weeks time, California hits the wall.
And Americans should take a good, long look at the fiscal and social wreck of the Golden Land , because California is at a place to which all of America is heading.
In May, when five fund-raising proposals were put on the ballot, Gov. Schwarzenegger pleaded with the overtaxed Californians not to make their state “the poster child for dysfunction.”
As The Economist writes, “On May 18th, they did exactly that.”
Arnold went to the White House for U.S. loan guarantees for new state bonds. But with the president’s approval rating wilting because of a belief he is spending too much, the Obama-ites slammed the door.
In Sacramento , a Republican blocking force is resisting any new tax revenue. And with the state under a constitutional mandate to balance its budget, yet facing a $24 billion deficit this July, a chainsaw is about to be taken to state government.
Some 38,000 of 168,000 state prisoners may be released. As Barack Obama is pushing universal health insurance, California will cut Medi-Cal for the poor. Education will be slashed, resulting in a shortened school year, thousands of laid-off teachers, school closings and an end to summer programs in a system that has plummeted from the nation’s best to one of its worst, as measured by dropout rates and academic achievement.
The 10 campuses of the University of California face cuts that may result in 50,000 fewer students and 5,000 fewer teachers.
What makes her fiscal crisis relevant to us all is not only that California is our most populous state, with one in eight Americans living there, but California has a gross domestic product larger than Canada’s.
Moreover, the demography of California today is the demography of America tomorrow, just as the social and fiscal policies of California in the last decade mirror those of the U.S. government today.
One-third of all U.S. wage-earners today have been amnestied from paying U.S. income taxes, as the top 1 percent haul fully 40 percent of that huge load. So, too, in California , the well-to-do and the wealthy are hammered, which is why many have quietly closed their businesses, packed and gone back over the mountains whence their fathers came.
Under George W. Bush and Obama, the U.S. government has undertaken huge new responsibilities: No Child Left Behind, Medicare prescription drug benefits, wars in Iraq and Afghanistan , the takeovers of banks and auto companies, bailouts without end and national health insurance.
California, too, spent lavishly in the fat years and issued bonds when state revenues did not cover the costs, bringing its once-sterling credit rating down to the nation’s lowest. So, too, U.S. Treasury bonds, T-bills and the American dollar are now increasingly suspect.
Demographically, California is where America will be in 2040.
White folks, who are leaving California as they did in the millions in the 1990’s, are below half the population. Hispanics, their numbers surging due to legal and illegal immigration, are well over a third of the population. The African-American share of California ’s population is also falling, as the Asian share is rising, again from immigration.
Los Angeles, which is what most large American cities will look like, is the most diverse city on earth. Has diversity been a strength?
In the prisons and jails, and among the scores of thousands in street gangs and the underclass, a black-brown civil war is underway.
In October 2006, the Financial Times reported the findings of the famed author of Bowling Alone on what diversity has wrought:
“A bleak picture of the corrosive effects of ethnic diversity has been revealed in research by Harvard University ’s Robert Putnam, one of the world’s most influential political scientists. His research shows that the more diverse a community20is, the less likely its inhabitants are to trust anyone—from their next-door neighbor to the mayor.”
“In the presence of diversity, we hunker down,” said Putnam. “We act like turtles. The effect of diversity is worse than had been imagined. And it’s not just that we don’t trust people who are not like us. In diverse communities, we don’t trust people who do look like us.”
“Professor Putnam,” said the Financial Times, “found trust was lowest in Los Angeles , ‘the most diverse human habitation in human history.’”
Richard Nixon and Ronald Reagan carried California nine times. But the state is now a fiefdom of liberalism. John McCain’s share of the vote was smaller than Barry Goldwater’s. California today believes in Big Government, open borders, diversity, multiculturalism and the politics of compassion. But what liberalism has wrought in California , its native-born are fleeing.
Still, where California is at, America is headed.
Californians who are running away from the communities and towns in which they were raised have Arizona , Idaho , Colorado , Utah and Nevada to head to. But when all of America arrives at where California is at today, where do the Americans run to?
What is your take on this? How do you feel about diversity? I used to believe that diversity was good...now, I'm not so sure.
I yearn for you each day…the nights are the worst…tossing and turning…wet and aching. MY touch is no longer enough. I yearn. I yearn for you. I yearn for a dream...I yearn for eyes closed in a face filled with desire. Lust rising, as what man didn’t love to see his woman on her knees in front of him wanting to give him pleasure…needing to give him pleasure…
I savored the feel of your heavy, thick erection in my hands as I alternately stroke and gently squeeze you. Desire spread through me as I silently screamed for your possession! Every visuals played in my mind was tightly woven with love … every thought filled with the need to feel more… to please you more…to give you more…EVERYTHING!
Hunger invaded, sharp and relentless as a need to feel you, to know the shape and texture of you, to have your shaft filling my mouth, and feel your need of me…for ME…fill my mind!
Leaning into you, one hand sliding up your inner thigh…the other massaging your balls. I licked along the broad head, a curling sweep of my tongue, teasing you a little … feeling the jerk, the pulse that followed as I licked you like an ice cream cone.
Your jaw was set, your hands balled into two tight fists…a mixture of such longing and restraint incredibly beatiful to see and such a sexy turn-on! You tried not to grab the back of my head and thrust yourself into my mouth…you recognize my need to be in control for the moment. I slowly and sensually strive to make you insane with my tongue laving and sliding over and around …exploring the hard length of you. Your breath left your lungs in a rush as I skimmed my mouth up and down the heavy shaft.
There was no room in my mind for anything, but bringing pleasure to you!
Keeping my gaze locked with yours as I part my lips with infinite slowness, taking you in…drawing the flared head into the moist velvet heat of my mouth!
IF only DREAMS can be MADE into FLESH!!!
I YEARN…I yearn for YOU!
So, blogville...do you have DREAMS? Did YOU liked MINE?
Hi everyone! Hope all of blogville had a great 4th of July!
I sure did! I had a great time with my kids cooking and just enjoying life! I love getting a chance to relax and watch Sci-Fi with them...or better yet let me rephrase that...my son is on my laptop playing Wizard 101, my daughter and I are watching Sci-Fi or Chiller...we also had a spa night where I taught her to appreciate the perks and fun of being a GIRL!!!
I teach my children to be the BEST at what they do...this is a personal competition. I do not accept mediocrity from my children because, TO ME, they are NOT mediocre...yet the best for them may not be the best to YOU. I look at what I think that they can achieve and push it higher. Yet, never trying to push so hard that they lose faith in themselves or their abilities...it is a very fine line and I'm constantly questioning myself about 'how hard' do I push!
To me, family and friends are everything! A few of my friends lately have really pushed the limits of what I call 'freebies'...this means that if you're a friend of mine...I don't expect perfection...intelligence yes, but perfection no. Therefore, any stupid acts or malicious acts will be forgiven as I don't GIVE UP on my friends either! I'm just loyal that way! However, it doesn't mean that I will overlook it or condone it!
Now, today...I read a post titled 'Battle of the Sexes' and it just rubbed me the wrong way! I mean...come on...we just went through this deal where we are examining our feelings and what we want...NO WHERE IN THERE FROM MEN OR WOMEN DID I HEAR ... I WANT TO BEAT MY PARTNER OR LOVER IN SOMETHING! NO WHERE DID I READ THAT ANY OF YOU WANT TO BE BETTER THAN YOUR PARTNER OR LESS THAN YOUR PARTNER...There is a REASON why the term 'partner' is being used in relationships!
I have no desire to be more than my partner. I recognize the fact that there will be things that I will be better than him at...maybe a better cook...maybe a better badminton player...maybe a better cocksucker! (Hmmm...now that I think about it...Lord I hope I'm a better cocksucker than HE is! Can YOU imagine the alternative! Aarrggghhh!!! )
However, these are all, generally speaking, they are certain type of skills that we bring to a relationship...one person's talent offsetting another person's talent! THIS is NOT about competition!
What are you're views on this? Do you want to be with someone who is constanting striving to beat you at all things just to prove that women are better than men or vice versa? Or do you want a relationship that is a MERGING of talents to create an exceptional and safe home filled with love and respect?
When I go to work...it is a constant battle and yes, at times...I feel like it is a BATTLE of the SEXES! However, from a woman who expect HER own PERSONAL BEST every day and her children's PERSONAL BEST everyday...and her friends and family PERSONAL BEST everyday...I just want acceptance, respect, affection, honesty and trust from the man that I adore! I don't need for him to be better than me on anything and I never want to bring the 'BATTLE OF THE SEXES' into my home or love life!
Happy Monday everyone!
P.S. BUT and yes, there is always a BUT...I wouldn't mind a Battle of SEX? Like how long can I rub my nipples against your chest or tease your cock with my mouth before you TAKE me as hard and as fast as YOU WANT!!!
IN the interest of helping my fellow mankind out! Y'all know how much I love y'all...the following are responses from somre pretty hot women taken from the Nice men play games too blog! I feel that they are answering many of the questions that I've seen my fellow male bloggers have asked in the past! I hope to reduce the 'hit and/or miss' statistics for men...it is all about YOU baby!
Musealchemy Direct and upfront is always preferred. I have no use for guys who don't know their own minds; who are holding off asking you out in case something better comes along; who get off on leaving you dangling. I just lose interest really quickly. Life is just too short to put up with someone who plays games for whatever reason.
Mind you the ones who amuse me the most are those who email you, you strike up a rapport, you might even meet up and it goes well and then just when you think wow playdate: nothing more happens. Then 6 months later they're back in your inbox claiming that they haven't been able to stop thinking about you, how hot you are and how much they want to meet up. I mean do these guys seriously think that any woman is simply going to sit there for 6 months just waiting for these guys to roll back up again????
You know damn well that they've been signing into the site regularly; you know they've approached a number of the women you keep in touch with and if you're that hot and they have been dreaming about you every night they could very easily have dropped you an email, sent a text or even picked up the phone.
Then they can't understand why you blow them off LOL.
Bbw4some1on1 Oftentimes if I tell a guy I'm not interested in response to his first email, then they respond back with anger & resentment because I'm not giving them a chance. So, I get tired of the hassle and a lot of the time I just don't respond to the ones I'm not interested in. Also, with the email limits imposed on Standard Members, I prefer to save my responses for people I am interested in. Then there are times when I am interested but don't have time to respond and the email gets buried in my Inbox & forgotten about or overlooked. So guys, sometimes it pays off to be persistent if that's the case.
I had a man hem and haw his way around directly asking me out last week - consequence was we did not go out. It was like he expected me to ask him if he was asking me out and I didn't. Don't dance around what you want to say. Just say it so I can answer directly.
Spicyhot456 Hi, I found that alot like to play games,get pissed if you don't share your cell number, even before you arrange to meet then. All given the date,time,place to see each other. Then if the chemistry is there and you want to follow thru, then numbers can be exchanged. Some may think Im a bit off, but it looks like phone number collectors here at times. I'd be happy to share, but lets meet first,right or wrong? Thanks,Spicy!
Earthywoman3 A straight forward direct approach is always preferable. That applies to dating, what you're looking for, i.e. just dating, FWB, LTR, etc. If it turns out that you don't reach feel it's a good fit for whatever you were looking for, say so, don't just drop under the radar. That's childish.
Ladies if there are any other responses that you want to contribute or explained further to help our male members be more aware and sensitive to our needs, please do so. Gentlemen if there are any other comments, insights or venting that you would like to share in order to help us ladies understand 'male speak' please don't hesitate to tell us! Thank you and have a splendiferous Sunday!!!
Ok...the great DEBATE!! What does a woman want stockings or pantyhose? Better yet...what does a MAN desires?
I was going through my lingerie drawers with V, and my daughter getting ready for a trip to Vegas. When my daughter asked me why I never wear pantyhose...better yet...why don't I have any pantyhose!?? I told her that I personally prefer stockings versus pantyhose.
I explained that I consider pantyhose an instrument of torture with incredibly unsanitary aspects!!!!!Think about it...two hose sewn together to a pair of granny panties...oh...ok...I forgot somtimes there is something called a 'control top'!!!! YOU can figure out WHY a woman would want a control top but I don't know of any men who would want that for their women! NOT to be gross, but I live in TEXAS...now imagine heat, humidity and ....well I'll let you fill in the blank on that one.
I very rarely wear hosiery of any type while on a date or relaxing at home! However, if I want to tease and seduce my date then yes...garter belt, stockings are my preferred ensemble underneath my dress...oh heck that is what I wear under business suit too, but well...
My French grandmother explained that a woman needs to feel DESIRABLE and DESIRED...how can one achieve the latter IF one does NOT feel the former?
I want to also state in my closing argument that I work out and I have pretty incredible legs...they are toned and smooth...in a garter belt and stockings...SEDUCTION personified...hmmm...no I don't see the same reaction in a pair of pantyhose!!! I don't care how tall a woman is or how long her legs are...if I'm standing in front of you in stockings and a garter belt and a taller woman is standing in front of you in pantyhose...I just don't see you going for the woman in a pair of control top pantyhose do you??
Jul 4, 2009 3:27 am Mood: Respectful!!!, 2524 Views
HAPPY 4th of JULY!!!!
AND 'the Price of Freedom is ETERNAL VIGILANCE!'
WITH 'I predict future happiness for Americans if they can prevent the government from wasting the labors of the people under the pretense of taking care of them.'
Both of these wonderful quotes are from Thomas Jefferson and I believe that they described PERFECTLY the state of country!
'We are so concerned to flatter the majority that we lose sight of how very often it is necessary, in order to preserve freedom for the minority, let alone for the individual, to face that majority down.' by William Buckley
'The best defense against usurpatory government is an assertive citizenry.' by William Buckley
So in celebrating our HARD WON Freedom from both Monarchy and Tyranny...remember what it was like to get to this point.
The United States IS the BEST country in the world and these four quotes are what I want to share with my children as we celebrate this 4th of July.
What are your traditions for this special day and do you have anything special that you want to share with your family and love one to commemorate more than just fireworks and barbecue?
The one thing that was brought up and I see this often...the lack of trust from men due to their prior history, and the expectation of implicit trust from women. Now, don't start tearing me apart until you finish reading this post...ok?
This is a copy of MY response to one of the member on the What Men really want blog.
I will share with you that often, TIME, is a commodity that I do not have in abundance. I've dated men who are single...I've dated men who are single and have a dog...I've dated men who are single with a child. The reaction are invariably the same...TIME.
The one aspect of my life that people claim that they will undertstand but eventually fail to do so. I've had men spy on me while I'm on Adult FriendFinder. I've had men spy on me through the blogs. I've had men tell me that they don't trust me. It is so funny because I DO treat the blogs as my very own venting forum or support group. Some men don't understand this. I even post disclaimers that I'm a huge flirt and not to be taken seriously!
Many men stated that I should be more harsh in my treatment of people that get out of line or that they feel are in love with me. YOU know something...I've thought about that. UNLESS THE PERSON IS POINT BLANK RUDE, CRUDE AND OBNOXIOUS! Sorry...I will NEVER hurt anyone or deliberate attack anyone BECAUSE THEY care for me! EMOTIONS such as like and love are so very rare in this world. If a person does something that evoke this feeling, then they are very blessed to have someone out there among billions of individuals who gives a darn about them! Therefore, should I as the recipient...MOCK or ATTACK that which is a gift? In this world which is so often filled with HATE and HYPOCRISY...I think a little love or even like is much welcomed! Just my honest opinion!
However, AGAIN, I will state that UNLESS I personally tell YOU that I'm in love with you or even like you...in person...then please let us keep a little bit of reality to this online situation...ok?
Now, I want to address the issue of TRUST. I will trust an individual UNTIL THEY GIVE ME a reason NOT TO. Please don't sit there and expect ME to ignore other men or women when YOU are constantly on Adult FriendFinder prowling the chat rooms or profiles...this is something that I find hilarious in the extreme. I've always been honest and upfront with men and women that I care about...yet, so often...the games continues. I will back away from it because I really don't want to be jerked around or get accused of playing a game myself.
I guess to many ... what I write on the blogs and what I post on my profile is me. The people who have met me can attest to that. I get to the point where I've accepted the idea that the man of my dreams doesn't exist. I am not only talking about fulfilling a fantasy or even a happy ending...I am simply stating the fact that MEN like WOMEN are full of barriers in today society. There are too many games and fakes being portrayed that after a while you become disillusioned. Your inner barriers refuse to allow any more incidents or individuals that may hurt you; thereby, slowly but surely reducing your chance to truly meet someone worth while because the person may be right in front of you...yet will not be given a chance. To me, that is the saddest situation of all.
I look forward to meeting you and getting to know you...I agree with what you said, but you know...in regards to appearances...it is sad to note that we look our best during courtship, but once the desire relationship is attained...we let ourselves go. So I often wonder if, we as a specie, are inherently into the chase...the hunt...and not the culmination/attainment of our goals. What is the next challenge so to speak.
Now, it is very difficult for me to continue to offer trust when I'm not receiving that back. I work long hours and when I'm involved with someone...I'm available to them at all hours. They can call my cell or my home and I've even been braved once in giving someone my work number. Therefore, I feel that these attacks are unjustified. AND I eventually grow weary of it. I have had ONE man told me that he didn't trust me! Yet, this is also the same man when we were seeing each other who were on several sites and were still active on all of these sites. We used to blog together, but that was a mistake because teasing and joking around with the man that you are with on here just doesn't work too well.
Therefore, I will agree with several members remarks about we are co-habitating the same planet since I think we BLEW UP BOTH Mars and Venus! OR it could be that the Martians and the Venutians kicked us out because we WHINE too dang much!!!!
I just received a disturbing email and I did take the writer's advice in reporting it to Adult FriendFinder. The support group was very courteous and are looking into it right now.
However, I do want to thank this gentleman for being so very honest and kind to let me know and I want everyone to be careful in regards to their accounts.
Hey you,
I was minding my own business just a few minutes ago, visiting busty's blog, clicked on a pic in one of her posts, and was suddenly inside your profile (___ emails) WTF!?... Sorry y'all don't need to know how much emails I receive per day. so sorry for the intrusion, unintentional though it was... i've have heard of this happening but never gave it much consideration... anyway, finding myself on your homepage was a bit disconcerting, and if the shoe was on the other foot I certainly wouldn't care for some stranger creeping around mine... obviously some technical glitch, but a serious one to say the least, and one you may want to report to big brother...
fortunately, you can rest assured I have good manners, and needles to say I did not linger (well, perv that I am must confess I did look at your pics, but that's all), or otherwise mess with anything.
oh, as an aside, a lovely story, my dear... if you ever find yourself stuck in Atlanta, it would be my pleasure to share a laugh or a coffee, or whatever... just sayin'...
V and I were arguing over several things when I logged onto Adult FriendFinder and read a response to the Nice Men Play Games too blog.
A member amoldenough posted a comment and I noticed this phrase in her signature area.
"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."
Isn't that saying awesome!!! We were discussing the merits of this phrase when my sweet and wonderful 8 years old came into my bedroom to inform me that he wanted me to play Madden 08 with him. At THAT particular moment, V asked me to give her until 'six' ...yet it sounded like she said 'sex'!
I stared at her for a moment and so did my son! I whispered to her to stop saying that word and of course, V being V, asked what...'six'? (again, we heard 'sex'!)
MY wonderful son said, 'HELLO! I am standing here!' with this superior and aggravated look on his face! So, I tentatively asked him...'What did you think V said, baby?'
HE SPELLED the word out for us 'S - E - X...you know SEX!!!!!!'
V and I looked at each other we very timidly asked him if he knows what that meant? (Please God if you love me at all...please...please...please don't let me hear the dreaded phrase...sure, mom, what would YOU like to know about it?!)
My son said and I quote 'DUH! Everyone knows what that means!' before walking disgustedly out of the room!
V and I waited until he was upstairs before we fell off the bed laughing!
I know that I'm a coward AND I WILL build up my courage to speak with him about SEX either tomorrow or for sure this weekend! I just need to do some research (NOT ON SEX!!!!) but how to EXPLAIN it to an eight years old before freaken myself out!!!!
ANY suggestions? PLEASE Suggest something!!!! ANYTHING!!!!
The responses were incredible and it speak to me on so many levels! Now, many of the things that were listed as what MEN want...I know that my girlfriends and I have discussed these items extensively...yet if Both gender want the same things...then why are we living on Venus and Mars, respectively?
What does a man really want? Well, I can't speak for all men, I can only speak for me. What do I really want? Yes, I want someone that I can be myself with, someone I'm so comfortable with that I can confide my feelings, fears and hopes without feeling vulnerable. I want someone that I can talk to but also someone that I want to talk to me. It's not that I want someone to put up with my guff or not put up with my guff but to understand why I'm perturbed about something or what's motivating my perturbation.
I want my equal. I want someone to help me see the different dimensions of the world and to stimulate me to think and feel in ways that I wasn't born or raised to. It's amazing and frightening when you experience this awakening and are able to see yourself through someone elses eyes.
It's funny. As we age, what we're looking for seems to change. In our 20's, we're looking for playmates that we can hang with coming and going as we please. In our 30's, we're looking for companionship as we seek more stability and look towards building a family. But where I'm at, in my 40's, there's a desire to find a partner, someone who is more than a playment and companion but someone that stimulates my mind, body and soul.
Yeah, this probably wasn't what you were looking for but it's the way I interpreted your question.
All that I can say is WOW! Where have this man been all my life?!
What I want from a woman is the following (which I previously shared on another's similar blog post): -Full body contact hugs -Long, slow, deep, wet kisses (description borrowed from the movie "Bull Durham") -A smile that says you're genuinely glad to see me -Stimulating 2-way conversation (I want to know what you think just as much as I want you to listen to what I think) -Sincere affection (public displays are welcome) -Appreciating who I am -Allowing (not expecting) me to appreciate who you are
Honesty, trust, confidence and all those other traits are part and parcel of the things I've listed.
All that I can say is how similar this list is to what my girl friends and I desire.
So what went wrong? Why can't both gender understand and appreciate the VERY things that they BOTH desire and want? Where did the communication break down at? I really wish that I can understand.
The following men are also on the What do Men want blog...all are uniquely similar and so very honest!!! Thank you y'all made my heart melt as I read all of your responses!
My girlfriends said...hey...come out to TMZ...It'll be fun. We promise!
It was...met some awesome people...learn several new pole dancing moves from a great woman named Becky! I also had an opportunity to relax and melo out!
I saw several men and women whereby I wanted to personally asked them to please put their clothes BACK ON! But HEY! Who am 'I' to judge?
I had this annoying woman who bothered me the entire NIGHT for Daytona tickets, but I was good at ignoring her! She also hinted at my babysitting for her this weekend...which I didn't MIND because I happen to like her child!
THEN, I had to deal with a friend who hated Brady AND the Patriots! WHAT is UP with that!!!??? HEY for the HATERS...Kevin O'Connell is the backup for Brady this year AND O'Connell was the team captain for 4 years at San Diego State with a passing yardage of 7,689 as well as 36 touch downs!!!! I want to remind y'all of Matt Cassell...last time HE played before taking over for the Patriots after Brady's 08 injuriy was in HIGHSCHOOL!!!!
Therefore, IF BRADY was to get hurt, then I feel confident that the Patriots will still go to the Superbowl with O'Connell!
Ok...after settling THAT...I left the club at 2:20am to hook up with some friends at IHOP! I was pulled over by a police officer for NOT staying within my lane! I swear I was not talking on the phone...H&S can attest to that as I was giving her a ride home!!! See how nice I was to her? Remember this, because we're going deal with this incident again!
The officer was a sweetheart especially since I didn't have my driver's license. He was very empathetic and didn't even issued me a warning, but let me go! I offered to kiss him, but he said 'oh don't do that' as he laughingly told me about the police officers in the area ... they are monitoring the road through the 4th in an effort to crack down on speeders and drunk drivers! Really cool man!!!
At IHOP, I got my favorite waitress (Venus)...remember the last meet and greet where Venus waited on us? Well, there she was again, she is always giving me advice as to my dates. I stole a friend's pancakes and not only did H&S threw ME under the bus with the being pulled over by an officer of the law...she tattled on my theft of the pancakes too...ALL FOR DAYTONA TICKETS!!!!!
I offered H&S my ticket, but then I was told that she needed another party to make it work for her!
Went to bed at 4 am and had the most amazing dream! At least, the Gods still love me!
Can YOU imagine the alternative! Aarrggghhh!!! 
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