How can you tell if a girl is bi/gay?  

elle_gant1 45F
88 posts
5/6/2005 5:57 pm

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How can you tell if a girl is bi/gay?

My biggest problem in meeting women is that I have to have the worst gay-dar in the world. I abhor going to gay bars, and have been embarrassed way to often thinking a friendly girl I have just met is interested in more than just girl-talk. Help me out here, are there certain code words or something that would help me to identify a possible new friend? My ex had great gay-dar, a little too good as she used it to sleep with everything in a skirt.

ExcitedSenses 38M

5/8/2005 10:57 pm

I wish I could sleep with everything in a skirt too. So I feel you babe.

mnfun952 102M

5/10/2005 6:02 pm

I certainly wish I could help you out Elle - but something tells me that if a woman were bi (or even bi-curious)...10 minutes with you would have her panties wet and wanting to be tugged off with your teeth.

Enjoy your day,


DareDevil1LI 59M

5/10/2005 11:15 pm

You say you hate going to gay bars. I hear you, but how about going to a few to just *observe* the women there?
Pay close attention to the type you're most attracted to and see if you can pick up any clues that will be of help once you're back in the "real" world.
good luck!

elle_gant1 45F
78 posts
5/11/2005 7:09 am

Thanks MnFun, you're sweet

I might have to try your suggestion DareDevil, the problem is I am rarely attracted to the women in Gay Bars, too Butch for me.

TakesTeatsStood 50M
505 posts
5/11/2005 6:03 pm

Oh yeah - a buncha guys giving you advice, aren't we about the worst ones to be doing that?

I have a bi-friend and she says there are ways to tell - just the looks she gets from other women. But... she goes for bi-women, maybe there is a difference from bi and all out lesbian women, hell, I found out one of male co-workers is gay last week and I have known him for 8 years without a clue (other than being single he doesn't have any of the stereotypes that you would think of), so I really can't make much of a suggestion - lol.

mnfun952 102M

5/11/2005 7:07 pm

good observation Nick - and it's true - MOST people (gay, bi or straight) are really not about the stereotypes... I think it's more about trusting your instincts. Elle - deep down, I'm sure you know - but sometimes you have to take risks...sometimes you just have to ask.


elle_gant1 45F
78 posts
5/12/2005 4:40 pm

The point of this excercise mnfun was to find out a short-cut, so I wouldn't have to take risks. I guess that idea is shot.

Postingnick, the irony of only males answering this question has not been lost on me lmao

Thanks anyway guys, your all so sweet, to bad you aren't girls

ProFotoFreak 45M

5/18/2005 7:26 pm

My gay-dar is broken too. Except for the most obvious, I'm lost. Ditto when someone is attracted to me. I figure that one out about three weeks after they give up! LOL By then, they've got someone cuter and I'm left wishing I were smarter! *grin*

I guess that's why I always end up with agressive partners. Any suggestions on how to overcome this social idiocy?

playfulwithyou33 56F
961 posts
6/25/2005 10:36 am

(laughs at the irony as well)

CaboWaboVHnut 56M
637 posts
6/29/2005 9:43 pm

Elle gant1, I am male, but, straight males are really just lesbians trapped in men's bodies aren't we? Seriously though, I had a co-worker who's a dyke, not bull or diesel, but cute and had extremely good gay-dar. I miss working with and girl watching with her! It was great! If you'd like, I would be glad to try to get her email for you. She might have some great advise! CaboWaboVHnut, Take Care!

ShyCpl314 50M/38F

7/31/2005 12:32 pm

Gay-dar can be way off .... you can always ask!!

If she is offended, she is not very open minded, oui?

tiefenrausch2 46M

1/6/2006 11:57 am

If a gay guy walks up to me and asks me, whether I'm intrested in any kind of sexual involvement, I flush - even though I am straight as can be... Just because he just made me a huge compliment.
And you sure don't look like someone, who will draw any aggressions just for asking (-only from a respective boy- or girlfriend ). And by the way, have you ever had such a dissapointing experience, that you are now afraid of getting turned down? This is just a guess, but if yes, could it have been because you waited too long with the question, so that in your fantasy you already were with that girl? (hope this makes sense, english is not my first language)

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