Everything about Anything that means Nothing!  

epd_pdx 43M
28 posts
5/4/2005 4:20 pm

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Everything about Anything that means Nothing!

My first blog... Wow!

Hi to all the surfers out there. This is my first attempt at anything like this at all, so pardon my grammatical and spelling issues as they occur.


Alright, I am a 32 year old man, and I have to say that womans heels, once with ankle straps, are one of the sexiest things a woman can wear.

The heels dont have to be high, but brown or black thin leather straps definitley enhance a womans appearance.

I keep trying to convince my wife that she needs to get some, but, I think the solution is that I am going to have to buy them myself. A royal pain, but hey, sometimes you just gotta get it done yourself.

I have to say, the professional women where I work always turn my head when they are wearing these types of shoes. I'm not sure why, but it looks great!


So I came to find AdultFriendFinder because my wife, whom I love a great deal, is convinced that she is not beautiful. After being married for 4 years, and once child together, we are happy, but she is just not 'exciting' in bed.

So, my question is, does low self esteem keep people from finding intercourse exciting? When you are down on yourself, do you not explore that part of life?

I have tried explaining to my wife a couple of things: 1) She needs to instigate sex occasionally, reinforcing my ego / self-esteem, and making me feel sexy and desirable; 2) Experimentation is fun, and we should try to play around with sex somewhat; and finally 3) She is very attractive, and she needs to get past her esteem issue, and start dressing and feeling better about how she looks.

I have attempted to purchase 'sexier' clothing for her, only to have it returned, because she feels too 'self-conscious' when wearing it. I have tried seducing her in exciting places, only to be rejected (albiet politely). I have talked with her until blue in the face about it, and she has only quit talking to me about how she feels.

I guess my real question is - Am I handling this wrong?

Anyhow, thats it for now... Hope you enjoy!


nurse11978 38F
8 posts
5/4/2005 6:08 pm

all i know is hen i had my son i was feeling the same way as ur wife was feeling i remember not feeling like was happy with the way i looked although ur attempts are good and kind to make ur wife understand that u still want her.but after she has been looking after a kid all day u just feel like a super model.hang in there
and what ever u say to her dont say that u will look eles were if u dont get it at home.kristy

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/4/2005 7:47 pm

I would suggest a surprise evening on the town and tell her that she must find the sexiest outfit that she can for it. I would then take her for dinner and drinks at a club afterwards. She may even surprise you with the heels if she knows that you are looking for a sexy evening. Of course, if you have kids, make sure that the babysitting arrangments are already made in advance.....


epd_pdx 43M
9 posts
5/4/2005 8:56 pm

Thanks for the great advice... Kristy, I can respect your position, and I do understand that. My wife and I both work, and we are both pretty tired by the time we get the kids in bed. I try to make sure she has down time, and the expense of my own... The point that I did not make clear, was that, I love my wife, and I (emphasis) think she is beautiful normally, and does not need the dress up stuff, but all I hear is, Im fat, why did you marry me, im not that good looking...

Meh - I keep trying...

Rose... Been there, done that, several times... Orchestra, Opera (my wife loves it - I cant stand it), Dinner, movies. I dont know what to do, so she understand my perspective.

thanks for reading my blog tho -


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