Cunnilingus; A How to Guide for Oral on a Female  

eriedragon4 57M
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Cunnilingus; A How to Guide for Oral on a Female

What is cunnilingus?

Cunnilingus is the act of using the mouth to stimulate the female genitals. This can include sucking or licking the outer and inner areas of the vagina, and most often involves direct stimulation of the clitoris. Some women find cunnilingus to be the most satisfying sexual act. Indeed, a great number of women report that oral sex is the only way they can achieve orgasm. The mouth can create a uniquely intense range of sensations which many find unrivaled.

Here's How:

1. Get yourself ready. Make sure your hands are clean, and your nails are trimmed as you'll probably want to use your hands as well as your mouth on her. Shave your stubble–nothing kills the mood quite like sandpaper on her sensitive parts.

2. Consider bathing. If you're anxious about her taste or smell, suggest a romantic bath or shower together and then go down on her. You can also try a flavored lubricant or a dental dam (good for safe sex), which will mask her taste if you find it unpleasant (but try it first!).

3. Turn her on. A lot of women prefer to be pretty excited in order to enjoy cunnilingus. Take your time about it. Use your mouth all over her body–this will send her a message about what will follow. When she’s good and excited–her hips are thrusting and the moans pretty regular, head south.

4. Get comfortable. She can lie on her back, or sit back in a reclined position, with her knees bent and her legs spread. You can lie on your stomach with your head poised over her vulva, your arms hooked underneath her thighs.

5. Get the lay of the land. Take a good look at her genitals so you know what you’re doing. (Brush up on female anatomy first if need be). Your goal during cunnilingus is to stimulate her clitoris, but not at the exclusion of the rest of her genital anatomy. Use your fingers to spread her lips and take a good look at her clitoris, her labia, her mons, her vagina, her perineum and her anus.

6. Ease into it. A lot of women have very sensitive clits, so don’t attack her vulva as if it were a juicy ripe peach. Flatten your tongue and use wide slow strokes to explore her inner and outer lips, her vagina, and her clitoris. Imagine licking an ice cream cone. Start at the perineum and lick up and around her clit and back down the other side.

7. Check the hood. Most women prefer to have their clitorises licked through the "clitoral hood." This is a fold of skin that covers the actual glands of the clitoris, which is extremely sensitive.

8. Clit strokes. In general, women tend to like firm pressure and repetitive motion. Quick tongue flicks against the clitoris can be irritating. If you’re not sure, ask her to give you feedback while you try different kinds of strokes–circular, side-to-side, up-and-down. Don’t take it personally if she flinches–discovering what pleases is often a process of trial and error–just try something else.

9. Let her give you a hand. If you've ever seen her masturbate, you have some idea how she likes her clit to be touched. Ask her to show you now, or you can offer her your hand and ask her to demonstrate the kind of stroking she prefers by placing hers on top of yours.

10. Use your mouth. Take her clit in your mouth and gently suck on it. Use your mouth to suck on or nibble her labia.

11. Insert your fingers or a toy into her vagina (optional). When she’s good and excited, add some lubricant to your fingers or toy and gently insert it into her vagina. Move them in and out using short but firm strokes. Put your mouth back on her clitoris and lick her while you penetrate her.

12. Don’t stop. Women like steady stimulation, so don’t stop unless you need to come up for air. You’ll see the signs when she’s getting ready to go over the top–her moans, her thighs pressing against your head, her body arching, her hands tightening on your head! When the orgasm washes over you, she’ll let you know when to stop.

13. Come again. If you’re up to the task, you might want to ask her if she wants more, as some women can move into another orgasm with steady stimulation. You can always try a vibrator or masturbation if your tongue is too tired.

Tips:

1. You can also incorporate the perineum and vaginal opening into your oral sex. Let your tongue travel down and pop in and out of the vagina occasionally.

2. She might prefer to work the dildo or vibrator inside her while you're licking. This allows you to concentrate, and her to get the rhythm she likes best.

3. If your mouth or tongue tires, give it a rest, but replace the stimulation with your hand or a vibrator (unless she wants a rest too).

4. It can take women longer to come than men, and many women are anxious about this. Whatever you do, don't make her feel bad about how long it's taking, and hang in there for the long haul. She will be forever grateful if you do.

Techniques to better cunnilingus

The clitoris is central to female sexual arousal, as it contains most of the sexually charged tissues in the body. The logical first step for many lovers, therefore, is to directly stimulate the clitoris right off the bat. The catch is many women will not be very responsive to this jump-for-the-clitoris approach. Take things slow at first, kissing and licking her stomach and thighs, then the area around her clitoris. Build her arousal level slowly, gradually increasing pressure and speed with your mouth. Once you know she’s aroused (i.e. if she’s told you or motioned so) you can then move to the clitoris.

Many women enjoy a massage of the mons. The mons in the mound of skin which is found on top the pubic bone above the vaginal opening. Take one or both of your hands and carefully move the mons and surrounding area much the same way you would massage someone's shoulders. Be careful not to press too hard or make too wide a circular movement. As you manually stimulate the mons, you can move your mouth to the vulva. When soothing her vulva with your tongue, you may wish to concentrate solely on the clitoris after some stimulation of the labia or you may wish to lick the surrounding areas. Some women need constant clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm so ask your partner what she would have you do. Clitoral stimulation can be exciting but don't be too eager.

Spend some time kissing, licking, caressing, and nibbling her body, all over, avoiding her genital area at first. Spend some time tracing her body, with your mouth and hands, exploring, all over, with your lips, tongue, and hands, using your teeth to gently nibble on parts of her anatomy, every now and again. Get her use to your touch, while you become accustomed to how she feels and to the aroma of her skin. Gently discover what she likes and dislikes. Be sure to read the cues of her excitement, if she responds well to certain things, certain place, areas, spots, being licked, kissed, caressed, nibbled, whatever, continue. Getting her aroused is important, before any genital stimulation begins.

When you’re ready to transition from foreplay to cunnilingus, take a moment a moment for you both to adjust to the feel of having your face near her genitalia, gradually narrow your attentions to the entire area of her vulva. Slowly begin, perhaps, with gentle kisses, gradually getting firmer, as you feel her lips tense from arousal. Slowly trace the outskirts of the vaginal lips, with your tongue, working your way from its outer lips to the inner one, as she begins to open up more and more for you, employ some long, slow, languorous (lazy), licks, gradually increasing your rhythm and speed as the vagina begins to adhere more to stimulation. Vary your motions between circular and side-to-side movements, between quick flicks of your tongue and furious humming (shaking), with your lips. Note, if you find that she is responding positively to being licked, kissed, touched, sucked, in certain areas, spots, then, spend extra time there.

The way that you use your tongue is important. Provide different textures by altering the natural flex of your tongue. When your tongue hangs limp and flat, it provides a soft caress. When your tongue is flexed and rigid it provides more direct and firm stimulation. Try some of each and determine which your partner prefers. Some women will want rapid motions of continuous licking while others prefer long, slow caresses. When you’ve found, a rhythm that works, that she likes, continue with it, most especially, if she is on the crest of crescendo. You don’t want to stop something working really well. You can go away from it for a bit to prolong anticipation and further built her tension for an ultimate release and a more intense orgasm, but make sure you go back to it.

Lubricants are usually thought of in terms of penetration only, but they can add excitement during cunnilingus as well. You can try a nice water-based lubricant, such as Astroglide Strawberry. Lubricants come in a wide variety of flavors and help protect the sensitive tissues of the vagina during stimulation.

When a woman becomes sexually aroused her vagina balloons and her uterus rises. Women often enjoy the feeling of penetration during oral sex. This penetration can be well-lubricated fingers or a dildo. While there is a wide selection of dildos on the market, some men may feel uncomfortable using a dildo that resembles a penis. A great solution to this problem is the E-glass line of dildos. The elegant design of these glass products allows them to double as inconspicuous art that can be kept on the shelf as opposed to hidden in a drawer. Gently follow the natural curvature of the vagina for smooth entry. If you find that it's a little difficult to coordinate everything you should try the Accommodator. You've got to see this one to believe it. It's a chin-mounted dildo. What will they think of next?

Positioning for better cunnilingus

Before launching into a detailed discussion of techniques, let's consider the range of possible positions for cunnilingus. Each position will be uniquely satisfying, so it is best for you and your partner to experiment and determine which one(s) you prefer. Most couples begin with the woman sitting in a chair or on the bed. This gives full access to the genitals and support to the back so that the woman is relaxed and her hands are free to stimulate herself. The partner performing oral sex can lie or sit facing the woman, free to use his or her hands for stimulation with the fingers.

Another popular position is for the woman to squat on all fours over her lover's face as she or he is lying down. Some people prefer this position because it allows a woman to move her pelvis to accentuate the stimulation. This position also allows a couple to mutually stimulate one another (the so-called ‘69’ when it is performed each partner at opposite ends. If you are a more meticulous giver of oral sex, you may not like this position because it is difficult to place your tongue right where you want it. Couples who wish to engage in playful dominance-submissive role playing might like to try standing while the other partner performs oral sex on his or her knees.

In recent years, toys have been produced to mimic the sensations of cunnilingus. Introduced by Lady Carlston, The Tongue, is probably the most popular of these toys. The Tongue can be the perfect addition for couples who want to add to the sensations of regular cunnilingus, or for women who want to continue when their partner is not around.

Remember all, that there is not one proven method, technique that works for all, so it is important to communicate, ask her what she likes prefers. Try different techniques, rhythms, tell you find what works the best, and remember to read your response cues, if you find that she like something continue with that. Always start slow, avoiding direct clitoral stimulation at first, unless otherwise directed, and remember it is not quickness of your tongue that counts, but how well you respond to what her actions tell you.

More Notes on Performing Cunnilingus

Eating a woman's pussy is about the most wonderful thing you can do for her. It makes her feel loved, admired, sexy, and of course it makes her cum like crazy. Many women prefer it to intercourse, and for most, it is the easiest way to cum with a man. You may have the littlest dick on the planet, but if you give great head, you will be appreciated as a fabulous lover. Yes, it's that important. Besides, lots of women expect it these days - you might as well know what you’re doing.

First off, guys seem to have a strange love/hate relationship with women's genitalia. Guys that can't wait to get their dick into one are often reluctant to put their face "down there". For every guy who says he loves to eat pussy there's another one who's squeamish. Women know this, and it affects their ability to lay back and enjoy the experience. There is nothing more exciting to a woman than to know that her partner finds her delicious. Don't be coy; tell her. When a guy fingers a lady and then smells, licks, sucks the juice off his finger and sighs as if in heaven, she knows this is her lucky day.

What if your sweet lady doesn't smell or taste very sweet? Don't suffer. (Don't complain, either.) Take a nice hot shower or bath together. Lather up both of your bodies and slide them together. It's like a whole body fuck. Soap up her vulva, washing between her outer and inner lips. Spread her lips apart and gently wash her clitoris. Hey, don't stop - this feels great! Run your soapy hand down the crack of her ass, and rub a finger all around her anus. You can stick one finger in and wash around inside too, if you anticipate any anal play, and I suggest you do. But don't put those soapy fingers up her vagina. Instead, rinse them off well and stick one or two inside, making a circular motion. Think about washing the inside of a tall glass - same thing. Now wasn't that fun? And now you can feel free to let your tongue wander anywhere it pleases...

So now what? You've found a comfy spot to play, you've been kissing passionately, your tongues darting around each other's mouths like playful otters. You've moved down to nibble one of her hardening nipples and she's starting to groan, grinding her pelvis against your stomach. STOP. I know it was just starting to get good. But was she really groaning and humping you, or was it your own excitement you were detecting? I strongly prefer to be excited before a guy starts plunging his tongue into my inner recesses. Use your judgment, and kiss, lick, and fondle your way down her stomach, up her thighs, until she's arching up her back trying to get you to eat her. Of course, if she really was groaning and grinding, go for it...I also don't particularly enjoy a guy endlessly nibbling my inner thigh while my clit is quivering in anticipation.

POSITIONS

If the woman you are with is somewhat hesitant about your going down on her, start off with her lying on her back, perhaps half-sitting. Lay down between her legs, with her legs over your shoulders. She may enjoy laying or sitting at the edge of the bed with you kneeling. She can also straddle your face, but be prepared to get very wet. There are endless varieties of positions where you can press your face up to her cunt, some of which strike me as more acrobatic than erotic, but feel free to experiment. And then there's 69...

69 is one of my favorite positions. On the plus side, you both get to enjoy the sublime sensations of getting head, simultaneously. The upside down positioning of a woman's pussy and your mouth is an easy fit and there's more room for your hands. On the negative side, it's a less than ideal position for a woman to give head. Plus, if you need to read this article, you may be better off concentrating your energies on pleasing her, without too much distraction. But even for experienced 69'ers, it's easy to short-change your partner. "It feels soooo good, I'm just gonna stop for a second and concentrate on what you're...aaaarrrgghhh". Get the picture? Some show of will-power is in order.

69 can be done male on top, female on top, or side by side. The latter two are easier, though it's more restful with both partners lying down. Some women love being licked on all fours, so if female-on-top 69 drives her wild, take the hint and find some other ways to eat her in this position. I happen to enjoy male on top, but for many women this is a sure choking position. If a woman can, or wants to try, to deep-throat you, this is THE position. When her head is thrust back you can really slide your cock all the way down her throat. But don't forget what you're supposed to be doing!

So there you are staring at it - the mysterious hole from whence you came, and into which you hope to cum again... First, an anatomy lesson...

THE CLITORIS

Before I go any further, a few words about the clitoris, accent on the first syllable. Most of you know it, but for those who don't, it is THE woman's sex organ, period. It may feel great to be fucked vaginally, anally or otherwise, but if the stimulation is not right there, on the clitoris, you're ignoring the place that's going to make her cum, and presumably that's why you're reading this, right? It's right there at the top juncture of her inner lips, a small knob of pink flesh. This is where it's at boys, and don't forget it. Almost any licking and sucking of the labia or vaginal entrance is going to feel just dandy; just remember that this is pleasurable teasing, not the main event. I can't tell you how many guys have thrust their tongues up my vagina thinking that this was going to make me cum. They were wrong. Of course, with a little manual stimulation....but I'm getting ahead of myself.

Women feel differently about how much direct stimulation they can take on their clitoris. Some women will adore it if you suck hard on their exposed clits, others will shriek in pain. You may encounter a woman who is completely unable to take direct stimulation of her clit; the goal is still the same, but you'll have to stimulate it indirectly, such as through her labia. IMPORTANT NOTE: Often, what is unacceptably rough at first may be fine after she's very excited. The fact is, most women really need a good bit of stimulation before a targeted attack on their clitoris, but once they're there, that's where you want to devote your attention.

The key here is go slow, ask questions, and if she's comfortable with it, leave the lights on and really explore. Body language often does tell what feels best, but I promise, she will appreciate your attentiveness if you ask outright. If she seems shy, get her to guide your hands and mouth with her own hand, and pay attention. If she starts bucking up against your mouth and gasping in ragged little breaths, for God's sake, don't use this opportunity to try something different. Just keep doing exactly what you're doing.

THE TONGUE

I want to reiterate, there is almost nothing you can do that won't feel terrific, so relax! I promise, you may be confused and uncertain, but she's in heaven. Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris, or anal area is going to feel just great, and I'd no sooner tell guys to "do it exactly like this" than I would tell every chef to follow the same recipe. But for those who are compelled to RTFM, here are a few techniques that you might like to try:

• Try lapping her pussy from vaginal entrance up to her clit, leaving your tongue soft and jaw relaxed. This is a good way to start your tonguing.
• Run your tongue between the inner and outer labia on one side, while holding the two together with your lips. Good job, now do the other side.
• Fuck her pussy with your tongue with your tongue - in and out, around and around, etc. This feels nice. Not wonderful or incredible or earth-shaking; nice.
• Spread her outer lips with your hand. Then, with your tongue pointed and stiff, gently flick here and there. Feel free to roam, but keep coming back to her clit. This drives some women wild, and others can't take it. Some may prefer that you always leave your tongue soft, so when you try this, pay attention to whether those moans are ecstasy or pain.

The following techniques should not be introduced until your partner is really hot (i.e. she's no longer coherent). These are very intense actions which may be "too much" for some women, even when nearing orgasm.

• With her clit still exposed, give it a quick little suck - pulling it into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This is a lot like licking a bit of cake batter off of your pinky. This feels incredible, and is a fine thing to do if you feel like torturing her (see PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER below).
• Take her exposed clit into your mouth and gently (at first, anyway) suck on it, simultaneously flicking your tongue over and around it. This can be done very lightly or very aggressively, and combined with fingering, will usually rapidly produce an intense orgasm.
• Another choice technique involves rolling your tongue into a tube. If you can't do this with your tongue, you can't learn it - it's genetic. For those who can, this works best in an inverted or 69 position. Roll your tongue into a tube around the shaft of her clitoris. Slide it up and down; in effect, your tongue makes a tiny pussy for her clit to fuck. This also is likely to bring her over the edge.

FINGERS

Fingers are a valuable adjunct to eating pussy. Most women masturbate by pressing a finger or fingers over their clit, possibly "thru" the skin of their inner or outer lips, and vigorously rubbing in a circular or back-and-forth direction. You can do this too, and it is most helpful to ask, or better yet, have her show you how she likes it done. You will never be a good lover until you can bring your woman to climax with your hands. When you fuck her from behind, or up her ass, or really in any position which doesn't allow her to simultaneously rub her vulva against your body, reach down or around and rub her clit. I know it's distracting, but just do it anyway. One important point to note: make sure that your fingers are well lubricated. There is nothing more uncomfortable (and sometimes downright painful) than a dry finger roughly rubbed across one's clitoris.

Of course, that's not all you can do with your fingers. One technique which is very exciting is to spread her lips wide apart with one hand, and with your index finger straight like a pencil, flick the side of it rapidly across her clit. This motion alone will often bring a woman to orgasm. Combining this with the addition of some tongue action elsewhere is nothing short of bliss.

Sticking one or more fingers inside her vagina is also wonderful. You can simply move them in and out (this feels best with at least two or three fingers, pushed in hard), or wriggling them around. A particularly intense motion is to face your hand so that you have two fingers inside her with your palm facing the front of her body. Now move your fingers rapidly, as if waving hello. You are aiming to stimulate a particular part of the woman's vagina - namely the lower anterior (front) part. When combined with sucking her clit, this is nearly certain to bring her to a fast and intense climax.

An excellent way to begin manual stimulation is to stick one (and later two) fingers inside her, with your palm cupped over the mons area. I'm talking about that fleshy "mound" over her pubic bone. Your finger goes in and out and the ball of your hand is pressed hard against her vulva. You may want to rub or even shake the entire area with your palm.

Fingers also do nice things to tight little butt holes, but that's a whole other story...

ANAL PLAY

This stuff is purely optional. If anal play doesn't turn you on, don't do it. If you're uncomfortable, she'll pick up on your feelings and start wondering if it's her @#%$ that's turning you off. Don't feel that you can't be a good lover without anal play; you can.

Cleanliness is of the essence. (remember that nice soapy shower?) Scoop out some luscious juices (from a very wet pussy) with your finger and rub it around her anus. (If she isn't well lubricated, saliva works too.) If that's all you or she feels comfortable with, fine - it still feels great. But I think most women enjoy the feel of a finger pushed up their ass while they're being fucked or eaten. You need to be gentle, possibly even leaving your finger still. Try moving it in and out a little, or around in a circle. If she starts moaning, you know you're doing something right.

It's really fun to feel a woman's anus rhythmically squeezing your finger as she cums. (And it's great for her, too) You're probably thinking about what that would feel like around your dick, and it's something you should certainly explore. Ass-fucking is somewhat out of the scope of this article, but suffice to say, if she doesn't like a finger up her butt, she sure as hell won't want your big dick up there. Even if she does enjoy this sort of play, she may still be somewhat apprehensive about putting something so large up there. The keys to success are sufficient (i.e. copious amounts of) lubrication (a water-soluble type such as K-Y, which is safe for condoms), relaxation on her part, and a slow, gentle, approach. She'll certainly tell you if she wants you to thrust harder or deeper. And remember, if you want to feel that delicious squeezing around your cock, reach around and diddle that clit!

As for anallingus - why not? Don't feel like you HAVE to do it to satisfy your woman, But if the idea turns you on, great. Let your tongue rove as it pleases. It's not necessary to actually put your tongue inside her butt to stimulate the area. Back and forth, around and around, you get the picture.

One hygiene note: once that finger (or your penis) has been inside her ass, don't even think about putting it anywhere else. Carelessness in this regard can cause a horrendous infection.

MENSTRUATION

I haven't met a lot of men who are completely comfortable going down on a woman when she has her period. But some are. Most women are at their horniest before and sometimes during their period. You should definitely find a way to make her cum when she's bleeding, be it thru intercourse, manual, or oral stimulation. If you feel comfortable going down on her, great. It's perfectly safe. You may suggest that she insert a tampon, and then wash up. (As you now know, you don't need to get anywhere near her vagina to make her cum.) Or you could lay down a few old towels, turn out the lights, and forget about it.

PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

I think variety is crucial. Some guy posted an article detailing a road map of kissing and licking (first here, then here, etc.) Much better to do the unexpected; sometimes a hungry, aggressive approach, other times a laid-back, leisurely one. You can even include your nose, or your chin into the act. Start slow, that's the key, and let your lover guide the speed of the crescendo. In all cases, start gently. Roughness and clumsiness are big turn-offs. As she gets more and more excited, pay more attention to her clitoris. When she's three breathes away from cumming, moving your mouth off or away from her clit is agony. That's fine if you're intentionally torturing her, just understand that this is what you are doing. The only prohibition is to be reasonably gentle with her clit. Nibbling or biting is fine elsewhere, but we're talking about a sensitive spot.

Speaking of prolonging the agony... I think this is great fun. Bring your partner just to the edge of orgasm, and stop. This is not easy unless you really know your lover well. Instead, just have her help you. Say, "Grab my head and stop me just before you think you're gonna cum." Then take your sweet time. Blow on her clit, take it into your mouth just briefly, flick it just the very slightest bit. You will have this woman squirming and moaning like she's dying. Finger her deeply, enjoy the ecstasy you are imparting, and finally, have pity. Let the poor woman cum.

UUUUNNNNGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!! (or, I'M COMING!!!)

Okay, she's practically suffocating you, she's pressed so hard against your face; she's screaming and bucking up in the air; you feel her pussy contracting wildly - how long should you keep it up?? The simple answer is, until she makes you stop. Some women may stop you after five seconds from the start of their climax, others may be able to roll right into another orgasm if you keep going. Do come up for air, but remember, her excitement does not drop off as sharply as yours does. Play it safe by continuing the stimulation.

How many times does she need to cum? Some women are very content to have one orgasm. A whole lot of women would really like to cum again, but need about five minutes to recoup. Many women are so sensitive right after they cum that they may push your head violently away. This doesn't necessarily mean they've had enough, only that you need to stop for a few minutes. In fact most women, given a short rest between, are capable of cumming again and again. A smaller percentage of women are able to cum repeatedly with continued stimulation. This is the much-touted multiple-orgasm that is experienced by a minority of women. I know this makes it difficult to know when enough is enough, but there's a simple answer: ask her.

GOD I'M SO EXCITED IT FEELS GREAT BUT I JUST CAN'T COME

It happens to all of us sometimes - distraction, embarrassment, anxiety, or just an inability to "let go". What do you do about it? The first question is, can she easily bring herself to a climax in the privacy of her own home. If the answer is no - then she needs to do some homework. There are two books on the subject that I know of: For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality by Lonnie Barbach, and Sex for One: The Joy of Self loving by Betty Dodson; pick up one. Then tell her to read it, study it, and practice, practice, practice!

Now if your partner is orgasmic only when alone - ask her point blank: "Is there something different I can do?" Many women are shy about criticizing their lovers, but if asked outright will surprise you with a very specific answer. It may be a simple matter of mechanics, like a little to right please, or not so rough, or more pressure and faster. Ah... perfect.

But suppose everything is wonderful. She says you're doing everything right but she just can't cum. There are two probable causes: self-consciousness and/or self-loathing. For women who can't help watching themselves, the best approach is to eliminate anything that focuses her attention on what the two of you are doing. This is a "be here now" kind of thing - definitely not an introspective activity. Get that mirror off the ceiling. Dim the lights or turn them off completely. Put on some soft music. Share a glass of port. (I said A glass - getting drunk will definitely not help). Have her lay on her back, or propped up comfortably with some pillows. This is not the time for her to sit on your face, or the edge of the bed, or standing up against a wall. Arrange a time when you can devote a long period to eating her pussy, and then just keep it up. Forget everything I said about asking her questions - just close your eyes and get into it. I know this can be a difficult and exhausting exercise, but she will be extravagantly thankful for your efforts. It gets easier each time. If all else fails, get accustomed to masturbating together. Gradually begin to add your stimulation to her own, right before she's about to cum anyway. Over time, you can take over completely.

For women who themselves feel that their cunts are dirty or distasteful, all of the above methods may be helpful, but the underlying issue must also be addressed. I am amazed at how many women are ambivalent about their own genitals. They don't love "that part" of their body, and they can't believe that you would either. Yes, it is important to be clean. But clean means a daily shower which includes washing the vulva. It doesn't mean vainly attempting to remove every trace of smell or taste. The natural fragrance and secretions of a healthy woman are beautiful and erotic. Hopefully you agree (and if not, try hard to cultivate this attitude). When she learns to love her pussy, she will be infinitely more comfortable with your loving it too

Oh, and by the way ladys,
A dragons tounge is HOT!





eriedragon4 57M
1076 posts
6/19/2006 10:36 pm

    Quoting LadytoPleaseYou:
    My dear Dragon...I was at first appalled that you had stooped to writing "How to" manuals. But as I am sitting here in a puddle of my own juices, I must say that I have had a change of opinion.
thanks it was so long I thought people would be board,
but you all seem to like it even if it ws ment for the guys who stop by, here


LadytoPleaseYou 64F
5447 posts
6/19/2006 9:00 pm

My dear Dragon...I was at first appalled that you had stooped to writing "How to" manuals. But as I am sitting here in a puddle of my own juices, I must say that I have had a change of opinion.

PENIS CHARMING....where are you?


eriedragon4 57M
1076 posts
6/19/2006 9:02 am

    Quoting moonfire2u:
    My my dragon....I'm impressed with the amount of research that has gone into this I love a man who knows what he is doing...and does it well...

    kind thoughts,
    Moonfire
thanks I've alwys felt anything worth doing is worth doing well.
b)


moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
6/19/2006 5:04 am

My my dragon....I'm impressed with the amount of research that has gone into this I love a man who knows what he is doing...and does it well...

kind thoughts,
Moonfire


eriedragon4 57M
1076 posts
6/16/2006 11:56 pm

    Quoting Whispersoftly5:
    Damn! After reading this I so wish I was not alone tonight. I would love to try all these tips out! Right now!!!

    Whisper...
me 2 love,


Whispersoftly5 52F
15176 posts
6/16/2006 11:40 pm

Damn! After reading this I so wish I was not alone tonight. I would love to try all these tips out! Right now!!!

Whisper...


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